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godlybuns

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Posted: 15 May 2009, 06:55
I had my first child on march 3rd and am now finding it hard to lose all my baby weight. I weighed 155 when I got pregnant and at the time of delivery was a whopping 211!! Now 10 weeks later I am sitting at 169. I want to be back to 155 by july for my anniversary and 130 by october. But I am fining it hard to find a colorie balance. I am breast feeding so if I cut my calories too much and exerise too much it affects my production. Any one with advice or personal stories they want to share I greatly encourage them to share!
Nichole
DanaDowning

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Posted: 15 May 2009, 07:30
My babay is 5 1/2 months old. I tried to diet when he was a mnth old. It is very hard to do because your body is still trying to get back to normal. Dont be suprised if it takes a while to see weight loss. Just eat healthy and give yourself sometime to heal. I got that advice from a buddy on here. (Thanks Jana lol) Congratulations on the new baby! They are the best!
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godlybuns

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Posted: 15 May 2009, 07:57
DanaDowning wrote:
My babay is 5 1/2 months old. I tried to diet when he was a mnth old. It is very hard to do because your body is still trying to get back to normal. Dont be suprised if it takes a while to see weight loss. Just eat healthy and give yourself sometime to heal. I got that advice from a buddy on here. (Thanks Jana lol) Congratulations on the new baby! They are the best!


Thank you for the support!! It just seems that all the new mothers I see around here the weight just falls off! That and they don't gain nearly as much as I did ( most of the girls around here gain a max of 20 lbs!)
Nichole
DanaDowning

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Posted: 15 May 2009, 08:16
It must be nice to gain only 20 pounds. With my first one i gained 70 pounds and this one i gained 35 i think. It could have been more. I aam trying to get to the weight i was Christmas 07 because i didnt get pregnant until Febuary of 08. I had lost 90 pounds when i found out i was pregnant and it was all the weight from when my 4 year old at that time had been born. Dont give upe! Stick with us and you will make it!
Dana Downing
Deana Garcia

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Posted: 15 May 2009, 08:30
I delivered at 212! After delivery I did not exercise or anything. I recommend working out after delivery... I just wish someone told me to do so back then!

Eventually I want to be a healthy weight; and that means leaving a whole person behind.

dm_lytle

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Posted: 15 May 2009, 12:14
After I had my daughter I had a little less than 4 months before our wedding and I had to lose weight to fit into my wedding dress, I had already bought before I found out I was pregnant. I did pilates and walked and kept my calories to 1400-1600 a day to make sure you have enough fuel to take care of that baby. I lost about 15 pounds in that time.
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lasandra

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Posted: 15 May 2009, 13:15
godlybuns, I'm in a similar boat. I was 145lbs before I got pregnant and gave birth at about 204lbs! Now, I am 175lbs, but want to be 135lbs by December. I am doing Walk Away The Pounds DVD's and trying to do no more than 1700 calories a day. The weight seems to be leaving VERY slowly.
beets_yum

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Posted: 15 May 2009, 23:26
Hmm. I totally feel your pain! I had a really hard time losing weight while I was nursing. I was also so exhausted and thirsty I would skip meals and then jam 2 candy bars in my mouth. So you are already doing much better than me!

You need to make sure, as Dm said, that you're getting enough calories. You should be able to find a calorie calculator (use google) and then add in 300-500 extra cals for milk production.

Right now, you should be focusing on being healthy for you little one. I know for sure how hard it is to deal with being heavy after pregnancy. It made me feel really bad about myself. I know it contributed to my postpartum depression. But be patient with yourself. You brought a new life into this world barely 8 weeks ago!

Focus on making new healthy habits. Eat more veggies. TRy to not eat any processed foods. (I've been losing pretty easily by eating significantly more veggies and cutting back on meat and dairy, processed foods and sweeteners.) Figure out some healthy, filling meals you can make and eat for a few days--like a bean salad.

And I totally know how you feel--Iwhen I looked around all I saw were skinny women with babies. I felt SO BAD about myself. I felt (and still feel terrible when I see pics even from 2 mos ago) like I was a weak, slobby, pathetic person. How come, I thought, all these other women have babies and they just lose the weight? A few of my friends kept saying how they couldn't STOP the weight loss while breastfeeding. Not me!

Focus on getting back your ab strength. SKip crunches for now and focus on exercises that work your core. Try these--they are great: http://www.fitpregnancy.co.za/content.php?sec=getfit&year=2009&month=04&doc=Belly_there.html

Getting some ab strength back will help you no matter what else you do--but will especially help your back. This will be critical as your little one gets heavier! Walk with your baby too. It's so great to get outside--these first few months are so tough.

This is a great site, not sure if you know it: http://www.home.kellymom.net/nutrition/mom/mom-weightloss.html ("Can I Diet While Breastfeeding?"Wink


"An exclusively breastfeeding mother, on average, needs to take in 300-500 calories per day above what was needed to maintain pre-pregnancy weight. Since the recommended added calories during the last two trimesters of pregnancy is 300 calories/day, an exclusively breastfeeding mother will typically need either the same amount of calories she was getting at the end of pregnancy, or up to 200 additional calories per day. That's the equivalent of adding 1-2 healthy snacks per day.

Per Breastfeeding and Human Lactation (Riordan, 2004, p. 43Cool, "The amount of energy needed by lactating mothers continues to be debated. The lactating mother need not maintain a markedly higher caloric intake than that maintained prior to pregnancy: in most cases, 400-500 calories in excess of that which is needed to maintain the mother's body weight is sufficient."
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godlybuns

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Posted: 16 May 2009, 18:56
Thanks everyone. It nice to hear from other mothers who actually understand what is going on. It is amazing what a few encouraging words can do!
Nichole
Morganna

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Posted: 16 May 2009, 20:33
I was also one of those mothers who did not lose a single kilo while breastfeeding,so started trying to lose it by restricting what foods i ate.I thought i was getting enough,,, but then my milk started to fall away rapidly, and bubby started to lose weight, and fail to thrive badly. I then had to get supliments and medication to keep my milk up as he was highly allergic to dairy, so needed my milk to survive. Making sure you get enough calories is soooo important,, as i was not getting anywhere near enough,, and my body went into starvation mode, where it stored the fats I was getting, and started to fail to make milk. Luckily i was told where i was going wrong before breastfeeding failed altogether. Look in the mirror and be proud of yourself!! your body is what has given your baby life,, and as the saying goes "mother is the word for god on the lips of children",,, you are the whole world to that little baby, so go easy on yourself and just eat healthily,,, and enjoy being a mum Very Happy
Congratulations by the way!!
godlybuns

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Posted: 18 May 2009, 11:37
Morganna-- wow thank you! That was such a mood booster and eye opening. I am so scared that my milk production will go down. I am not quite sure how fast it will do so if it does and if there will be enough time me for me to realize it and 'rescue' it. I have to lose weight ( I am in the military and there are consquences if I don't meet their weight standards) but I don't want to deprive my child of breast milk.
It is odd how in a way I am not embarrassed of my body, I am proud. I brought a new life into the world and if I have to sacrifice a 'hot bod' for it then so be it.

Thank you!
Hope you little one is doing better!
Nichole
beets_yum

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Posted: 18 May 2009, 13:26
Godlybuns, it sounds like you have a really healthy attitude towards your body. You should be proud of your body! In that case, why worry about being at a certain number on the scale by a certain day? Commit to being healthy for you and your baby, continue loving yourself, and worry about the scale later.
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godlybuns

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Posted: 18 May 2009, 13:47
beets_yum wrote:
Godlybuns, it sounds like you have a really healthy attitude towards your body. You should be proud of your body! In that case, why worry about being at a certain number on the scale by a certain day? Commit to being healthy for you and your baby, continue loving yourself, and worry about the scale later.


I wish I could not worry about the scale. I have to be down to at least 140 before october ( I know lots of time but I still worry) or there will be repercussions at work. I am almost at the point where I don't care abou that so much anymore anyways. My child is way more important to me than what the military thinks about my weight!

Thank you for the positive feedback!
Nichole
Bronze60

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Posted: 27 May 2009, 22:43
You should probably focus on the exercise and not go too hard on the calorie reduction. As you get your muscles toned and build back up, your fat will reduce. It looks like you need to lose 29 pounds in 4 - 5 months and that's doable at 1 - 2 lbs/week if you focus on burning more rather than eating less.
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lenny

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Posted: 28 May 2009, 09:25
As a new father I know the feeling - think it's b/c less focus on what I eat as time poor

Will improve once I get a few hours of sleep I hope !
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Cadbury

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Posted: 29 May 2009, 18:58
Hi! I'm new here (as of today) but I'm in the same boat. I had our first daughter on Feb 21st weighing 178lbs and pre preg I was 145. I am now 165 and want to lose it TODAY!! Lol. I'm trying weight watchers for the first time - I'm hoping it works. I am the queen of sabotaging myself though... as soon as I THINK the word diet, I bake a batch of buttertarts. Not my best move... Anyways, I just started this week and so far, really good. Any motivation is welcome - any tips would be greatly appreciated!! Godlybuns, I will so motivate you, if you motivate me! I'm nursing too.
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