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After a year of living with my boyfriend, I will be moving out today. Everything is wonderful at home, our intimate time was always amazing, but something was missing... I'm 20 lbs lighter than I was when we first got together, but because I am significantly overweight he has reluctantly admitted that it has affected the way he touches me and it hasn't changed since I've lost weight. I want to know that it's not just my face that is attractive, but my whole body. There are plenty of people out there that will accept and love me for all of me, and I deserve that kind of love. He also deserves someone who better suits his preferences. He is seeking counseling to try and work out his judgement, but I have a spot-on intuition and I feel as though this might be the end of the road for us. I hate to see him so upset, I know he loves me and how much effort he's put in to making me happy, but I'm looking for something a little more...
I am signing a rental lease today, moving my things, and am going to try to work things out with him... we'll see what happens. I've always wanted someone who is going to accept all of me, and I know they're out there, so I'm not worried... I know he'll find someone if we end up our separate ways, I'm not worried about that either. I'm not mad, I'm not bitter... just anxious for what lies ahead of me.
Have a great week, everyone!
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Keep the faith sweetheart; at least you didn't marry him. My first husband was like that and always found ways to belittle me even when I WAS 130lbs. Now I am 218 as of today down from a high of 267. Working it one day ay a time by changing my eating habits for the better. Marcy
12 Jan 15 by member: marcysheck
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I hope everything works out for you. You both deserve to be happy.
12 Jan 15 by member: JDbowler
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Support, support, support, support, support, support, support, I can only click the button once. :(
12 Jan 15 by member: jparlett
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Ah, that's not good, I wish you the best.
12 Jan 15 by member: snezica
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Wishing the best for you!
12 Jan 15 by member: LoadGod
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12 Jan 15 by member: kehfeh
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You've got the right attitude about the situation, to not let it poison your outlook. Good luck on your journey (moving is never fun TT-TT )
12 Jan 15 by member: kitty-eared-girl
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We're here if you ever need us. You sound like it wasn't a really big surprise. You seem very considered and open to whatever lays before you. That's a great starting point.
12 Jan 15 by member: northernmusician
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Aw hugs good on you for being such a strong person
12 Jan 15 by member: Instantcrazy
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Way to look out for yourself, and I hope he starts to appreciate what he might lose! Best wishes to both of you.
12 Jan 15 by member: Woperchild
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You deserve better, to be with someone who accepts you. I got lucky. My husband married me when I was larger than I am now and then I ballooned up to 327 when I was ill. One day at a time.
12 Jan 15 by member: msbuggirl
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Wishing you the best and it sounds like you know what you want. All I can say is don't settle for less.
12 Jan 15 by member: jmb3450
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good luck. you sound like you are in a good place with it. good perspective.
12 Jan 15 by member: br_e_co
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I'm very proud of you for having the strength to do this and I wish you the best of luck on your new journey :)
13 Jan 15 by member: Socolova
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It is possible to find someone who loves you, fat, thin, or in between. You're right not to settle on being partially accepted and loved. You deserve to be loved for all of you, no matter what number the scale gives you, or what pant size you wear. Hang in there!
13 Jan 15 by member: tempest_spirit
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i wish i'm that wise:) i'm still in the bitter mood. i'm exactly the opposite when i took weight he left me:) u look gorgeous and yes you are right we all want someone who love us for what we are as beauty goes with time what matter is our character
13 Jan 15 by member: nadouchka_b
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It can't be good for you to feel like he doesn't want to touch you. Transference can be the result... later thinking the next person(s) down the road feel the same. Perhaps you could get counseling as well for your own peace of mind. I got counseling after my ex-wife left me and my two children. It was tough getting over the loss. Today, she lives in another town far away and has no contact with us. We are good because of the counseling and learning to forgive.
You made the right choice by moving out. Don't forget to keep making good choices FOR YOU.
13 Jan 15 by member: cstout30
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You know what is best for you. Stay positive. Be kind to yourself. (hugs)
14 Jan 15 by member: Deb_N
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