The desire to cheat - on what I eat, on what I post

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Posted: 23 May 2011, 20:36
Today started out with good intentions - I wanted to get back on track after a splurgy weekend. Did all right at work, but when I got home it fell apart. I had twizzlers followed by chips, followed by Hershey drops, followed by a caramel egg - which was purchased for my son, but I forgot he can't eat them anymore due to braces, so ...

So besides giving in and eating everything in sight, I really considered not adding these items to my diet calendar "cheating" on my reporting. Does this happen to you?
... the journey continues

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Posted: 23 May 2011, 20:44
I do have cheat days. Some days I just want to give up. BUT I do record everything I eat. Then I can look back and see exactly when I did good and bad. I think the that helps me the most is.. If I know I am going to be to hungry and to busy to wait for a cooked meal, I make sure there is something there the night before that I can eat. Like today I had to go out my dad's for a few hours. I had baked chicken already cooked in the fridge. If I don't and get too hungry I will grab whatever is around. Have you noticed when you eat stuff that you stated, that you never get full??? It taste yummy I know, I wouldn't be here if I didn't know that lol. Good luck, tomorrow is always another chance.

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Posted: 23 May 2011, 20:54
Sometimes I'll skip adding it if its small , but very rarely and always under 100cal, I usually add everything or whats the point,
there is no cheating when your cheating yourself. I think then its called delusion.
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Posted: 23 May 2011, 21:01
I add everything. If I grab 1 hershey kiss or 2 starburst, I add them. They are all calories and contain other things like sugar that you need to know you are eating. By not entering it, you are cheating yourself. Absolutely a great idea to have something around the house already made to snack on that is healthy and fulfilling. I make sure I have fresh fruit cut up in the fridge, ready to eat. Cheese is a good snack too. I like that I can go back and look to see where I went wrong if I did. Good luck!

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Posted: 24 May 2011, 01:56
The food logging here is for no one except you. The good thing about virtual world is you can keep it private and not be embarrassed around your social circle.

Dont cheat yourself here. I get into "no logging' mode sometimes and my nice buddies here cajole me back on track. Cheating yourself is the worst form of cheating.

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Posted: 24 May 2011, 10:16
Thanks for the responses! I did log everything, and will continue to, but it is sometimes painful to see on screen what exactly I've been putting into my body! Especially the little pie chart of fat/carb/protein - really shows what a carb-o-holic I am! Love these quotes:

Jon.D - "There is no cheating when your cheating yourself. I think then its called delusion."

ruchi0112 - "Cheating yourself is the worst form of cheating."

Also thanks to willbeskinny and beware5289 - I do need to get some food cooked up ahead of time. I actually was "good" in that I didn't have McD's with my boys, went home and ate brussel sprouts, but then was still hungry and the snacks were around!

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Posted: 24 May 2011, 10:23
I know exactly what you mean. I do the same thing sometimes. For some reason I get it in my head that if I don't log it in then maybe I didn't really eat it, lol!

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Posted: 24 May 2011, 10:25
everyone has these splurge/"cheating" days, whether they're planned for or not. I find these binges/splurges are the worst when you deprive yourself of the things you love and don't allow yourself to eat anymore. No food should be considered forbidden and everything can be eaten in moderation. The key is don't go on a diet that you can't maintain for the rest of your life. It should not be a diet but a lifestyle change. So if your specific "diet" doesn't allow you to eat fruits/veggies/junk food/sweets, etc. then think about whether that is something you can cut out for the rest of your life and still be happy! Also one day of splurging will not affect your weight loss overall, as long as you don't do it every day! I used to feel really guilty when I would eat stuff that I decided to cut out of my life, but then realized I can't live like this for the rest of my life and as long as I only eat it in small amounts, it's ok!
Your body keeps an accurate journal regardless of what you write down...

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Posted: 24 May 2011, 11:05
Another side I find is that when I do log my "cheats," I feel better, because often the damage is not nearly as bad as I imagined it to be. Somehow seeing that what I thought was this disaster isn't really 50,000 calories (ha!) makes the whole thing seem more manageable, because even an extra 500 or 1000 calories in a single day isn't going to set anyone that far off track in the long run.

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Posted: 24 May 2011, 11:21
alright.....but say if you went to a chinese buffet. How are possibly goign to log all of that. Honestly.....not only are not going to remember everything but all the proportions are goign to be incorrect. What to do! And when i eat i eat!!! like.... 4 plates of food.... at least. -_____-

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Posted: 24 May 2011, 12:10
ADobs - love your signature!

Ninjapanda - wow, didn't think about that. I have no idea what I would do with a buffet meal - I guess I'd just skip recording that meal, or do some sort of rough estimate? I'm using the foods people have already added - like I had a cheeseburger made at home, I just entered a cheeseburger I found in the list, don't know if mine actually matched in calories - it is more that I have a list now of what I've eaten. I can tell if I've actually eaten more calories, my weight usually goes up a bit the next day if that happens!
... the journey continues

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Posted: 24 May 2011, 12:16
@Ninajapanda: That's why logging is so important. For me, I had absolutely no idea how much I was eating when I went to one of those things. Making a plan for myself BEFORE I go has been the key to my success this time arouhnd. It's the only way I can hold myself accountable. I've determined to make better choices for myself and that includes not only what I eat (though I don't ever deny myself anything) but how much of it I eat. For me, at a buffet, each plateful was a meal (and then some!), so if I filled my plate 2 or 3 or 4 times, I was eating 2 or 3 or 4 meals in one sitting. That was an eye-opener. Now I log every. single. bite.
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Posted: 24 May 2011, 12:19
OH you just reminded me I had 3 twizzlers lastnight!

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Posted: 24 May 2011, 12:30
It sounds weird, but when I do a buffet-type situation, I usuallly take a picture of my plate to remind me. I must look like a total goober at Sweet Tomatoes taking a cameraphone picture of my food, but I know if I don't I'll magically "forget" my tiny scoop of Broccoli Madness when I'm logging... that stuff is like 40bajillion (oh so worth it) calories. Smile

I'm with philafood, though - I have so often been relieved when I suck it up and log a meal that I thought was just going to blow the roof off, only to find that it might have gotten me right to my daily limit but not over (or barely over). It's worth it to give yourself the info you need.

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Posted: 24 May 2011, 13:36
Lisakp - what a good idea - taking a pix of your food when you are out
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Posted: 24 May 2011, 20:44
Alright.....I will know make the attempt to make the conscious effort to actually record my food. However, i am following the spike diet and i gym out like 5 times a week. Attempt to splurge(spike) one day. I really wish i could just be like look.... CHINESE BUFFET - 1200 kcal done and done. And truth i would've been at(slightly under) my rdi for that day regardless i just didnt have the discipline to write it down. Thank you!!

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Posted: 24 May 2011, 21:16
I think that we all cheat.. if we didnt would we really be over weight?
All you can do is remember this.. when you splurge and when you cheat or leave info out of your diet/exercise calendar who is losing? i am my own worst critic.. right now all i want are stupid cool ranch Doritos.. lol.. but the fact that id haveta log em into my diet log is enough to keep me from eatting them!

I wish you the best of luck.. YOU CAN DO IT!

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Posted: 25 May 2011, 08:42
I log everything and then journal what was going on during my day. Later, I go back and see if there is a certain trigger that is making me deviate from my diet plan. I have been in denial about my weight long enough. Even though it may be hard, I need it to smack me in the face every once in a while. KWIM?

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Posted: 25 May 2011, 10:30
This came at the right time. I had a bad, bad night and haven't logged what I ate. Too afraid. I did put what I ate in my journal so I can go back and put it in. I think, like dara, having to put it down might keep me from doing it the next time.
I'm thinner today than I was yesterday but not as thin as I will be tomorrow. One day at a time.


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Posted: 25 May 2011, 10:42
The use of the word "cheat" rather than splurge or indulge says a lot to me because it carries the connotation of doing something forbidden. Honestly I think every person trying to lose weight should erase that word from their (dieting) vocabulary. Personally there is no such thing as cheating in my program. If I want it, I can eat it. But I do so with the understanding that if it's a high carb food & a low carb day for example, eating that food could slow down my weight loss. It may be worth it to make that choice, it may not. Either way, if I'm willing to accept the consequences I am entitled to make any choice I want to without any guilt. I also chose a program that allows me to indulge 1 day a week so I don't have to feel deprived or restricted.

If this is a recurring issue for you, you should find ways to incorporate little treats into your calorie budget to stay those cravings, or maybe research other eating plans to find something that is better suited to you.

dara657 wrote:
I think that we all cheat.. if we didnt would we really be over weight?

I wouldn't say I became overweight from cheating, because that would mean I was trying to eat healthily in the first place & deviating from the program. I was in plain old denial about what was in the food I ate, I didn't exercise & my eating habits were irregular & atrocious, so it was a combination of things. I think cheating is really a mental thing.

Revising how I approached weight loss mentally has made the biggest difference for me. Be gentle with yourself, but not to the point where you're excusing inexcusable behavior. If you know you're not requiring enough of yourself then you have to own up to it & do better. But don't dwell & beat yourself up, correct it & move on. You may not do it perfectly every time but you will sometimes, & the longer you stick with it, the more often that will be. Don't give up!
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