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**RAYOR** Serious ranting ahead...and some of it's not nice.
Blah. I've had a headache for like 3 weeks now. I *think* it's because I've been eating more carbs. In an effort to bring up my cals, I'm adding things that just ARENT good for my body. I've been trying everything to get rid of them, ( the headaches) and nothing is working. I'm thinking it has to be the carbs. This week I'm going back to my basics. back to where I first started this journey. Hopefully once I get the crap out of my body my headaches will start going away. I feel like I did before i started my eating plan. yes, I'm still losing weight, but eating this crap is just NOt worth it for me. i wish i could be like others who can eat carbs and feel good, but i can't. YUCK. I was just trying to bring up my cals...and i read all of these food diarys with carbs and people still losing weight. i thought i would give it a try...as long as my cals were still within my range. Not such a good idea. I've given it a fair go and now it's time to go back to my low carb eating.
I received an email last week from someone telling me that i focus too much on losing 'lbs' and that I push others to focus on that too. That I should be focusing on 'being healthy' and it shouldn't matter how many actual 'lbs' I lose. UMMMMmmmm.....ok. let me respond to that.
I have ALOT of weight to lose and if I want to focus on how many freaking POUNDS I lose...that SO F'N WHAT. This persons highest weight was 1freakin50. OK, so maybe to her she is a big fat person, but I REALLY AM A FREAKIN FAT PERSON!!!! Try weighing 375 and then tell me I focus to much on losing actual freaking lbs!! I don't even get that. I'm not even going to try. This person is NOT my friend and has NEVER commented on ANY of my journals. I checked. SO MISS 150....kiss my big fat AZZ. I don't care if anyone thinks I'm being to harsh. This is my freaking journal. My feelings got really hurt when i first read that email/PM. NOW I'm just mad.
I try really hard to support others on here. i know how hard it is to lose weight when you don't have a support system. I'm sory to ANYONE I may have made feel bad or for focusing to much on the 'lbs'. I just wanted to say that, in case I really have done that. That was never my intention and I'm sorry if I came across that way.
Anyway, that's all i have right now.
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I hope your headaches go away. It's never fun to be in constant pain and we want you healthy! As to miss 150 she probably doesn't understand how unhealthy it is to be overweight. When your as much over weight as we are we need to get the pounds off. As longs as your not doing anything unhealthy (which your not) then we need to strive to loose pounds. Keep doing what your doing and focus on yourself. Miss 150 needs to get a life outside of what others are doing.
14 Nov 11 by member: diddoh
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So Dawn... you focus on the lbs and you need to focus on getting healthier... but isn't losing the lbs what will actually make you healthier?? Seriously, I understand where this person is coming from, BUT I am also assuming she only has minimal amount of weight to lose, from what I can tell you are being healthy, and if focusing on a number right now is what is gonna get your healthier than focus on the number, does your focusing on a number make me want to focus on a number? Not even a little bit. Am I envious that you have lost 80 pounds? God yes, but on the other hand, I know everyone loses weight differently, you may be focusing on a number right now BUT I know that when you get down closer to your final number, you will focus more on the exercise (and if not WHO THE FUCK CARES??) I hope you get the headaches under control soon, I know exactly how you feel, I have found since I cut carbs way way back my headaches have gone to almost nil, but when I add carbs back - they go way way up.
14 Nov 11 by member: phsmalls
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Thanks diddoh! I really appreciate the comment and that you tookt he tiem to read this. =) Pixi~ I might focus too much ont he actual 'number', but that's what I need to hold myself accountable. I'm not a work out pro like you and others on here. I walk. That's what i do. I walk ALOT, but that's really all the exercise I'm doing at the moment. Do I need to to more? hell yes...and I'm working up to it. I WAS doing other exercises but was having a really hard time with my kness, so I just started walking. Now I LOVE to walk. I wish I DID workout as much as some of you guys, but I don't. Maybe then my 'number' wouldn't be as important as it is. Everyone has a different way they do it. and for me, it's the lbs. I know I'm way to sensitive and I prob should of just chalked it up to yet another person thinking what they are doing is the the ONLY way to do it. Everyone is entitled to their opinion I guess. =) This week I'm focusing on lowering my carbs drastically. I know I need to open my food diary again on MFP, but people on there are so freaking judgemental. LOL Sorry for the book!! I'm ALWAYS sayin that to you!!
14 Nov 11 by member: HerStrawberri
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Here´s a little something that might help you with shedding the pounds :)
When walking, carry 1-2lbs weights (or have heavy "bracelet" weights) and swing your arms vigorously. That way you build a little upper body mass, and as most people know, more body mass burns more calories :)
14 Nov 11 by member: Rakel
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Thank you Rakel! I actually already do that. i also carry my 25lb book bag when i do this. My arms are actually alot stronger. =)
14 Nov 11 by member: HerStrawberri
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OK. SO first to address the headaches, I get headaches ALL THE TIME and am not tryign a sinus rinse. K I havent actually tried it yet but I bought it LOL my sister made me. I tried eating protien and certain times, not using perfume, you name it I tried it. I was on meds for my headaches, (which was an anti-deppressant that apparently dr's use to treat heaches) they went away for a month but the pills had too many side effects that I stopped. I learned pressure points in yoga and they help for a quick fix. You may be on to somehting with regard to the carbs. Like you said its adding something different to your body but def keep an eye on it. I know that you can also get headaches from taking too many otc meds as well.
FOR miss 150. LOL I understand EXACTLY how you feel. People don't realize that being healthy and dropping pounds go hand in hand when you have over 100lbs to lose. It gets so frustrating when you are doing the work and the number goes nowhere. I've grown tired of trying to explain to people that pounds count. Being healthy counts just as much and from reading your journals I do think you know that. As I am in the same boat as you with trying to lose pounds, I try to look at the subtle things like sizes changing and realizing there is more space from me to my steering wheel lol I'm pretty sure it was KStubbfield who had an acronym for accomplishements that weren't actual pounds lost and I thought that was pretty awesome!
It's a process and we are all learning as we go and I really think that your journey has been and continues to be phenomenal...Now I'm sorry for the book LOL this post hit a cord!
14 Nov 11 by member: orchidannie
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Hun, as I have told you before NEVER apologize for the book lol. The first thing I am going to tell you is, I didn't work out for a year. I started with eating and then worked my way up to working out and honestly, majority of my work outs are just simply walking, the other part is Yoga (which was ridiculously hard - and still can be), and Zumba. I did weight lifting for a bit but honestly, I just didn't love it. I don't care who is out there, and they can say "the number isn't everything blah blah blah" they can go suck something that isn't nice lol because no matter who you are, a NUBMER is always everything when it comes to weight loss. I have been stuck in the 200's since I started, I try not to let the number bother me because I know things are changing but in all honesty, it depresses me that in over a year I have only lost about 4 pounds, it makes me feel like a failure - and I NEVER fail so it hurts my pride. I think concentrating on a number (especially when you have a lot of weight to lose - to even be in a healthy weight range) is totally normal, and if someone is obsessing over a number because they are your buddy, or they read your journal.. than I think the problem lies with them and not with you. I feel as though this 150 pounds person is projecting their issues onto you, and no you shouldn't let it bother you but I know damn well if it was me someone said that to I would have found a way to go though my computer screen to slap them silly lol
14 Nov 11 by member: phsmalls
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Oh PS Orchidannie, do the sinus rinse, I have done them at least once a week for over a year (more when its allergy season) and it does help some, it doesn't get rid of the headache completly but even a reprieve is welcome.. Also I am like Dawn, more carbs = wicked migraines so its better to just lower them and live with out them - the first week was the worst now I find it quite easy.
14 Nov 11 by member: phsmalls
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Orchidannie~ It really hit a cord with me too. To be honest, i replayed with a not so nice response. It wasn't completely RUDE, but it basically stated it's really none of her business. and it's not. i really think people who have never had a very large amount of weight to lose don't understand the issues we face everyday with the 'number'. We just can't 'firm' up and be ok. We need to lose actual lbs. Anyway, I think she got my message. LOL I've tried everything for my migraines as well, including meds. The only med that helps me costs $450 for 18 freaking pills. I don't have any insurance right now, working on that, so I can't afford to get them. To be honest, i don't want to take them anyway. I was on pills for so long for depression and HBP as well as multiple things they had me on for the migraines and all they did was help in my weight gain and make me MORE depressed. No thank you. When I first started my WOE, my headaches went down dramatically. It was crazy actually. NOW, because I've been incorporating more carbs....they are back. So I need to stop eating them. At least as much as I have been lately. Hopefully that will help. Migraines suck. totally. Mine can be so dibilitating. (sorry for the bad spelling) Thank you so much for the comment and taking the time to read this entry. =) I hope you are able to find something that works for you in regards to your migraines!
14 Nov 11 by member: HerStrawberri
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Lauren~ I TOTALLY wanted to slap her silly. ESPECIALLY when I looked at her profile and saw her highest weight was 150. WHAT-EV-ER. YOU are FAR from a failure. You have come so far! I honestly think your body is messed up by some hormone inbalance or something. I really think this new eating plan you are trying is going to work. =) I really wish I wasn't as obsessed with my 'number'. When I can say i weigh below 200, then MAYBE i will stop. But until that day comes, just call me Obsessy Obsesserio! LOL
14 Nov 11 by member: HerStrawberri
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LMAO you made me spit water out with the Obsessy Obsesserio... I honestly don't try to obsess but it is easier said than done. I know for me if I topped out at 150 I would still be round but that is because I am stupidly short lol However; at 150 I would be more chunky than fat, now I am just plain old fat lol but w/e it is what it is. I just wish people would realize that not everyone takes the same approach and not everyone is at the same stage, and this is a learning process. I honestly do not think anyone that has ever, or will ever lose weight is totally over the number obsession, because once you hit goal you still have to watch or you will end up back where you started.
14 Nov 11 by member: phsmalls
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I totally get it. When I started at over 200 (and I'm only 5 ft tall) the scale was the ONLY thing I focused on for many months. Not that I wasn't trying to get healthy but all that weight I was carrying around was absolutely not healthy either. Seriously, I don't think I could've lost the weight as well or as fast in any other way than low carbing because I'm insulin resistant. Now that I've got the major weight off I've found I can handle more carbs and do well but I'm not trying to lose weight anymore. Just do what works for you!! (((HUGS))) ♥ Ruby
14 Nov 11 by member: RubyRedSox
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I totally agree. AND everyones body is different. I'm like a freakin foot taller then you. If I weighed 150, I would be super icky skinny. Where as someone shorter then me, would look good. It all depends on the person i think. I will prob be obsessed with my weight until the day I die. Maybe that's wrong, but it is what it is. I know once I hit my goal, I will never want to go back to this place, so yeah....I will always be obsessed. =)
14 Nov 11 by member: HerStrawberri
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14 Nov 11 by member: HerStrawberri
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I started out at 242, and yes, I did focus on the numbers - it is only natural to do this. Every pound or two pounds lost, spurs you on to loose another pound or two pounds. Failure to loose one week has you in a "flat spin". As someone said.... Isn't loosing weight healthier than not? Particularly when you are in the "obese" category - which I was.
OK... Now I have lost a considerable amoun of weight..... And my focus isn't so much on the numbers - this too is natural - I now want to concentrate on, firming and toning. It didn't even cross my mind to do this in the beginning, I did exercise - but only because I thought it would help the numbers go down.
This "person", has obviously not been in the same position as a lot of people on FS, and should keep her opinions to herself.
Don't let her upset you x
14 Nov 11 by member: Sk1nnyfuture
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I know I will be when/if I ever get to my goal, I will watch the number closely, I plan on giving myself a 5 pound buffer that way if I go over 5 pounds I get super serious again. I think losing weight/maintaining weight is a constant battle forever, anyone who says other wise is stupid.
14 Nov 11 by member: phsmalls
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I know you are ranting, but this made me laugh :) I hate when skinny people think they can relate to us. I also HATE when people say to put the scale away and that your weight doesn't matter. That may be true for thin people, But for us fatties, we need to lose POUNDS! I can't believe someone had the nerve to send you a message about that, they don't know what they are talking about. And you motivate me all the time! You are the reason I pushed from 242 to 239 after a two week stall. You obviously know what you are doing with the success that you have had so far. Skinny bitches need to mind their business!!!
14 Nov 11 by member: serafano
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BRAVO,you said it all and I am proud you said it for all of us big beautiful men and women out there!!! I love you for that!
15 Nov 11 by member: 83JEN
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Thank you Skinny! I'm totally over it now. I had to purge the negitivity I was feeling yesterday, and today I feel much better. Thank you for the wonderful comment!
15 Nov 11 by member: HerStrawberri
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"I also HATE when people say to put the scale away and that your weight doesn't matter. That may be true for thin people, But for us fatties, we need to lose POUNDS" I agree and disagree with this sentence. Sometimes putting the scale away is exactly what someone needs to do, if you find yourself stepping on your scale multiple times a day, after ever BM, after ever thing you eat, or if you let it determine the mood you are going to be in for the day you need to step away for a week or two. I am not saying you do not need to lose the pounds but as a human being you need to love yourself too and berating yourself because the scale doesn't say what you want is entirely counterproductive. Especially if you are an emtional eater. There are other ways to measure progress as well, there is a tape measure, your clothing and how you are feeling, can you walk/run farther/longer/faster? things like that. I do think some people put to much stock into a number (not aiming this at anyone either BTW as Dawn knows I support her 100% in her journey and I know when the scale goes the wrong way she re-evaluates and looks at what has changed or what she can change). I understand being extremely overweight as I have 100 pounds to lose but sometimes concentrating on a number is frustrating, and really does make you feel like failure. For example - I have been trying to lose weight since August of last year, I have lost about 3 pounds - if I concentrated on what the scale said I would have quit a long time ago. I dug out the tape measure this past august - I may have only lost 3 pounds, BUT i have lost 20+ inches all over which is what my DR. has told me to concentrate on because eventually the weight will catch up. You also have to remember the scale is a measurement of EVERYTHING in/on your body so thats blood, water, bones, guts, muscle, fat, hair, nails, teeth, eyeballs. So if you have a heavier bone structure you will weight more, if you haven't peed you will weight more. Sorry for hijacking your thread Dawn, this is just something I do advocate. I am not saying weighing yourself or concentrating on a number are bad things, but they can lead to improper thinking when it comes to lose weight if you do not keep a perspective.
15 Nov 11 by member: phsmalls
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