People on Atkins who get bad feedback from peers/family!

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shae050

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 09:12
So I’ve been on the Atkins Phase 1 diet for 9 days today and I have a friend/co-worker who has been counting calories since January of this year and is currently down 17lbs, which is awesome, BUT she keeps trying to lecture me on how I need to throw out my egg yolks because they’re high in fat, or how I don’t need to be eating ranch dressing on my salads, or I shouldn’t be eating that cheese, etc. I have told her countless times that on the Atkins diet, it is a high fat program followed by protein and low carbs. I tell her how my body has switched from burning carbs to burning fat and by doing so I’ve lost 7lbs in one weeks time, I feel great, have more energy and I’m never hungry. Also, my calorie intake has been around 1500 calories on average per day. But she doesn’t seem to care about what I have to say, all she knows is low fat and fat free and low calories and doesn’t care about carbs what so ever. Which is fine if that is what is working for her, I don’t try and lecture her on how she should switch and start eating more fats and less carbs because it works for me! I just wish more people would be open minded of others decisions and not feel the need to lecture others about what they deem as right or wrong.

Sorry for my vent, this was just getting old! Sad
jsfantome

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 09:23
Most of us have been there...in one way or another, whether with family, or friends, or co-workers, or aquaintances! My best advice to you is to LIVE OUT your new lifestyle - don't let it bother you - have confidence in your Way of Eating - and your new found healthy feelings and attitude... But let the outcome speak for itself.

I lost over 65 lbs - and rarely ever said a word to anyone. By the time people figured out I had lost quite a bit - and were willing to jump in and ask me about it ... I just told them "I completely changed everything about how I eat, when I eat, why I eat, and WHAT I eat!"

Few people ever asked me anything beyond that. If they did... I told them the truth. If not, we just moved on in the conversation. I will say, many times when people asked me - it was because they wanted to TELL me that they TOO were 'trying' to lose weight - and then I would listen to their 1/2 schpeal on what they were doing, etc... and how they had lost a few pounds so far! I was always encouraging - for the mere fact that they were trying! And always offered them the opportunity to talk more in depth - if they ever ran into any problems or wanted some help - (none of them were Atkins - except my daughter) and everyone of them have since GIVEN UP - except my daughter! (down 14 lbs to date.)

So, let it roll off your shoulders - and look forward to your new LIFESTYLE of eating for good health and being fit, trim and ready to take on the world!!!

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shae050

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 09:34
Thank you jsfantome! Usually this doesn't get to me, but it's starting to get a bit annoying. I feel like she's lurking behind me waiting to pounce at every opportunity when I am eating to tell me how bad it is for me! Geesh! Oh well, my family is supportive and my fiancee is as well, even though he's a bit skeptical on how it can be healthy.

Also, way to go on your amazing weight loss...65lbs is a lot of weight and a huge accomplishment I'm sure Smile
gkcfm95

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 09:35
I agree, prove her wrong with your results. No diet is one size fits all, but if Atkins is working for you (and me!) then stick with it and she will see the difference.
~kelly
Sherillynn

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 09:39
I have a co-worker that does the same thing to me. She drives me crazy and since we are bothe nurses, we both tend to be a little opinionated so sometimes I just can't let it go! lol
At any rate, I got a lot of satisfaction from having bacon and eggs in front of her while she is eating her lowfat, low taste breakfast that would make me hungry again in 15 minutes!
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ranchgirl

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 09:41
In the long run, you will keep it off~ will she?
Best of luck to you~ Atkins is amazing, I don't call it a diet cause I get to EAT~
thqueenbe

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 09:51
My mother in law tried Atkins a while back. That was after my friend did it, lost 60lbs, then promptly put it back on. Honestly, I didn't lecture either, but I tried very hard to encourage other ways of thinking, yes. To put it bluntly...I worry about my family's arteries. Put weight aside. I didn't want anyone to die of a heart attack due to eating choices. My mother in law had a heart attack 2 years ago. No, it wasn't from a few months on Atkins...but it was from a lifetime of eating poorly. I'm still trying to not pass judgement; I just hope that you can see that most of us who are friends/coworkers/family and are harping about it in some way; are just doing it because we care. Some may not care....but I'd be willing to bet that most voice concern because they do... Smile
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shae050

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 10:14
Haha @ Sherillyn!

@ ranchgirl - Thank you, and yes I love the being able to eat and feel satisfied after as well too!

@ thqueenbe - Thank you for your thoughts and I understand your fears. Before I started the Atkins journey I was very much a fan of the book Nourishing Traditions and of Weston A. Price foundation which explains how whole nourishing foods are good for you...including fats and that empty carbs and processed foods are not the ideal diet regimen. It made tremendous sense to me and then a couple of years later I decided to try Atkins since the 2 parallel greatly.
thqueenbe

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 10:19
Agreed; Whole fresh foods are key! Smile The thing that get sticky is the high saturated fatty foods - like bacon, sausage, whole milk, etc. And though you could consider them whole foods - one could also consider whole grains and fresh fruits and veggies whole foods too. Wink
shae050

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 10:37
I agree... Well, I drink raw whole milk, but whole grains in limitations are best I think. Fresh fruit and veggies are awesome! Smile
Chazen18

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 10:45
I truly believe that everyone's body works differently. I think different diets work better for other people.. I think the processed, fat free, low calorie foods are WAY too altered chemically though.

I would tell her that your diet is working fine for you and likewise for hers and move on from her. She obviously has some sort of complex or issue with her self esteem because she is trying to prove herself right to you.

Keep your chin up and keep doing what your doing!! WE all know that low carb is the way to go... she'll find out later on down the road when we are all smokin hot and she is still a pudge.. lol I'm so mean.. I'm sorry Smile
Chazen18

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 10:48
@thequeenbe... you need to watch "Fat Head" on netflix... it tells you that by NOT eating animal fat you are actually increasing your risk for the bad cholesterol to build up in your arteries. Our bodies are designed to work with the animal fat and break them down. Not so much for the synthetics... the vegetable oils, canola, olive, trans fat and others.. our bodies don't know what to do with them. I really seriously recommend you watch that. I bet you would be really shocked at the information provided on it!
I apologize for any incorrect relay of information. Unfortunately one of my symptoms of MS is my cognitive function.. sometimes I don't relay information the way I mean to!!
shae050

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 10:51
bawhahahahaha @ Chazen18 - You seriously made me laugh! Me and my co-worker are about the same weight now, she was about 10 pounds more than me before she lost her 17lbs. I'm starting to wonder if she feels slighted because it took her since January to lose 17lbs and she complains about being hungry all the time, where as I'm only 9 days in and have lost 7lbs so far and am never hungry? Either way, oh well... I'm just happy this is working for me! Smile
Nimm

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 10:52
Chazen18 wrote:
WE all know that low carb is the way to go... she'll find out later on down the road when we are all smokin hot and she is still a pudge.. lol I'm so mean.. I'm sorry Smile


This is kind of the same thing the OP was protesting, but in reverse.

As long as Atkins is working for you and not causing any problems, more power to you. We don't all follow it though, and there are plenty of ways to be successful in losing body fat without an ultra-low-carb, high-fat diet.

I know you weren't intending to put down other diets, but....Atkins people can be just as guilty as the rest of us, in being true believers that their way is the right way. You just have to look at any of the threads that start "What am I doing wrong?" Inevitably, one of the first responses is going to be "You're eating way too many carbs."
Well...that may or may not be the case.

I think we all need to bear in mind that there are several paths to the same goal, and Atkins is just one of them. It gets boring adding "your mileage may vary" disclaimers to every piece of advice, but...it's accurate, and imo, important to make that clear to someone who may not be familiar with all the options, and is looking for advice, but hearing very different and conflicting, strongly-held positions...
thqueenbe

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 10:54
@chazen, I eat plenty of animal fat Wink Thanks!
Chazen18

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 10:55
It was really more of a joke than anything else... like I said in the beginning of my post, I believe everyone's body is different. I apologize that I didn't clear that up!
Chazen18

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 10:56
Me too Queenbe!! Smile I love me some animal fat fo sho! Smile lol
dadams10

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 10:59
I definitely think it's truly about each individual finding what works for them. I know people who have seen huge success on Atkins (and more power to them!) I personally have never tried it and found success in my own way (good for me!) What is interesting though, is while I never did Atkins (I'm not sure how many carbs you eat on induction, but I believe it's under 30 - feel free to correct), I do actually eat rather low carb myself, or at least what is considered low carb for an average American. I probably eat between 90-130 carbs a day, and I must say I noticed a huge difference when I made this change (I probably used to eat 250 or so). Right now I eat pretty much the same amount of carbs/proteins/fats.

Regardless of all of that, it truly is what works for each person. I have nothing against Atkins... I just think I love fruit too much to go more than, oh say, 15 hours without any Smile hahaha But I can certainly understand your frustration in someone else telling you that you're wrong! It's all about a lifestyle; and a lifestyle that can realistically work for you!

Best of luck Smile
Nimm

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 11:02
Chazen18 wrote:
It was really more of a joke than anything else... like I said in the beginning of my post, I believe everyone's body is different. I apologize that I didn't clear that up!


No need to apologize, you did make it clear!

I'm just barging in on the thread because I've been feeling the same thing in reverse lately...feels like the whole site has become the Atkins forum! And many of the followers can be very...outspoken Smile

This is not a bad thing though - if you're a true believer, that's usually because you're succeeding with the approach you're trying, and that's the bottom line Smile

pixidaisy

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Posted: 13 Apr 2011, 11:11
I don't do atkins but its the same thing for us calorie counters. I have a friend who is doing some kind of diet (I have no idea what it is) but we do not eat the same kinds of food. She started in Feb I started in August of last year and am currently 12pounds down and she is currently 20 or so down. She saw me eating cheese the other day and said "you know maybe if you cut the foods like cheese out of your diet you would lose faster." My only response was "I refuse to give up foods I love. I still eat my bacon, and I still eat my cheese, and hell I still eat higher fat foods because this is my LIFE, I cannot see myself NOT eating these things forever."

My weight loss maybe be slower than those on low carb, or highly restricted diets but I feel good about what I am eating, and I know I can make this work forever. Does everyone agree?? heck no, they never will but do what works for you and always have a set of witty remarks for the people in your life that do not agree.

If you get told atkins is unhealthy for you or that it will never work for what ever reason.. refer them to that new atkins book, and the website and tell them to get educated. Sometimes people are stuck in their ways, or stuck in the "diet mentality" and don't get that the only true way it works is to change your life, not just the foods you are eating.

Is there a diet that is right for everyone? Nope, everyone is different therefore how they lose weight will be different.

I think the only thing you can do is what is best for you, and take what others say as a grain of salt. Be glad you found something that is working for you, and work it to the best of your abilities. When you are at your goal and she is slowly gaining because she couldn't stick to low fat, low calorie or whatever forever just smile to yourself and know you did the right thing for you.

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