SABOTAGE! Is any one else running Into this?

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Yves336

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Posted: 21 Feb 2015, 18:18
I told my mother that I was taking the no bread for a month challenge. Out of the blue she invites me to breakfast for cinnamon rolls from scratch. MY WEAKNESS! I buckled. I went and ate a lot of them. Now why would someone intentionally do that? Is this happening to anyone else?
gloriousgams

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Posted: 21 Feb 2015, 18:25
It's your mom and you feel obligated, she probably forgot about your no bread diet, but next time try "sampling" a bite then take the rest of your roll home and put it in the freezer, you can have it one day in the future and they freeze well.
Yves336

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Posted: 21 Feb 2015, 18:41
Eating like that has not come to me naturally yet. Eat a bit and save the rest for later. But that would have been the perfect thing to do. I will have to remember that in the future.
wholefoodnut

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Posted: 21 Feb 2015, 21:09
all the time. it's hard sometimes. I do the blame it on my doc thing, tends to work and no hard feelings.
"The way we eat in America makes us sick, and if we change our diet--simply incrementally-- we will be healthier." Mark Bittman Food Matters

Jeri
Yves336

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Posted: 22 Feb 2015, 10:26
Hey, that is a great idea! My doc DID tell me to lose weight. No one needs to know the details. If I said no on my own authority everybody would just talk me down. No one will go against a doctor. This is great. It gives me more power to say no. I am at a stage where it is pretty easy to talk me into eating stuff I shouldn't. Thanks Wholefoodnut.
wholefoodnut

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Posted: 22 Feb 2015, 13:13
my ortho doc threatened me with a looming knee replacement unless I lost weight and started doing both cardio and strength training, I had days I could hardly walk, limped constantly. 60 pounds lighter and working out, no more cane, pain is rare, I'm doing great. Exercise in mandatory for life.
"The way we eat in America makes us sick, and if we change our diet--simply incrementally-- we will be healthier." Mark Bittman Food Matters

Jeri
Yves336

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Posted: 22 Feb 2015, 16:26
Wow! Your past is exactly like my present. It's amazing what losing weight and exercise can "repair". I am focusing on my eating habits first because of pain when I exercise. But I know that exercising in the pool helps. I can't imagine life without the pain even without the weight. Now I see I really can feel better!
wholefoodnut

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Posted: 22 Feb 2015, 16:57
Hopefully it will work for you! The doc's words were my incentive any time I would go astray of my plan. My cane hangs in my bathroom as a daily reminder to not go back to my old ways. A pool would be great! I couldn't fit the dues in my budget for the gym nearby with a pool.
"The way we eat in America makes us sick, and if we change our diet--simply incrementally-- we will be healthier." Mark Bittman Food Matters

Jeri
Sue-2

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Posted: 24 Feb 2015, 18:16
My hubby is the master of SABOTAGE. It usally starts the first day of a diet. When I went on Atkins he came home with all "My" food & a Gallon Container of my favorite Ice Cream.

I just started my calorie restritive diet this week. While shopping at Costco, he just couldn't resist sneaking my favorites, Biscotti & Sea Salt Chocolate Caramels, into the cart.
Nopunchbacks

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Posted: 24 Feb 2015, 20:05
Yup. I gave up all carbonated beverages and my sweetie bought me a Soda stream machine for Christmas. WTH?
Char60

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Posted: 24 Feb 2015, 21:14
Just asking, does someone really love you if he buys the things (food) that you should not eat. What is the message? And why?
HCB

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Posted: 24 Feb 2015, 21:41
Sometimes I think the husband (or wife or partner) may be worried you will lose the weight and be attractive to other people and they will lose you to someone else. Or, perhaps they just are clueless and doubt you "mean" it when you say you are changing your eating plan. My husband eats things I chose not to eat and has the good sense to "hide" his treats so i don"t even have to see them!
If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.
Char60

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Posted: 24 Feb 2015, 21:50
Thank you for that, my thoughts exactly, the partner just might might not be comfortable with you getting thinner. A threat to him or her. I'm the heavy one icy husband does not have a lb. to lose but supports me in this journey.. I over eat all on my own. LOL
izzypup68

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Posted: 24 Feb 2015, 22:16
I told my husband I did not want chocolates for Valentine's Day this year. He seemed almost hurt that what had been his normal gift each year was no longer welcome.

I try to remember that while this brings big changes for me, it also affects the rest of my family. Don't doubt that they love you. I think it is just hard for them to understand how hard it is to resist something you really shouldn't be eating when it is right in front of you.
CCerza

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Posted: 25 Feb 2015, 07:42
He just doesn't know what to exchange his gift for. Chocolates are so easy for the hubby to buy. Ask him to replace it with a very small box, and maybe a coupon of something that he could do for you. Anything that he doesn't have to go and try to "buy". My husband likes doing the same thing each year, and now we have gone from candy to flowers.
CCerza

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Posted: 25 Feb 2015, 07:51
As for my mom, My mom is on board with my weight loss. She has never had to diet and I have always had to diet my whole life. She is supportive BUT my girlfriends were a different story. Every time we went out, book club, social gatherings, meetings, etc. they always pushed me to eat and drink whatever they were having. They didn't want the fun to change. But, I had to tell them that I needed to lose weight for an operation that I needed in the future and that changed everything. I have all the support I need now. When I got serious about the "why" they got serious for me too.
Russ V

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Posted: 25 Feb 2015, 08:54
I don't think it is intentional sabotage, but we have been inundated with so much junk food, especially the crap that is advertised as healthy, that they just don't see the harm. My wife has bought into the low fat/fat free, rice cake, artificially sweetened yogurt junk for years, while steadily gaining weight. She just can't seem to grasp that what the food manufacturers market as good stuff really isn't.

So, I have to live surrounded by crap I know I can't eat. I'm just so sick of being too heavy, I'm no longer tempted by any of it. I'm a man on a mission this time and forever. Thank goodness for this site!
Marcela...

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Posted: 25 Feb 2015, 14:59
It's all too normal ... my nutritionist's always asking me how my "environment" reacts to my dieting. I lost 13 kg in 2013, and I want to loose 2 more this year, and my daughter keeps telling me "when are you ending this f** diet??", and my husband keeps cooking delicious plates full of fat (olive oil, butter!!) and offering me wine... and my mother inviting me with the only thing she can cook: carbs!!!
...you have to be strong and remind yoursefl all the time that it's you, and only you, who'll take care of the quality of your meals....
KEEP GOING! it's definitely possible to have THEM accept your change!! Wink
Nopunchbacks

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Posted: 25 Feb 2015, 16:19
I know my sweetie loves and supports me. The soda stream machine is great for the kids. For Valentines day he ditched the chocolate and we just had a nice meal at our usual restaurant.
CCerza

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Posted: 25 Feb 2015, 17:46
Russ V wrote:
I don't think it is intentional sabotage, but we have been inundated with so much junk food, especially the crap that is advertised as healthy, that they just don't see the harm. My wife has bought into the low fat/fat free, rice cake, artificially sweetened yogurt junk for years, while steadily gaining weight. She just can't seem to grasp that what the food manufacturers market as good stuff really isn't.

So, I have to live surrounded by crap I know I can't eat. I'm just so sick of being too heavy, I'm no longer tempted by any of it. I'm a man on a mission this time and forever. Thank goodness for this site!



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