Hang in there, girl. you're doing all the right things - for YOU. Keep the focus.
15 Sep 16 by member: Shazzeryyc
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It's too bad your SO isn't supportive. It certainly makes the journey tougher! You're doing so well, and your head is on straight, so I know you've got this!
15 Sep 16 by member: mskestrela
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Have you considered making treats for yourself? I did on LCHF and I placed them in boxes strategically located near the "bad" stuff.. including the fridge. It would have my name on in marker pen - with 'low carb stuff' so my family would casually ignore them. Here's an example of the kind of thing I would put what I secretly called my treat-boxes: Cookies, Cloud Bread, Cheesecake, Pancakes - all designed to be eaten to cover my sugar cravings... worked wondersand kept me on the straight and narrow for 4 years. My kids would think nothing of wandering in with 100g of chocolate bar, eat half and leave the rest lying there on the counter top, staring at me, calling my name, and the more I refused to listen, the more the chocolate would shout my name a bit louder. "Mario - Eat Me!" it kept on saying. Good luck with that! You're doing great. Stay selfish if you want to succeed!!
15 Sep 16 by member: Mazchap
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Try this for a sweet tooth craving killer -you need to make them when you are not hungry, trust me!! :) - http://beautyandthefoodie.com/chocolate-peanut-butter-mini-cheesecakes/
15 Sep 16 by member: Mazchap
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Mario.. I love your idea about making our good stuff and keeping it available. I've been 'planning' on doing just that, but don't get around to it. I have some great recipes for snacks I can eat... I just have to get on the ball and do it. You have inspired me to 'get er done'.thanks
15 Sep 16 by member: dboza
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He is trying to sabotage you. You two need to get to the bottom if what is really bothering him. It's always something that isn't the obvious. Hash it out, agree to New rules, just like money. What is he missing now that your focus is getting healthy? Does he miss food or time with you or or, it's always better to find out, than guess. You are young enough where you can train him. Hahaha
15 Sep 16 by member: Lizzygracemusic
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OK what is tomato pie? I love tomato anything, but never heard of this one.
15 Sep 16 by member: Sweet Georgia Peaches
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I saw a saying once and posted it here a long time ago. "Do not reward yourself with food. You are not a dog." I have to repeat that to myself quite often!
15 Sep 16 by member: rhontique
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He is worried you will be more attractive to other people and will leave him. Probably insecure...
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Rhontique That sentence is going on a post it note on my pc!
15 Sep 16 by member: fattyfattyboombooms
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Tomato Pie - It's sorta like pizza but without as much cheese (almost none, like a tiny dusting of parm). And the sauce is a bit sweeter. Also, it should always be eaten at room temp. There is this one place that is AMAZING... like OMG... I put a bottle of water next to the case on the counter. Every time I feel my eyes wandering towards it, I take a sip of water. And yes; Rhontique... I am not a dog.
15 Sep 16 by member: dewy333
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never give....never surrender....take care of you.....
15 Sep 16 by member: rontravis
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Can't agree more with Ron. I self sabotage myself enough without any help from someone else!
15 Sep 16 by member: Normadale
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ya i remember those days when i was married. in one breath he would make comments about my weight; then when i'de say i was starting a diet; he would run to 7-11 and buy chocolate dounuts and peacon goodies . he would do everything to sabatage , but then that was many years ago and i can sabotage myself quite well n my own. haha
15 Sep 16 by member: kathleenscanlan
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@Dewy......is he overweight?
15 Sep 16 by member: CCbabcock
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@CCbabcock: Yes, he is very overweight. Even more-so than I am.
16 Sep 16 by member: dewy333
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Some men prefer heavier women, my daughter's best friend lost 121 pounds, her husband moved out! They had a rough patch for a long time over it, they eventually got back together but their relationship was totally different.
If your SO doesn't support you and sabotages your health it is time to move on, these leopards never change their spots. I was in a bad marriage for 30 years, I know what it is like to have constant picking at me about everything.
Do what is best for you! You deserve it and nobody has the right to submarine your hard work.
16 Sep 16 by member: kbrammer
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He might just need time to adjust to the changes. But ultimately you, and your health, are more important than your husband, especially when he doesn't have a good reason for being unhappy with the situation. Next time he tries to sabotage, be strong. If he brings home your favourite pie just tell him frankly "unfortunately you know I can't eat that right now, but you enjoy it". (I'm not saying you should feel bad for having eaten some this time, of course not, but it does mean he'll see it as successful sabotage and may try again.) Demonstrate to him that this is the new status quo, and he has to deal with it.
16 Sep 16 by member: corgisrus
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@Dewy.......maybe deep down inside he knows he needs to loose weight too, but isn't ready to tackle the problem like you are? He would rather just avoid the problem and if you both stay overweight then he isn't forced to face HIS weight issues. He is comfortable with you two being overweight. He's not ready to change and he sees you are changing and that might be a little scary for him. Maybe he will come around soon and get on board. You are doing great.
16 Sep 16 by member: CCbabcock
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It may be a fear thing. He thinks if you get fit and healthy you will leave him behind both figuratively and literally. Unfortunately you cannot force him to change....hopefully he will join you. If you got fat together then maybe you can get fit together, but if you met when you were both fat then that may be harder to deal with. Good luck, love and support as always.
16 Sep 16 by member: fattyfattyboombooms
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