Hey new buddy! It is my experience that like a reason for the cheat meal is to keep your metabolism in check...at least for me my metabolism gets "lazy" if I am always "good".....so throwing it a cupcake every now and then will actually kick start the metabolism into gear. Good luck with the relationship choices and without knowing you are the "prospect" I can say only this(Not judging intended....some people are sensitive on hearing personal matters from strangers) No matter how long the relationship has lasted, sometimes they just do not survive our pre-thought notions. Like short stories that are good from the first to last page, and there are novels that seem to go for ever with endless chapters of let downs but you continue to read because you are vested in the characters. Struggles and triumphs are what make us and if you are in love I wish you the best with your choices.....if you are not in love...put that novel down because you already know the ending to the book and go pick up another book that inspires you. -Just a caring Fatsecret buddy with all things health,love,family