Hoser's Journal, 08 February 2011

I mentioned the boyfriends in a forum discussion and people seemed to be curious, so here's more about Hoser's Harem. (BTW, I use the term harem mostly as a way of giggling about the little ironies of my life. It's very much tongue-in-cheek.)

Yes, I have two boyfriends. Well, two or three depending upon how you slice it. One is more of a dear friend and lover than a romantic entanglement, but I guess that's splitting hairs. OK, I have three boyfriends. There are no girlfriends in the mix, but that's an accident of fate more than a deliberate choice. I've certainly had girlfriends in the past, including one M-F-F triad relationship.

Yes, they all know about each other. Two of the three know each other, but the third one lives on the east coast and hasn't had the opportunity to meet the other two. I'd be happier if they all knew each other (and even happier if they were all friends) but it is what it is.
All of the relationships are stable, long-term ones-- a year, almost three years (but we've been friends for over a decade), and almost six years. They all make me happy, though each of them in very different ways. They are all uniquely fascinating people, though they're very different from each other.

How do I make it all work? Honest, straightforward communication. Lots of it.

I've been polyamorous for almost 20 years. It works for me, though it's obviously not for everyone. Sometimes it's challenging, but it's almost always tremendously rewarding.

And yes, I'm happy to answer reasonable questions if people are curious.

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1240 kcal

Fat: 33.17g | Prot: 69.09g | Carb: 169.18g.   Breakfast: cream, irish oatmeal, Sugar. Lunch: apple sauce, Hoser's split pea and pancetta soup. Dinner: Mango Habanero Sausage, Hoser's miso tomato soup. Snacks/Other: Topping for fruit crisp, peaches, chobani blueberry. more...