Are You a Motivator or a Struggler.... Which Do You Want To Be?

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radiochick

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 05:20
This is a posting from another persons blog on a different site, but it really its the nail on the head.

One of the things I've tried to do on SP is learn from others - both the motivators and the folks who are struggling. Here are some differences I've found:

1. Motivators track and pay attention. Strugglers have not yet mastered consistent tracking or think it's not worth the time.

2. Motivators are consistent. Strugglers stop and start, stop and start.

3. Motivators are realistic - they set achievable goals. I've looked at their Nutrition Trackers and they eat a decent amount of calories and pay attention to major nutrients. Strugglers set unreasonable goals - hoping to maintain the large weight losses of the early weeks indefinitely. They often eat within a range that occurs for me as "deprivation".

4. Motivators typically enjoy fitness activities of some sort and are proud that they can do something they weren't able to before. Some of them have achieved huge fitness successes and others just enjoy life in their own skin more and are more active. Motivators again set attainable goals for themselves and were consistent and persistent. They adjusted their programs as necessary. The mistake I see Strugglers making is doing too much too fast and (again) burning out. Just like you can put your body into "starvation mode" by not feeding it an adequate number of calories/nutrients, you can "overtrain" your body and experience negative health gains that impact weight loss by making you sick, tired, stressing your immune system or making you more prone to injury or accident.

So I've read, listened, watched...and I've taken away some lessons. Let's face it - up to this particular time - I, Jen, was a "Struggler". I made all the same Struggler mistakes and I experience the same results - frustration, deprivation, injury, illness and weight loss stagnation. I don't want to go there again. So I'm developing a closer mind/body relationship and listening to how I feel and act.


fredmugs

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 05:31
Great post!

Strugglers sound like every person on here who is doing Atkins. They struggle because they blindly follow the goals set by others.
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triaby

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 05:41
I think I am just human and alternate between a motivator and a struggler.....sometimes all in the same day...........Smile
Tracy

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mammasix

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 05:42
I don't see any difference in numbers of strugglers with any of the diets folks follow here. For every "I blew my net carbs today" there are just as many "I ate/drank too much and blew my calories".
I really like that post. At times I think I am not putting enough effort into my journey, but I always had small sustainable goals with the plan to get to them. I worked up to more strenuous exercise, though I still am not 'loving' it, I can tolerate it. I challenge myself to longer runs or more reps or heavier weights each time I go.
Thanks for sharing that with us RadioChick.
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radiochick

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 05:56
Whoa Fred! Let's put the brakes on that. This thread is not a diet bashing session. Take it elsewhere.
jsfantome

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 05:59
Fred, you and I have obviously not met! Smile

Definitely a 'motivator' - according to this write up ... but not sure motivator is the right word. perhaps more of an 'achiever' as opposed to a 'struggler'.
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radiochick

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 06:02
Everyone struggles! How long we take to turn it around makes a difference... a few hours, a day, a week, or more...

I'm afraid to fall off the wagon.... its too dang hard to climb back up! So I cling to the edge with a death grip!
jsfantome

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 06:08
Hey Radiochick - extending my hand to help you back firmly into the wagon! You will exhaust yourself clinging to the edge like that!!!

Seriously, coming to grips w/ your daily way of eating, changing some mindsets about food, and incorporating new habits to build a healthier lifestyle... will go a long ways to easing your 'death grip'!

Try making a new goal - pick one topic - and look up something about it and try to learn something new EVERYDAY. (it helps to reassure you that you are doing things correctly - for you - and it helps to keep you from making tooooooo many unnecessary falls.)

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Marlboro Man

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 06:12
i havent struggled... i havent given in to any craving, went over my calorie allowance, had a "free day" or the like. I work out 4-5 times a week and always keep my caloric ratio the way I want it, so sayin everyone struggles isnt accurate.
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SkeeterJean

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 08:05
Great post, Radiochick! Thanks for sharing!!
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Z'sMama

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 08:19
I liked this "others just enjoy life in their own skin more and are more active." ... because that's been one of the benefits for me. I haven't become a fitness guru, but I definitely enjoy life in my skin a lot more since I got moving more. In the past I always associated 'dieting' with struggling, suffering, deprivation. Now I'm starting to feel, quite concretely, the physical pleasure of being healthy.
StacieRitz

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 08:48
Buck Deblo wrote:
i havent struggled... i havent given in to any craving, went over my calorie allowance, had a "free day" or the like. I work out 4-5 times a week and always keep my caloric ratio the way I want it, so sayin everyone struggles isnt accurate.


Buck, I am going to have to disagree. I think it is very accurate that everybody struggles. What drew you to this site? If you never had a moment of struggle then why be associated with a site that give motivation, suggestions and accountability for proper nutrition and exercising. I am not saying that every moment of every day should feel like a struggle, but in reality I think we all start out (or become) strugglers before we can be motivators.
fredmugs

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 09:29
I don't struggle either. I found this site doing a generic search looking for nutritional information about a specific food. After I saw the site I thought it does a better job reporting diet AND exercise than any other program out there. It's a huge improvement over the Excel spreadsheet I could never keep up to date.

Yeah - I have been bashing the Atkins diet a lot lately. Any diet program that focuses on one thing at the expense of another thing (carbs vs fat with Atkins) is not a good long term plan in my opinion. I would struggle tremendously if I tried to do Atkins.

Pain is a by-product of a good time.
jsfantome

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 09:35
Fred, I am not sure what you hope to achieve by putting down people on Atkins. "Diet Bashing" is a rather ugly trait.

and by the way, did you struggle w/ that Excel spreadsheet? oh, that's right... you didn't struggle w/ anything!
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gnat824

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 09:45
Radiochick, I saw blog post and was going to post it, but you beat me to it! When I read her characterization of the "strugglers" it made me think of all those unrealistic challenges I see posted on a regular basis- "Lose 50 lbs in 2 months!" type of thing. A few people will manage to obtain these kind of goals but most of them will burn out or just fail. And when you feel like a failure, it makes it that much difficult to get back to it again.

I sometimes get frustrated that I'm not able to make the kind of numbers that I see others post or even my own personal goals like losing 10 lbs in March (a challenge which I'm not likely to acheive at this point). But then I think about it and realize I'm doing it the right way. My big birthday goal requires me to keep a pace of about 5 lbs a month and I'm getting there through sustainable lifestyle changes and a combination of cardio and strength training that I KNOW will pay off in the long run. For some people, the point of being on this website is to lose 10 pounds for bikini season. For many of us, though, its about something much greater than that- it's about taking control of our weight so we can take back control of our lives. And that's something I think the strugglers just don't get. That doesn't mean that motivators don't struggle- a few of you may have things figured out, but the majority of us do go through rough patches. The difference is that motivators keep their perspective and push through it.
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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 10:08
I was a struggler. I have no idea what kicked me into motivator, but I'm proud to say that it's working! Now I just gotta keep it up.
k8yk

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 10:11
I think everyone starts out as a struggler, but if you stick it out, we can all be motivators! Forget timelines. One of the best things I did for myself was saying "I am going to lose all this weight no matter how long it takes." You can't really fail at a goal like that unless you give up.

I will motivate you until you just can't stand it anymore, lol!! No need to struggle, life is good Smile
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triaby

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 10:14
I actually did not take this too serious as I found it a little "I'm looking down my nose now because I am a motivator and all you strugglers are going to fail......."

My view is that it is like all things - when it is new and fresh we are all eager and in this article a "motivator", when the weight loss starts to slow down and we realise we in this for the long haul a lot of us become "strugglers" - now this is where perseverance and stamina needs to kick in and yes some days we will struggle and other days we will motivate.

But with this site the days I am struggling I always find someone else who is motivating and I feed off that (yipee finally something with no calories!!!) - and I hope on days that I am doing well I return the favour.....
Tracy

I actually have a body like Cindy Crawford, I just keep it well covered to protect it!

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

♥ I am the captain of my soul ♥


Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live.
loveaic

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 10:34
I am for sure a "struggler" with my diet. Okay with the exercise part, horrible with the diet part. At least I've got half going for me. Working on, "struggling" with the other half.
Sherillynn

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Posted: 24 Mar 2011, 10:42
"I will motivate you until you just can't stand it anymore, lol!! No need to struggle, life is good."

I just love that quote! You crack me up. That is the best line I've heard in a long time. Sign me up! I want you cheering in my corner.

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