Em, I so understand. You're dealing with heavy grief. The weight gain from the food is "punishing," when it paradoxically feels comforting, or just "easier." ______ I ate my way through a miserable time 15 years ago and "found myself" 120 pounds heavier in the midst of what became an overwhelming life crisis. I was unable to work for weeks at a time due to crippling depression and almost lost my job. Obesity-related, long-uncontrolled, diabetes and disastrous midday sleepiness (a side effect of Neurontin/gabapentin for diabetic neuropathy) compounded the work dysfunction, emotional distress, and financial hardship. Piling on the calories from ice cream, cookies, and candy was no help! ______ I found great comfort in my faith and friends in a new prayer group, and a good therapist. They got me through to the "other side." I urge you to find support across this raging river you're crossing. There *is* "another shore." You're in my prayers!
04 Sep 17 by member: Miraculum
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Thank you. I've been through a lot this past almost year. It's very hard. Sometimes so hard feels like I can't climb out of the silly hole that's not even there. I can make it through this. I have accepted (as much as I can) my situation. I have talked to God and I have accepted my loss and that I knew if he were here he'd just be suffering. As for the bills. If they get paid they do if not they don't. Health is more important in my book. And eating right and watching what I eat has helped with accepting what I can't.
04 Sep 17 by member: emilygu
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Know that you are truly with people who have or continue to walk in your shoes everyday. We will be here for you. Financial problems put a tremendous emotional strain on you personally as well as your relationship. People actually become physically ill with long term emotional strain. It's so difficult to focus on yourself when you have so many other things on your plate. Try to carve out a little time each day for yourself and focus on how important you are. You deserve your health. Losing weight is one of the best ways for you to take control of your life and do everything you can to work towards a healthier you. Remember we're here for you.
04 Sep 17 by member: paulanavarette
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Emilygu - you are right to focus on you! Don't worry about the bills. They aren't going anywhere but you are. :-) You are going to a healthy place for your mind, body and spirit. I am not a religious person but highly spiritual and I rely on my beliefs to help me with this process and the support of personal and professional folks. You can do this and you can allow your grief to unfold at the same time. Cry if you need to , hollar if you need to. Do what ever it takes to make you feel better and stronger. We are all here for you. <3
05 Sep 17 by member: Katrina121
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Don't beat yourself up. Take care of yourself and don't worry about bills. Sending you virtual hugs!
05 Sep 17 by member: Elisaidh
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you have a plan and you will be great
05 Sep 17 by member: Ahermi
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you have a plan to being a new healthy you concentrate on that Rather than beating yourself up and don't be to hard on yourself. we are all in the same boat and can help each other to stay strong and keep focus. all the best on your journey. x
05 Sep 17 by member: bubblegum14
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you can do it. you have determination. don't stress to much and it will happen for you
06 Sep 17 by member: fluffy pink
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emilygu, I love to eat lots of things too. I really think the trick is portion control. I pretty much eat most things that I like even macaroni and cheese sometimes but I am managing to keep my serving size to 4 ounces measured. We get in trouble by beating ourselves up when we eat something we shouldn't but in reality we are only human. Like willful children we get stubborn and do what we want to do and then realize that we're hurting ourselves just as you stated above. Be nice to yourself. You can do this. Trust yourself and we will all be your support. ♡
07 Sep 17 by member: Katrina121
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