It's tough to go through, and even tougher to get a sincere message across without it seeming like your trying to "break the ice"... I had this situation with my oldest several years ago. He came around, and hopefully your daughter will as well.
16 Feb 18 by member: crankybuzzard
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Just a thought, you could say something like..you know your in alot better shape then l was at your age.
16 Feb 18 by member: murphthesurf
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I would Murph but she's picky and temperamental, she just unblocked me on FB but if I said something to her she would block me again for an undetermined amount of time.
16 Feb 18 by member: Shrinking_Shamrock
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Write your praises, date them, and when she is ready, give them to her. She should know and apprecitate that you are always thinking of her. I hope it all works out for you.
16 Feb 18 by member: Idratherbereading
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thanks Idra, i hadn't thought of that before even though I've been saving the birthday and holiday gifts i buy for her so she knows she was always thought of
16 Feb 18 by member: Shrinking_Shamrock
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Don't wait to tell her - events like what happened in Florida, this week, are examples of always telling some you love, that you care and you'll always be there for them. Tell her you're proud of her - NOW. It's up to her to accept it or not.
16 Feb 18 by member: JeffersonDad
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Send her a thinking of you card and put a note in it!
16 Feb 18 by member: PopsGirl
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Yes, write them down and seal them in an envelope. If she feels a need to have contact with you, you can give them to her then. If not, then after you are gone they will be there for her.
16 Feb 18 by member: Peasy3
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I agree with you JeffersonDad!!! Regardless if my kids would talk to me or not I would smother them with love messages and texts. They would always know that as a mom I put myself out there, regardless if they responded or not.
16 Feb 18 by member: SerenaHart
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@Popsgirl I would but she won't even give me her address so I couldn't send her anything, I think it's her way of blocking me from contact.., but for all she knows i wanted to send her money for her birthday and holidays. Oh well, I'm not going to push the issue, she'll get in touch when she's ready. if i try to push, I may end up pushing her away
16 Feb 18 by member: Shrinking_Shamrock
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Send a letter...she can open it whenever she wants - and she might be curious enough to do so <3
16 Feb 18 by member: Viviace
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Oh...no address.... you know old (school) friends, who are still in contact...? Maybe one of them could take the letter... good luck ;)
16 Feb 18 by member: Viviace
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praying for complete restoration in your family dynamics. do what your heart says to do.
16 Feb 18 by member: marshakanady
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font give up, persistence trumps all
16 Feb 18 by member: DV1977
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I will pray for a line of communication to open between you and her. My mom and I do not always get along, but I love her and could never live without her. Even when we arent getting along. Please try to reach out, via letter to her house or her job. Tell her you love her and are proud of her.
16 Feb 18 by member: Klynn82
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I am so sorry you are having to go through that, I cant imagine your pain. Keep faith, and keep praying.. You and your daughter will be in my prayers.
16 Feb 18 by member: SerenaHart
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Gosh. I could not imagine what I would do if one of my children did that .... you are strong. hang in there sweetie.. my co-worker had the same thing with her daughter and after several years the daughter just out of the blue started coming around. keep your chin up. "hugs".
16 Feb 18 by member: cherik1
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you are doing great ...don't let her attitude deter you in any way...
16 Feb 18 by member: janstromberg
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send her a card and simply say I love you and you are my inspiration. Tell her you're proud of her and her life she's pursuing. Keep it short and direct and from the heart. She may not talk to you openly but if you send a card, she will more than likely read it. Or at least enough to get a taste of how you feel. Don't put a return address on it, just send it to her. Good luck, and don't give up!! Our lives are to short to ever give up on the ones that we love and mean the most to us!
16 Feb 18 by member: jenniferl12003
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Life is way too short to leave things unsaid - After my stint in ICU and almost not being here I reached out to my 30 year old son who wants nothing to do with us. I simply told him I love him and would like to have open communication. I didn't go past that - and I didn't make it about me. If he wants to participate it is his call, I have reached out. I am only responsible to build my half of the bridge. If your daughter is doing well and is inspiring you - then say that. one of the biggest gifts I have is that when my Dad passed away - there were no unsaid words between us. he loved me and I loved him and we both knew it, no regrets of wanting one more minute to finish something. I wish you all the best in your journey and your relationship with your daughter.
16 Feb 18 by member: tahoebrun
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