BekkaL85's Journal, 27 January 2011

Ugh. I hate when that happens. :( I very seldom buy them separate stuff anymore for that same reason.  

I hate that, I buy the 100 calorie snacks, then my boyfriend eats 2 or 3 of them at a time. They only come 5 in a pack and i need them around so i dont mess up. I'm like just go buy you a big bag so i can have mine saved for easy ready snacks. I feel your pain. 

It's just so annoying because he NEVER asked me to buy him fruit and veggies and healthy stuff like that. But when I do for me, he eats it all!  

I find it easy to just shop with my boyfriend, we buy only healthy items besides our "treats" and we buy those equally. so i get whatever mine is, and he gets his and that is that. works extremly well actually. :] Hope they hubby either gets on board with your change or leaves you food alone! LOL 

Bekka, You can use reverse logic and tell him you bought the junk food for yourself and maybe he will eat it. LOL. Seriously Bekka, I had to donate all my unopened high calorie, high sodium food to friends and a local food pantry and get rid of it. Then I started fresh with only good healthy food and things I can count calories with and that are good for me. Ask your hubby what he wants for food if it is not what you are eating, and make it clear you are going shopping for healthy food and that is all that you are going to bring in the house, except for the few things he asks for. Food Sabbatage can be an unhealthy mental thing as well as physical when temptation is laying around. So don't let him win that way. You are worth it and can be stronger. There are many nights the last few weeks I want crackers or munchies and I don't have them in the house any more. I have to eat the baby carrots, celery or grapes. Also you may need to watch the sodium. I switched to no salt and I have lost some water weight. I had my blood pressure checked today and it is down!!!. I didn't know how much sodium was in my prepackaged foods until I started journaling on Fat Secret. Most of all, stay motivated, and love yourself. We are rooting for you.  

OMG, you know how much I WISH my family would eat up my healthy stuff??? The answer here seems obvious...take the money you spend on junk food & spend it on more healthy stuff instead. When I started eating healthier I stopped buying anything I didn't eat. My husband ate less junk when he had to go out of his way to get it. 

...AND spend his own money on it! 

I usually by extra of my healthy stuff, but there are some things that I do not like to share with my family, for these items as silly as it sounds I have a cupboard that is mine and i put it in there and my family knows that they cannot have it. If they really want it they will ask if I am going to be eating it in the next few days before they eat it.  

Only buy the healthy stuff. That way you will both be on the way to good health and you're not spending money on junk. If he wants the other foods which, apparently, he doesn't, he can make the trip out to buy it himself. It sounds like you could save a lot of money AND a lot of calories that way. 

That's what I was thinking! I'm just gonna stop buying it because all it does is sit in my pantry and call my name when I'm really hungry and trying to be good! To bad so sad for you! 

I agree -- buy only the healthy stuff. If your husband wants junk food, suggest your husband go out to the store to get some -- or eat the junk when he's out with friends. If you want to achieve a change in lifestyle, you need to be in it together.  

Bekka, I hope he comes around with you to lose weight. It is so much better when you have support and you do it together. You may have to go cold turkey, clean it all out and only bring in healthy good. Stay strong lady.  

You know, part of it could be the fact that he knows you want him to be on board. An analogy for me is being a former smoker...when I smoked, of course I wanted to quit. I knew it was awful for my health but I just wasn't ready for a long time. And when I finally got ready, if someone close to me was bugging me to quit or even just silently judging me because I hadn't, I might not have been successful when I was. That made it safe to TRY to quit because I knew my husband would accept me the way I was even if I didn't do it perfectly. I also knew he wouldn't micromanage my progress by monitoring my habits & reminding me what I should be doing. He let me handle it, & I did. I did the same with my husband, he needed to lose also but it wasn't fair to expect him to be ready to do the exact same things I was doing to lose weight. I let it be my thing & left him with an open invitation to get on board. He ended up initiating the process to have weight loss surgery & finally had it about 2 wks ago. It hasn't been smooth sailing because I have a hard time watching him handle things differently than I would, but I do know that he's doing the best he can & fortunately we have a good enough relationship to be able to talk about these things, & I really think communication is the key here. If his habits bother you, talk to him but don't make it about him because it's not. How about before you walk out the door to go to the store next, say to him, "I love that you enjoy the healthy foods I'm buying, can you tell me what you like the best so I can make sure I get enough for both of us?" 

I like that idea! I quit smoking too, and he was really supportive. He tired his best, he truly does. He just doesn't know how to help. I've given him ideas....help me get distracted, go shopping with me at stores where there isn't alot of food, stuff like that. I need to be more understanding of him, but it's hard to do when I'm dealing with all of these emotions myself trying to lose weight. His main problem is that when he sees me sad or angry that I'm hungry, he just wants to get me something to eat to make me feel better. Unfortunately, that feeling doesn't last long and then I feel worse! 

He truely sounds like he loves you. I hope things will work for you. Food shouldn't be a passifier for us in stress, but many times it is. Or else we wouldn't have "comfort food" or be "stress eaters". Being hungry sucks. I have found drinking water helps, or to eat 6 small meals through out the day with veggies like celery or baby carrots in between. Fiber helps fill you up, but you have to monitor to measure out certain veggies and fruits and journal them. Calories do so add up. Changing has to come for both of you sometimes slow. You quit smoking so you know you can stick to a plan. Stay with it.  

Oh I can relate!! Part of the reason me & my husband got fat together was associating food with love. I remember a few times when I first started my WL I'd come to my home office to start work & there's be a box of my favorite candy sitting there. I'd end up giving it to my kids, but I did have to tell him that I appreciated the sweet gesture, but don't do that anymore. I am a little concerned about you being sad & angry that you're hungry...if you're on a plan that's well-suited to you, you should basically never be hungry. Windrider is right, you might try to increase the fiber, & increasing protein would be a good idea too. When I was calorie-counting I found that when I increased my protein up to at least 100g a day, I felt like my food was sticking to my ribs more & I was never hungry. Something to try. But in general you are doing AMAZING...you definitely have the attitude and the commitment to make this happen. Keep it up woman!!!