What was your turning point?

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Posted: 06 Aug 2010, 10:04
I'm going to share my story and would like to hear from others of your "turning" point to commit to losing weight.

A big group of us went to Atlantic City for a friends birthday. now, i'm married and so are the other ladies. while standing there some younger men or boys I should say came over and started flirting with the person I was standing with. to make a long story short, these few boys spent a good 20 minutes talking/flirting with about 3 other women while I was standing there. not once did they even acknowledge I was there. I felt so horrible. I left there bawling my eyes out.

trust me when I say that these boys were nothing much to look at, I think I was just hurt because I was completely ignored because I wasn't the "skinniest" or "prettiest". it really hurt.

from that moment on I vowed to get this weight off. I just had my second child in September of 09 and i'm almost to my pre-pregnancy weight. let's hope I can do it before September 2010.

please share your stories.
Jan 2010=185 pounds
July 2010=175 pounds

1st goal 11/30/10 = 155 pounds


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Posted: 06 Aug 2010, 11:05
My turning point??? (story told with a lot of shame)
Olive Garden May 29th 2010.....my daughters 16th birthday. Told the waiter to "keep the bread sticks coming" ......popped the button on my skin tight capris....and left feeling horrible and stuffed, ashamed of my popped button (not even noticed by anyone thanks to my plus size moo moo shirt!)!!! Remember thinking on the way to the car....OMG ..THIS is not living!!!!
Today...couple months later....happy to say capris fit lose and find WAY more joy in an hour at the gym then the "endless" basket of bread sticks!!! And happy to say FINALLY feel as though I am LIVING!!!!

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Posted: 06 Aug 2010, 11:18
In 2004 I had several heart attacks. Since then I've pretty much ignored it and went ahead and did whatever I needed to do. I have never really given much thought to taking care of myself. I didn't feel worth the effort. By last Fall I started having more frequent heart pain. I realized I was using Nitro a lot more often. By this Spring,it was getting hard to perform physical tasks without difficulty breathing and pain.Nothing wakes you up faster than facing your own mortality.

I found this site on my phone in April. I didn't find the best plan for me until May. Since then I've lost 35 pounds(weigh in is tomorrow,crossing my fingers for another drop!). I haven't needed Nitro since June. I am using my treadmill again and yesterday started a resistance workout.

He must increase, but I must decrease. John3:30

“No diet will remove all the fat from your body because the brain is entirely fat. Without a brain, you might look good, but all you could do is run for public office.” George Bernard Shaw

People judge you by your actions, not your intentions. You may have a heart of Gold, but so does a hard boiled egg.

“My doctor told me to stop having intimate dinners for four. Unless there are three other people.” – Orson Welles


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Posted: 06 Aug 2010, 11:25
Candyann, I am so proud of you. You are definitely doing a superb job.
Welcome to your journey - May it be prosperous.

Dear Lord, You are the beginning and the end of this great narrative called history. Thank You for writing me into the story. Though I play only a small part, may I play it well. May I honor You with my days and my choices and may I truly know that Your grace works. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
~Ariel Allison Lawhon

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Posted: 06 Aug 2010, 12:02
Tthank you Keli! I give credit for anything I've accomplished first to God,then to all of you here. Your support and advice have helped me be more successful than I've ever been before.

He must increase, but I must decrease. John3:30

“No diet will remove all the fat from your body because the brain is entirely fat. Without a brain, you might look good, but all you could do is run for public office.” George Bernard Shaw

People judge you by your actions, not your intentions. You may have a heart of Gold, but so does a hard boiled egg.

“My doctor told me to stop having intimate dinners for four. Unless there are three other people.” – Orson Welles


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Posted: 06 Aug 2010, 12:23
Ditto. I hope you all meet your goals. Smile

I've never really a had a turning point. At least not one that was memorable other than feeling like a fat cow and eating more food than my friends and (omg) my husband.

Since the beginning of university, I've started trying to lose weight on and off, and being young and stupid, I starved myself but learned well enough about the legalities of anorexia and bulimia to not ever get labelled that or I'd have to go to the hospital. Obviously that did not work and knowing enough about those two diseases, I stopped before it could be noticed and cause significant damage. People told me I looked great, and I loved the feeling. But, it wasn't enough to ward off thoughts of becoming so unhealthy that I might kill my chances of ever having a choice to have a baby and eating yucky mudpie looking things for nutrient from killing my digestive system put me off.

Now I'm trying to lose weight healthily...although those bad habits of starving myself still come up, but are getting easier and easier to get rid of...and FS helps..especially from reading everyone else's progress and their journey to get to where they are now. It's all very inspirational. Smile

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Posted: 06 Aug 2010, 12:31
My turning point came when my doctor told me that my risk of having a stroke or heart attack is the same as someone who has already had one. My blood sugar is too high, higher than normal, but not high enough to be labeled diabetic. If I don't take off the weight I will, not might, become diabetic. I've finally decided that no food tastes good enough to let myself become diabetic, especially since I can avoid it with weight loss. I've lost and kept off 10 lbs and my blood sugar has decreased. I'm having a hard time losing more, but I'm not giving up. Best wishes to everyone!!!
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Posted: 06 Aug 2010, 12:32
I had an "epiphany" at the beginning of the year. When I evaluated the big picture and where my life was going, my lack of focus on health hit me like a ton of bricks.

Sure, it was convenient to eat whatever I wanted. I was only 60 pounds overweight and I had no major health issues (except high blood sugar and cholesterol). I wasn't thrilled with the way I looked, but I stopped worrying about what other people thought of me long ago.

What made me have the "aha" moment was thinking about my boys. Sure, I would probably be around to see them graduate from high school and go to college. I may even be around to see them get married. But since I'm 46 right now, it occurred to me that I may not be around to see any grandchildren the way I was going. Adding 5-10 pounds of weight per year and getting no exercise is not a recipe for good health.

The bottom line is that I want to be around for as long as I can to be there for my kids. The selfish part of me wants to be around to enjoy all of the joys that life has to offer.

It also occurred to me that I have the choice to either live a vigorous life to the fullest extent possible and hopefully go out on a high note, or my life could simply sputter to a pathetic end. Barring any exceptional medical issues, the choice is mine.

Losing weight isn't about losing weight for me. It's about overall health. I have learned a lot about health and have lots more to learn. For instance, I didn't know that people who have large waistlines have a 65% greater chance of dementia (along with many other detrimental health issues). I don't know about you, but reducing my chance of dementia by 65% is pretty important.

I also didn't know that if I got to a healthy weight and did 4 hours per week of exercise, that my energy level would double and I wouldn't get winded walking up stairs. I didn't know that I would look forward to playing with my kids instead of dreading it due to my lack of energy or stamina. I didn't know that just getting healthier would have such a big impact on all of the other areas of my life - from professional to relationships to mental health.
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Posted: 06 Aug 2010, 12:44
For me, it was my upcoming 26th birthday. I know, 26 is pretty young, but it's the last half of the twenties. The last half of the twenties, and I've spent the last 8 years avoiding the beach, avoiding activities that require being fit (hiking, kayaking, etc), avoiding talking to people because of my shyness, dealing with low self-esteem. Life is so extremely short. I don't want to look back on my 20s and think "man, i should have experienced that while I could".

The weight is a small factor of a big project to change what holds me back. Removing fear and anxiety of social situations, fear of making an ass out of myself, is probably a bigger and more difficult project. I'm scared to get waxed, to get my hair done, to go to the spa, to go swimming, to wear a dress, to do anything feminine, really, because I don't want to 'do it wrong' or to be awkward. You know, a lot of my overeating has been to fit in, to appear normal, to not look weird. To change my eating habits and my weight, I need to overcome this fear of being different. And for the first time in forever, I'm not losing weight to meet a guy, to keep a guy, to impress a guy. This is for me, and to support my goals of living an exciting and vibrant life, instead of a lonely fearful one like I have currently.

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Posted: 06 Aug 2010, 12:47
I can't say I really had a turning point. I'm only sharing this so others who didn't really have a "this is it" moment can be assured you don't need one to do it Smile My moment came more slowly.

What actually happened was that I knew I needed to lose weight. I knew this for years, but didn't do anything about it. Then I got a job transfer and moved to Phoenix from Boston. The first thing that went through my head was "If I'm going to live somewhere this hot, I need to lose this weight." I also made the decision to shorten my commuting time. I found a house 5 minutes from my new office and gained 1.5-2 hours a day I used to spend commuting. Then I said to myself "If I had this time to drive to work, I have this time now to do what I need. I will dedicate the time to exercise."

So when we got settled here, my boyfriend and I joined a gym. Soon after I started looking for a free site to count calories and found this place.

The "Ah-Ha" came later. I'd say the real "This is it, I got this" moment took me one year to reach. I had improved my weight and health dramatically simply through the exercise and eating less. And THEN I got super motivated. And now I'm the energetic, motivated person you see today. It was a gradual change Smile

Congratulations to everyone who is starting or completing their journeys and everyone in between! The benefits far outweigh the difficulties in the end, I promise.
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Posted: 31 Mar 2012, 20:54
My turning point was my husband having an affair with someone whom I invited to live with us that is old enough to be our daughter if we had gotten pregnant in high school! My revenge on them destroying our 20 year marriage is my being smoking hot again and him losing everything he ever loved -- me and our daughter!
"I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle... But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."

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Posted: 31 Mar 2012, 23:10
A couple of years ago, my dad died of Type 2 diabetes complications. I'm the youngest of 4 and both of my older sisters have Type 2 diabetes. A year ago, I had my blood work done and the doctor told me that I have pre-diabetes signs. It kinda scared me, but I ignored it for the most part. Then a month after that, my brother called me and said, "The family curse got me. I've got diabetes." My brother is 4 years older than me and I saw the writing on the wall. If I kept this up, in about 4 years I'd have diabetes too. And to me this would be totally my fault, because I've had 4 very good signs that diabetes was in my future. I started counting calories and I totally gave up all cane sugar and corn sugar.

I'm down 53 pounds and as of my latest physical, all signs of diabetes are totally gone. It is a completely preventable disease and I did it. I got it under control. I will NEVER get diabetes. And I'm really proud of that fact.
155: After regaining 16 pounds. It's my goal again.
155: Goal Weight | March 17, 2012!!!! I did it!
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Posted: 01 Apr 2012, 04:49
I had a very good figure till i was 22yrs old,Smile but due to some health problem and doctor's wrong prescribed medicine i lost my slimy figure.Sad i remember the day of April 2004 when i got ill and that was D Day which makes my life hell. Although i have a very loving and caring family.. i am the youngest one in my family.. the most pampered child... but because i myself is very beauty conscious person and love to look beautiful.. i make myself depressed and irritating. Then with my parents support and confidence in me to look much better than before i started gym.. but again i am a food lover and also a free spirit person who can't even think of continuing my day today life on a particular diet chart or schedules. so i failed to make it. Then after few years i met love of my life.Cool .He has thin physique and i am quite healthier than him. He always makes me feel beautiful and have the confidence(same as my parents have in me) that i'll make it happen some day...that was my second turning point when i started all the best things happen to be the person i was... i know i am not regular still but i had shed-ed many kgs (16kgs) in last 2 and a half yrs.. without much efforts.. now i have promised him that i'll make his and my parents wish come true by 20th May 2012 AND I'LL DO IT ANYHOW...!!!Wink
Be Youself ...!!!

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Posted: 01 Apr 2012, 18:39
Razz When i couldn't keep up with my 7 year old just doing daily things plus i like the clothes i have and want to wear them again.

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Posted: 01 Apr 2012, 23:20
I ran a marathon--and gained 5 pounds!

I wanted to keep running, and run faster, so I set out to "lose a few" in hopes of improving my time. This sent me on the journey of real weight loss, and I discovered just how overweight I was, and what it takes to really lose it. When I finally understood that any amount of exercising--even marathon training!--wasn't going to solve the food problem I had had since I was a kid, that was when change was finally possible.

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Posted: 05 Apr 2012, 07:05
When the Doctor sat me down and said that from the results of my EKG I had ALREADY had a HEART ATTACK! That was back in 2009 when I was at my heaviest ever "non pregnant" weight of 285. I'm now down to 223.8 on my way to 167! Keep up all of the good work guys, it's sooo worth it! My motto: "Nothing taste as good as Healthy feels!" =D

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