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One issue I have in trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle is when I go to other people's homes for parties or other gatherings, and they keep trying to encourage me to eat more than I want. While I do generally partake of the hospitality, I try to exercise self-discipline and limit my portions. Similarly many of them try to be nice by fixing me a plate to take home, but I would rather they didn't do that because I've found they give me entirely too much on the portions, as well as including items I had bypassed in the first place. If they want me to bring food home, I'd rather fix my own plate. I know they mean well, and I don't mean to be rude or ungrateful, but I'd really rather pick and choose my own portions. Have any of you experienced this or anything similar in your own quest to maintain fitness and health?
Diet Calendar Entries for 31 May 2016:
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1467 kcal
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Fat: 56.75g | Prot: 61.19g | Carb: 195.66g.
Breakfast: Quaker Instant Oatmeal - Blueberries & Cream, Oroweat Sandwich Thins - 100% Whole Wheat, Jimmy Dean Turkey Sausage Patty. Lunch: Smucker's Uncrustables Peanut Butter & Grape Jelly Sandwich (58g). Dinner: White Rice, Chicken Curry. Snacks/Other: M&M's Peanut M&M's (Package), Kroger Mini Peanut Butter Filled Pretzels. more...
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3257 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Weight Training (moderate) - 20 minutes, Resting - 15 hours and 40 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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I just tell them I'm on a diet and that i'll help myself to what I can eat. I just explain that I would love to just try everything and more, but I just can't.
31 May 16 by member: jamiqua
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It's a lot easier if you're just open with them from the start
31 May 16 by member: jamiqua
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You're right about that. As I say, I don't want to come across as being rude, but I also feel the need to protect my goal too.
31 May 16 by member: jnix911
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I agree. I think it's hard to do.
31 May 16 by member: brisbee
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Yep. Just another obstacle to conquer along the way.
31 May 16 by member: jnix911
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when visiting friends who send you a plate home, is there anyone else you know that you could stop by their home and leave them a plate of food. I found myself doing that for a elderly lady across the street from me, and she was so thrilled to have the extra food and goodies. another thing that worked for me, was to take the food home and divide it up into a portion size that I needed and freeze it , and microwave it on day that I was to tired to cook or running late.
31 May 16 by member: denni13
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agree with denni (great ideas!).... and if they include something like cake or pie, I (gulp) throw it away the minute I get to my house. remove the temptation!!!
31 May 16 by member: ImLaura
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There are some I've shared with, and I use that approach when necessary. If it involves food I like, I will divide it up and make smaller portions for myself to use later. But when it involves food that I wouldn't have chosen anyway, I feel a bit apprehensive about taking and/or sharing it.
31 May 16 by member: jnix911
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I've had to throw some foods away because I couldn't eat them, and wasn't able to pass them on to anyone else in a timely manner. That's another point I believe when turning down certain foods: I don't like wasting food, and I feel like the food won't run the risk of being wasted if people aren't trying to pawn it off on me.
31 May 16 by member: jnix911
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There is no sin in trowing away unhealthy food! Bless the person who made it for their good intentions, and consign it to the trash where it belongs. If that has moral issues for you, then put it in the back of the fridge until it grows fur, THEN throw it out because it's spoiled,
31 May 16 by member: mskestrela
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Actually one thing that's helped me sometimes is eating before I go there, and then I can legitimately use the excuse of "I'm not hungry."
31 May 16 by member: jnix911
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Jnix911, I think all of us have noticed it, and the one thing we have determined is, if you tell them you are watching your weight, or trying to eat healthier, they get even more determined to give you food. I also noticed that when you have a medical diagnosis for some chronic disease that has to do with diet, they are very supportive and will also slap your hands when you reach for something you should not have (according to the doctors) So, I have determined that the way to garner support from friends and family is to fake some type of disease that concerns diet, you will then get all of the dietary support you could want or need :)
31 May 16 by member: debrafrederick
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It is frustrating especially when they say "oh just a little will not hurt you" when YES it will! I had the same problem during Mother's day. Then I brought my own salad and found I ate more of that (filled my plate) than with the other items it made others happy I was "eating". It was the dessert that they tried to push upon me. my comment was "no I am eating healthy besides I ate too much for anything else."
31 May 16 by member: sheleenc
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That's a good approach. Sometimes I just tell them I'll get something in a little while, but then I don't.
31 May 16 by member: jnix911
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Overall I don't think anyone is trying to hurt my progress. They do mean well. One consideration is that some of them are from different cultures than mine, which is a reason I try to be diplomatic so that they don't get insulted.
31 May 16 by member: jnix911
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So, at a party... pick up a plate, put three things on it that fall within your guidelines and carry it around, but don't eat from it until the end of the party. You're then 'partaking'.
31 May 16 by member: northernmusician
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I should add... are they going to give you a bigger plate? :)
31 May 16 by member: northernmusician
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Well, of course they give you big portions to take home because they probably don't want to eat all those calories and/or they don't want to worry about storing all that extra food. Just learn to be more assertive and use the word "no." Eat what you have portioned out for yourself and if they want to load you down with more, just say "No, I am good." If they still try to pile more on your plate, just place your hand over your plate and say "no, I am good." If you want to make your own plate, why not ask? Being assertive isn't being rude or ungrateful as you owe them NO favor to eat all the food they want you to eat or take home all the food they want to get rid of. Speak up......that's what you need to do.
01 Jun 16 by member: Engeland
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Nice idea to share it or conserve it. But good for you.
02 Jun 16 by member: brisbee
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