Things I hate about being overweight

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 12:38
Thought it would be nice to get out in the open....feel free to share your own things...

1. Having a closet full of clothes, most of which don't fit right, and not liking anything in there.

2. Going to a party and eating like a bird because I feel like everyone is watching to see how much the fat girl is going to eat.

3. Finding excuses not to go when friends call and want our kids to go to the local swimming pool because I wouldn't be caught dead in a swimsuit.

4. Avoidig the doctor because I'm too embarrassed to get on the scale.

5. Turning down two friends who asked me to be in their wedding because I was afraid I wouldn't fit into the bridemaid gowns.

6. Going to the beach this summer with my family and only actually going to the beach once all week in the evening so I wouldn't have to put on a swimsuit.

7. Wearing the same wardrobe for 10 years because I keep thinking I'm going to lose the weight and don't want to waste money.

8. Always looking to see if I'm the biggest girl in the room.

9. Claiming I hate to dance when in public because I don't want everyone watching everything jiggle. Really I love dancing.

10. Worrying about my health constantly.

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 12:46
I feel the same way sometimes... I have tons of clothes and can't wear them because they don't fit right or don't fit at all... I also always avoid buying clothes because I feel that if I buy bigger sizes I will grow into those too... I have a great husband that allows me to buy whatever I want, and as much as I want and I can't enjoy it because I don't feel comfortable or happy with my weight and size... I waste so much time complaining about my weight, it just drains me... If I just sucked it up and did what I had to do I would have time to do better productive things with my life and not waste time obsessing over my weight...

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 12:58
I was that girl Sad until I decided I was killing myself with food and started slow and got better everyday!! It always made me mad because I make good money and could buy cute clothes, but was embarrased about my size so bought big tshirts to hide it all Sad and the beach thing too....ugh, worst nightmare...and although I still don't put on a bathing suit, I am getting closer!!!

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 13:40
How about -

Being forever afraid that the guy you're hanging out with will only ever want to be friends because you're not nearly as physically attractive as he is.

Being afraid every time a guy does touch my legs or midsection, afraid he's going to think I'm too fat to be with.

Forever feeling defensive anytime I walk into a gym or the pool wearing anything tight, regardless of how much I work out.

Having to work 10 times as hard as those skinny people that ride their bikes up hills with no difficulties.

Feeling like if I'm not on a diet and trying to lose weight, I'm a failure.
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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 13:45
I'd say the worst part for me was taking a walk with my best friend and her mom. When we went up a steep tiny hill I felt like I was hyperventilating. The next day I felt like I had done 3 hours of working out because I was sooo sore. That was my turning point.

I felt pathetic.

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 14:22
I hate how I sweat more in general and I'm kind of smelly. I hate talking about it, but I feel like here, no one will judge lol

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 14:28
Worst for me was/still kinda is

Refusing to EVER sit on any of my boyfriend’s lap or anything that required any of my weight to be on them. Even the amusement park rides that spin and push you together, Nope those where a no go!

Feeling like once a guy touched me he would figure out what my clothing has been hiding

Being the “fat girl” of the group

Having to go shopping with my friends and act like I didn’t like anything in the store when really they just didn’t have anything my size

Always looking to see if I’m the biggest girl in the room. Or playing “is my butt as wide as hers” “I wonder if my stomach sticks out further”

NEVER wanting to be in any pictures EVER no matter what the event. And the fear of when someone sneaks a picture them tagging me in it on face book for all to see.

Not being one of those big girls who loves her weight and is big beautiful and proud. don’t get me wrong I love my curves I like having a booty just not a super size one!

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 14:34
Here are some things I hated about being fat:
1)Not being able to borrow/lend clothes from/to friends since no one was my size
2)Buying clothes at a plus sized store (and of course all the cute stuff is expensive!)
3)Noticing how much more I ate/drank than my friends did when socializing.

Even though I'm about halfway through my journey, all these things have changed:
1) My friend who is a M/L was emptying out her closet and I actually got to keep some of her tops, and they fit!
2) I can now shop at regular sized stores, my jeans are still a size 16 but my dress size is 13/14 and my tops are a L!
3) I actually eat less than my friends do when we hang out. Just a few nights ago we went to McDonalds and I got a single cheeseburger and small fries, while my friends got at least 2 sandwiches a piece along with other stuff such as mcFlurries, etc.

It won't be an overnight thing, but it sure is rewarding. I changed my life on March 17th and I have gained so much of my life back. It's never too late to change and everyone here on FS is here for you!

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 14:36
Another thing I want to mention, all you guys have done so well so far! Looking at your weight loss tracker is inspiring! Don't forget how far you've come!

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 14:42
These are all the things I hate about being overweight:

Never enjoying shopping because it makes me depressed because Ive gained so much weight.

When people ask me "when are you due, are you pregnant?????

Not being able to wear all the clothes Ive outgrown that are staring me in the face when I go in my closet. ( I do have them put on my top shelf, but I can still see them!)

Putting off taking family pictures because I know how I will look in them.

I recently went to the ob/gyn to change my birth control. I really wanted to try the patch, but he said "it is weight sensitive, and once you get close to 175, it wont be as effective"!!

Wearing black clothing all the time because I think it will help disguise the weight.

Not wearing shorts in the summer because I hate the way my legs look in them.

Not even owning a swimsuit! I havent even owned a swimsuit in about 5 years. If we take the kids swimming I usually just put arm floaties and a swim ring around the kids and let them get in the pool- or I send my husband swimming with them.

My daughter saying "Its okay mommy, your behind isnt THAT big"

Knowing that I can lose this weight, but just havent tried at all (until now).

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 14:46
Personally, I'm more at ease with my weight than not. The thing that kills me is that our society sets impossible standards for you Ladies.

They give you barbie dolls as kids and her measurements can only be achieved with cosmetic surgery.

Your clothing sizes aren't measurements, but artificial numbers that they can just change whenever they want! A size 00? WTF is that?

All the magazine models are based on heroin addicts and look like someone needs to throw a cheeseburger at them! Seriously, the look is called heroin chic...

You have to put torture devices on your feet to show off your calves...

The lists are endless and tend to piss me off on your behalf! I have lots of women in my life from sisters to my wife to my mom to friends and the crap you have to deal with is ridiculous. =/

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 16:21
I hate that I am bigger than my husband to be!
I hate that he says he loves my body (RIGHT!!)
I hate that a have to wear over size clothes to hide the fat
I hate that I am ashamed to wear shorts (why so everyone can "admire" the cellulite
I hate that I have gained 60 pounds for absolutely NO reason
I hate that all the cute clothes are under a size 10
I hate that I work out 10 times harder then skinny girls and I feel like nothing is happening.(I think they go to the gym to make us feel bad LOL)
I hate not feeling good about the way I look!
I hate having my picture taken I don't want anyone to remember me as FAT
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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 16:38
It's nice to know I'm not alone!! I could add just about all the comments to my list as well. Just more motivation to keep going... Hopefully by this time next year or sooner, we'll be able to put it in the past tense....things I hated about being overweight.

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 17:48
I can relate to many of these. I think it's a good idea to follow up with 10 reasons you will love being at a healthy weight. I find I do better with positive motivators than beating myself up with all the negatives. Get all those negatives off your chest and replace them with the vision of what you want!

10 things I will love about being at a healthy weight.

1. Being able to keep up with my children.
2. Wearing a bathing suit.
3. Not getting the "When is your baby due?" question.
4. Buying new clothes.
5. Wearing sleeveless shirts.
6. Feeling stronger.
7. Walking without the pain of my thighs rubbing together.
8. Liking pictures of myself.
9. Setting a good example for my children and students.
10. Being a better version of myself.
Da na na

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 17:54
I agree Danana! Think of all the good things that will come from being healthier, the neagtives aren't nearly as motivating as the positives!

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 18:40
let me just say..

aeropostale, american eagle, etc.

my lovely group of size 2 late-20-something friends love shopping there.
and walking around the mall is usually our only escape from the babies.

but when you're too big to stand in the aisles between the racks, let alone fit into anything they own in the store... and your friend just can't understand why you're getting short tempered and asking to leave while the 16 year olds kinda chuckle and stare...

i have fairly good self-esteem, especially after 50 pounds gone... but that's enough to make me require counselling.

And yes, i KNOW they aren't really staring and laughing at ME...16 year olds wouldn't be that cruel, would they? =P

Oh, and part 2 of best friend is no longer a size 2...she's now 7 months pregnant..and looking ready to burst. and when she was crying about being "fat" (if youre pregnant, you are NOT fat, i don't care what size you are...) at 170 pounds... I wanted to die. Literally die. At 225.

Why is it, the people we love the most, who are also amazingly obsessed with weight and appearance (probably more so than I am, to be honest)... don't ever stop and realize when they're talking about "fat" and "look at that fatty" etc etc etc... they are judging us also? And "oh my god, i'm getting so fat" should be reserved for the other size 2 friends.

Oh, btw, another thing i hate about being fat... is that i resent my friends who complain about being fat when they're 7 months pregnant and still weigh 50+ pounds less than me. =)

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 18:45
I can relate to SO MANY of these. Even though I'm so close to my goal weight of 114, I can still relate to them. Like the shorts thing - I can wear the smallest micro mini skirt, but I HATE wearing shorts, and always feel super fat in them!

ETA - I started out at 242 pounds.

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 18:48
I hated that. People talking badly about fat people when I was standing right there. What am I, invisible?
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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 19:22
really nice topic Very Happy..

2. Going to a party and eating like a bird because I feel like everyone is watching to see how much the fat girl is going to eat. !!! I always think about that..i feel shy before going to a party, event or going out home...I just feel that people gonna watch me because i am the fat girl looool....Thanks god i lost my 10 pounds and still waiting for my coming 15 pounds loool

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Posted: 05 Aug 2010, 19:45
I guess Im an odd ball out. :] I have always been the bigger one. I have NO idea what it is like to be skinny. LOL So honestly, I dont mind wearing a swim suit i just have to wear a good, covering one. But I always have, so thats nothing new. I am pretty tall for a girl, 5'11, so I have always been able to carry my weight pretty easily, I use to say luckily... but really there isnt much luck involved in being able to be really fat, and only looking kinda fat. LOL, BUT Here is my little list of things I dont like about being fat:

I dont like walking on main streets AT ALL, for any ammont of time. I feel like EVERYONE is watching me sweat and be all fat. But this is something I am getting over. I am walking home from work now a couple of days a week. Gotta start somewhere right?

I dont like shopping for shirts and pants. It getting better now that I have lost some weight. We all know the story. Im 24 years old, and all I can buy is UGLY fat old lady shirts... my boyfriend surely loves those. LOL So I mainly wear jeans and a t-shirt. There really isnt much to work with at this point, but like I said before, its nothing new. Plus I know it wont be for long :]

When Slim people complain about their fat. I would never say anything to my best friends, I love them dearly. BUT one is like 120 pounds, and is trying to loose 5 lbs for her wedding. Its not that I dont want to hear it, I just cant relate LOL Go talk to your skinny friends about your five pounds. They will understand, not me hunnie Wink

And lastly, I hate going to the gym. I SAID IT! I would love to be able to go to the gym and work out and do the damn thing with all of the skinny fit people, and bravo for them , but I feel disgusting when I am around them! I am perfectly fine, until I enter the gym. I dont know why. My cousin keeps trying to get me to join his gym, but I cant bring myself to do it because its not a 24 hour gym and I cant go in the middle of the night when no one else is there so no one will see me. This too is something I need to get over.. sigh. I know it really doesnt matter what people think about me when I am trying to turn my life around but ugh. So scared to do it. I will tho, soon. I will. Right now, walking home from work. LOL Thanks for this topic :] It is good to know we arent alone,

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