Power to you Chel21! I came off a long term marriage that had ended with me being an emotional basket case and psychologically abused. I was at 355lbs and have been very ill and facing not getting better any time soon.
I finally took the two years I needed to pull my life together told my doctors I needed better control of my health, and I have taken back charge. I'm down 140 or so pounds, but more to go. Health problems never make it easier. Good luck!