poobaby's Journal, 28 January 2021

im a 53yo mom/gma with picky eaters also - i want to be down 100lbs by my bday in june, my motto "4myself, by myself" We can do this! 

You can do this, step by step. I suggest breaking your total weight to lose into mini-goals or phases. At least, I find it easier. 

laughingchevre same here. I find my goals are less intimidating when I break them into the smallest part possible. My overall weight loss goal seems big and scary. But when I break it into losing a pound a week it seems doable. Also if I lose more than a pound during a week I'm extra stoked! 

I hear ya? Just consider that setting a goal is good, but strive for a slow steady loss. It took years to gain the weight so only makes sense that it take longer to remove it than what you may wish for. That said, Welcome! 🥰 

You can do it by being dedicated and setting small attainable goals. Btw, you do have people to encourage you! Most of us on FS are or have been in situations where we need encouragement and it truly does help. We are here for u.  

It seems I’m always on this soapbox, but this time don’t think of it as a diet— it is a change in how you are CHOOSING to live your life. There are many types of programs out there that might suit your needs. Meeting with a dietician if you can, would be a good place to start if that could be arranged. If not, establish a calorie goal based on height, weight, activity level. You know the drill for a lot of it; but try to concentrate on healthier eating most of the time and less healthy or less conducive to helping you achieve your goal, just once in a while. We all have a favorite food or two that makes our life worth living— mine is breakfast. Try to build some favorite items into your eating plan once in a while in a portion controlled manner.. Deprivation is counter productive and does not work. Weigh what you are eating. We never really know if we are eating a real “serving” if we are used to just filling our plate and going back for seconds. You do need to be cognizant of exactly what you have eaten at the end of the day. That is where the FS program helps. It is completely less than perfect but it helps. You can do this we have some “big losers” here and I mean that in a good way. Very successful in achieving their goals and you can too—IF YOU REALLY WANT TO AND ARE WILLING TO PUT IN THE WORK AND BE PATIENT. think about some types of physical activity that you can start doing and progress in as you become more physically able. Look forward to following your progress.  

I have helped a number of morbidly obese people on their successful journey. The highest weight was 450 lb. she did exactly what I have been telling you and she lost 250 lb. in 2 years— not overnight. Another gal, 5’3 and just close to 300 lb lost 175 lb in a year. She did it by changing eating habits but also because she was doing this program with her obese 8 year old who ultimately became a runner and the mom joined in and became a training partner for her daughter. That helped a lot. I do not recommend that to many but the mom was committed to helping her kid. It all worked out super and none of these people regained their weight. 

Although my weight loss goal is different from yours, the struggle is very much the same! For me the biggest thing is saying NO to both my family and co workers when they offer me food I know is not part of my planned out meals. Planning out what I'll be eating a day in advance has helped me out tremendously. You got this! 

you got this I am here if you need to talk just message me. 

Hi, Poobaby. Just a suggestion, not a lecture. I'm assuming by your age that your kids are at least teens. I admit I'm an old school kinda mom. When my kids lived at home I kept to a strict food budget (I had to plus I was a single mom) and cooked 6 days (usually cooked multiple meals once or twice a week-no microwave then) because I worked & kids sports, etc.) a week and we went out 1 day a week for an affordable Chinese buffet. I had a meal rule, TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT. IF YOU LEAVE IT FINE BUT NO GETTING ANYTHING ELSE FROM KITCHEN. Otherwise they could get dessert, snacks, whatever. When they wanted pizza, fast food they had to buy it with their own money and get it themselves. They quickly tired of spending their $ on food and learned to eat different things and about nutrition. When they were in mid teens I was laid up for months with back surgery. I got so tired of complaining I taught them a lesson. They both had to plan nutritious meals for 2 days each week, grocery shop & stay in budget, cook and clean after those meals so they wouldn't trash the kitchen. They hated it at first but learned many valuable life lessons and I never heard another complaint. Use or lose any of that.😁. May the force be with you!💛  

every journey starts with the first step 

You’ve got this. Your FS family is right behind you. I deal with a family member who just wants junk food for meals, so I know the struggle. They sure like some of my cooking, though. 

You can do this! Plan for success. Weighing food with a scale and using measuring spoons and cups makes portioning doable. Calorie deficits matter. I'm sure you have probably "been there, done that". Not going to happen as quick as you might want but with persistence, it will happen. Up the exercise to keep toning. Some movement is better than none. Rooting for you! We all need encouragement! 

Kenna is right. it is a lifestyle choice to change. it can't be a diet, that is temporary. we have to acknowledge and commit to our health long term. you can do this!  

You can do this! Everyone in my family is thin but me. I prepare seperate meals for myself and do my best to ignore the chips, nuts, sodas, cookies and candy in the pantry. I'll be cheering for you. 

You got this!!!! You have given birth and raised kids.... 

You got this !!! 

I know how intimidating it can be when the goal seems so far away. I agree with others - one small goal at a time and each little goal doesn’t have to be to drop a pound...maybe the goal for a day or two is to increase your water intake or decrease caffeine, etc. I have found that, at least for myself, I have to stop thinking about this as a “diet.” I’m trying to just make better choices that I feel like I can sustain ling-term. For me, I can be successful on a diet but once it’s “over” I tend to creep back up. I have a similar family dynamic in that my husband doesn’t have to necessarily worry about his weight - however I’m slowly eliminating some of his less healthy food options by just changing the way I cook. Maybe having the conversation with your family that you want them to not have to experience issues as they get older, will help...or give them a challenge to at least eat similarly to you a night a week...then two nights down the line 🙂. We can all do this - we will have ups and downs along the way but that’s life and this is a journey. You go!!!! 

You can do it! 1 small goal at a time, one that makes you feel good. 

Don’t let the bad days rune it all. Get up brush it off and keep going. I have started 100’s of times. But that also means I have had 100’s fresh starts. Take it small . Step by step day by day