teskandar's Journal, 17 December 2012

Money, money, money.... everyone is journaling about food and all the tempting parties and goodies, but no one I've seen mentions stressing about all the money being spent this month and next month if you use credit cards to get through this month. I thought I was pretty good at budgeting but apparently that is not the case. Or perhaps it is because every time I turn around something is getting more expensive! And of course there are expectations of presents that need to be met because how can you say to your kids sorry no money for presents this year because there are too many bills. Just cannot do that so more debt coming. Stressing about this makes me want to eat everything in sight! Which reminds me, part of my problem comes from trying to only buy healthy, quality food. I think it should be a crime how boxed, processed food and fast food is so much cheaper that real food. No wonder this country is in a health crisis. People simply can't afford to eat well. Since I refuse to compromise our health for money my grocery bills are through the roof! I hear that cooking and eating at home is cheaper that eating out, but I think that depends on what and where you are eating. Besides, I've always felt that eating healthy means less visits to the doctor, so you could actually be saving money by eating well. Anyway there I go off on a tangent, getting myself lost in my ramblings. I guess I will have to tell the kids that Christmas will be more about being together and less about stuff. They are good people, they will understand. It will be fine. I will manage somehow. Thanks for letting me rant and vent. xoxoxo

Diet Calendar Entries for 17 December 2012:
1424 kcal Fat: 74.07g | Prot: 87.71g | Carb: 117.81g.   Breakfast: Dark Chocolate Dreams Peanut Butter, Oat Bran Hot Cereal, silk light soy milk. Lunch: tuna, Lettuce Salad with Assorted Vegetables, Organic Fair Trade Salted Toffee Milk Chocolate, mayonnaise. Dinner: beans, Chili Powder, canned tomatoes, Ground Beef (85% Lean / 15% Fat). Snacks/Other: Smokehouse Almonds, Organic Fair Trade Salted Toffee Milk Chocolate. more...
2688 kcal Activities & Exercise: Walking (moderate) - 3/mph - 30 minutes, Resting - 3 hours and 20 minutes, Sleeping - 7 hours and 30 minutes, Standing - 3 hours, Sitting - 6 hours and 20 minutes, Stretching (yoga) - 10 minutes, Housework - 1 hour and 10 minutes, Desk Work - 2 hours. more...
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Hello Teskandar, I read your entire blog, so I have heard your ranting and venting. Now, I do sympathize with your venting...So just breathe!!!!!LOL. but I do not agree with your raving. This is what is causing you stress level to be elevated. This an endless circle that will not help in any situation much less at Christmas time.(I had my pity party on last Thursday, only because there was a co-worker who listened.) But now hear this, Pity-party is over. You can give you kids the best Christmas this year. First sit down and read the true story about Christmas and then give them presents made from your imagination if you cannot afford to buy anything. NO sense spending money that you do not have!!! (I don't have any so I can feel your pain) Take it from me, God do not want you to suffer just to make his son's birthday look expensive. GET IT? Remember what you are trying to accomplish and get that stress level down. Go for a walk with the kids and enjoy the lights!!!! Happy Holidays!! Mondie4447 
17 Dec 12 by member: Mondie4447
I don´t have kids, so I can´t fully relate to you, however I was pretty pissed of getting in debt every december and start the new year with credit cards to pay. I mostly help some charities, but to family and friends I almost give them no gifts, rather some small tokens, to say I remember them, and guess what, they give me the same, because this time of the year, money is tight to everybody, my christmas bonus and end of the year pays, I will use to settle most of my current debts. Debts that I got overusing credit cards, which I broke in multiple pieces almost a year ago after getting into more and more debts. You are right, you don´t have to buy expensive gifts to everyone, and I sort of got pissed when my parents couldn´t buy to me, but later I understand and simply forget about it, you should be with your family and celebrate each other and your family's health. PS: Eating right and healthy is indeed way more expensive than eating like a garbage collector. 
17 Dec 12 by member: Goethe
Thanks. I appreciate your comments.  
17 Dec 12 by member: teskandar
I don't have kids either, but I do stress about money. It can make me ill at times worring how things will be covered for that month. It does make me want to eat too, which I am getting better at. As Mondie4447 said, just breathe...and don't stop. And keep track every day of what you have to spend, that in itself is the hardest/trickiest part!! Breathe, and track.  
17 Dec 12 by member: Rubie-sue
Like Goethe I don't have any kids...things might be different if I did. I found I'm one of the worst gift buyers ever. I can always tell when they open the present that its going to the back of the closet even though they are saying "how lovely" So I thought why go through all that stress of fighting the crowds in the mall and spending massive amounts of money for things that people don't even like. So now I take the money I would have spent on gifts and give to a charity; food banks, homeless shelters, natural diasters. I think this sort of giving in more in the spirit of the season than buying things that are just another material possesion for people who already have so much. 
17 Dec 12 by member: fatoldlady
Teska how can you say no one? I rant about the high cost of things all the time and I'm not trying to raise children! I sooo feel the same and agree there should be some shift in our economics that makes healthy food more affordable therin encouraging people to eat healthy. If nothing else, a huge discount on your insurance or reimbursement for a grocery bill of veggies and fruits instead of Mac&Cheese. I do believe home cooked is less expensive than restaurants unless you go to a buffett which in the end defeats the healthy eating because they encourage over eating and even the veggies are swimming in oil & butter. I think if our government is going to crack down on kids lunches, sugary drinks, etc., there should be a 'break' to those trying to get it right. I agree. BUT BUT BUT .... do NOT add to your stress about LIVING by making yourself crazy over one single holiday. It's Christmas, not a kidney. It's a holiday, not a heart transplant. Its.. Okay, I'll stop, you get the idea. Point is ~~~ I'm sure your kids are like my grandkids and already have PLENTY of stuff. One year we were so broke we MADE our gifts for each other and guess what ~~~ we all still HAVE them .... can't say that for the clothes, toys, electronic games, etc. Breathe and remember the point of this holiday and enjoy your family. They'll remember you a happier Mommy when they look back on this year. 
17 Dec 12 by member: FullaBella
Thanks for the support and suggestions. I feel much better now. :) We are all floating in pretty much the same boat are we not? I think we are. Thanks for letting me have a turn with the paddle and the life jacket. <3 
17 Dec 12 by member: teskandar
This year we are not stressing over Christmas because we have chosen to make it about being together. We do not have the money so I refuse to get MORE in debt than we already are. I have made my granddaughter's presents. I tnink remembering what Christmas is truly about is important especially after Newtown.  
17 Dec 12 by member: ranchwoman
I've really been stressing about money. This year more than others because my boyfriend and I both lost our jobs and his unemployment ran out so we're living off of just my unemployment check. The only reason I'm able to give my 3 kids anything for Christmas is because my brother is buying it. So trust me I understand. 
17 Dec 12 by member: nsagley
I just had the biggest grocery bill ever and my husband wanted explanations. I told him, I started a diet a month ago as you know. Turns out it's way more expensive to eat healthy. He's always been of the opinion that when money is tight our grocery bill is not where we tighten our purse strings, so he's fine with it, but I definitely stress about it. As for Christmas, other than my 2 kids, I have a budget of $15 dollars a person. I have a large family and that still adds up to quite a lot of money. I have become a very good shopper though so they don't always look like 15 dollar gifts and sometimes I only spend $5. I start early and watch for the sales. I understand about credit cards, and I've been there, but I paid them off and cut them off. I have one now that I only use when I have no choice. However my husband can't say the same, and it definitely increases the stress level. Good luck with your Christmas stress. Here's to celebrating family, friends, love and faith.  
17 Dec 12 by member: musiquette
I agree with everyone here. We are not having a big Christmas in our family because it's so bleak with money this year. And I don't have a husband or children, so I don't even have that pressure. I can't afford to get anyone presents this year, which sucks, because I really enjoy the whole gift giving and shopping and wrapping every Christmas. I agree with you that eating healthy costs a fortune. I am a single woman and I spend 100 dollars a week at the grocery store/supercenter on all the low-carb, high fiber, sugar free crap I live on. Fruits and vegetables are more expensive that white bread, Hamburger Helper, ramen noodles, sugar cereal, etc. Don't get me started on the cost of meat, chicken and red meat. Seafood? What's that? I don't know how truly poor people are expected to deal with their obesity problems when shopping healthy would eat up even more of their check. It is terrible that this country is full of obese children whose parents can't afford to feed them healthy food. It is absolutely a shame.  
17 Dec 12 by member: kmartdollie

     
 

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