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Posted: 26 Aug 2014, 23:31
I hit 400 pounds. I'm 34 years old. I managed for a while not to hit 400 pounds. I know I've yo-yo dieted. I will start a diet, and when I finally start losing weight, my mother orders me to stop. I haven't done anything unsafe. Can anyone give me any ideas to tweak my diet so I can lose weight. I need to find a way to tweak my diet in ways that no one notices.
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Posted: 27 Aug 2014, 00:33
cut down your carbs and increase your protein intake and drink water water water and NO sugar.
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Posted: 27 Aug 2014, 00:37
Cut out high carbs. No sugar, rice, bread, pasta, peas, carrots, corn or fruit. No chips or fast food. No chinese, pizza, or mexican food. No bacon, hot dogs etc.

Fill your plate with veggies, and 5-7 oz of lean protein.

Only drink water, morning coffee or tea is ok, no sweetners.

Trade milk with unsweetened almond milk.
Trade eggs with egg whites.
Trade mayo with Hummus.
Trade chips with a small handful of raw nuts.

It's a tall order but you organs and joints will appreciate it!

You'll go through detox from sugar addition.

You've got drive! You can do it! Don't let haters get in your way. It's your health not theirs.

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Posted: 27 Aug 2014, 00:43
Hi Buttercup, I am not shure how old you are, but I am thinking that if you are old enough to post on fatsecret you are old enough to say no to your Mother. Do this for yourself, all you need to do is eat a healthy diet and you needn't even tell anyone that you are on a diet. Say no to cakes and sweets don't eat oily chips and fast foods, just have a small bowl of healthy cereal or a boiled egg and whole wheat toast for breakfast a piece of fruit in between breakfast and lunch a healthy sandwich or chicken/tuna salad for lunch Fruit snack between lunch and dinner and then at dinner time eat a small protein with lots of healthy vegetables - No starving and the weight will come off. If you go out don't tell people you are dieting - if they offer you food that is fattening just say " No thank you I have just eaten before I came out and couldn't eat another thing" -end of story. Oh and don't forget to drink lots of water.

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Posted: 27 Aug 2014, 01:14
If you don't want your mother to notice that you are dieting, just eat the things you normally do, but eat less - eat smaller portions. If you are eating 5 pieces of bread with your meal, just eat 1 piece. Instead of 4 cookies, eat only 1. Instead of 2 sub sandwiches, eat just 1. Do your walking and other exercises. Good luck!
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Posted: 27 Aug 2014, 01:17
Welcome back Buttercup! It sounds like you've got some people who want to exert a lot of control over you. Hopefully once you get a good start going you'll gain momentum and be able to be a bit more firm with your mom and others.

You've mentioned wanting to make changes so that no one notices. My first thought after looking at your food diary is to try to eliminate (or at least limit) "white" foods. Really look at whats on your plate and think about it before you eat. Better yet, think about it before it even GETS to your plate. If it has white flour, white sugar, white rice - try not to eat it. Or at least not eat much. If a food is breaded, scrape the breading off first.

Eat more of the veggies offered and try to eat them without mayo or butter. An example is the Subway sandwich. Do you know that subway sandwiches can be made as salads? A 1000 cal sandwich can become a 400 cal salad. If anyone asks, just say that it's warm and you feel like a chilled salad. Juices - even though fruit juice is better than soft drinks it's still high in calories. Opt for fresh fruit rather than juice when you can.

A great piece of advice I've seen here is "eat the rainbow" - lots of green and red veggies and fruits. Small changes often lead to bigger ones! Don't announce "A DIET". Just start with small healthier changes to the way you eat and let the momentum carry you in the right direction.
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Posted: 27 Aug 2014, 09:27
Hi Buttercup and welcome.

Sounds like you've got a bit of a problem. Is you Mum overweight?

It does sound like you've a close relationship with your Mum, but sometimes, for your own self esteem, you've got to come up with a plan so you're ahead of the 'game' with your Mum.

I would suggest you choose your moment, when both you and your Mum are relaxing in each others company. Then gently tell your Mum you need her support and help. Tell her how sad you are, and that you need her help badly.

Perhaps, if your Mum is overweight too, maybe it could be a great idea if you made it a game between each of you, sort of friendly competition of who loses the most each week?

There's not many Mum's that could ignore a heart-felt plee for help from their child.

Take a look at some youtubes together, there are loads of seminars from some eminent doctors on there.

Do some research for the diet that would suit you, or both of you.

You really don't need to battle with your Mum as well as your weight.

Good luck, and remember there are some really nice people on this forum that are always willing to help x
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Posted: 27 Aug 2014, 09:31
I agree Buttercup, at 34 you really need to take control of your life and your health. Mom could be an enabler if she's overweight and it's the old saying 'misery loves company' so she justifies her bad choices along with you.

Being overweight is a definite risk for high blood pressure, diabetes and heart problems along with many other things. Make it an issue of health rather than looks and see where that gets you.

Hopefully when she sees you healthier and happier she'll want to follow in your footsteps.
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Posted: 27 Aug 2014, 09:46
Hello Smile I am on HCG but have a few other tips as I'm old pro.

What about cutting out all carbs on weekends? You would still be able to eat to your mama's satisfaction by having all those yummy Atkinks-y protein foods.
1000% agree on cutting out all white foods. If it's white, don't.

Also please avoid preservatives and maltodextrin in your foods as they are proven to cause weight gain and trigger cravings. Luck!
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Posted: 27 Aug 2014, 10:17
I know you've gotten a lot of advice, Buttercup, but the first step I'd recommend is to track your food. Don't change anything for a few days, just track. Then when you look back and what you've tracked, you'll be able to see some of your biggest problem areas and you can target those. Maybe it's drinking soda, maybe it's late night snacking, maybe you get in trouble with the size of your portions or have trigger foods where once you start, you can't stop. The more honest you are with yourself on exactly what and how much you're eating, the better decisions you'll be able to make going forward.

I think one of the biggest myths with weight loss is that you have to make massive changes all at once. The reality is that I'm sure there are some small changes you can make that will help make a difference right away and then you can build on those over time. Going for a ton of big changes is actually the reason why most diets DON'T work. Your best bet is focusing on those smaller changes that you can make permanent, to achieve the true lifestyle change you're looking for.
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Posted: 12 Sep 2014, 03:18
Thanks for the advice. I know I hadn't been on fat secret in a while. I always ate the flat bread at subway when I would opt for the sandwich instead of the salad thinking it would be less carby. Well, I went on the subway website, and discovered that this added a whopping 20 calories to the sandwich. I think from now on, I will eat salads. I think they're about the same price as a footlong. Do y'all think brown rice would be ok? I like the texture, and I like that I can usually find it in proportioned servings at the store.
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Posted: 12 Sep 2014, 04:46
Brown rice is good, just measure. It's part of my plan as it is a whole grain, though if you cook it yourself you know it's free of additives. Start exercising even if its adding extra steps every day. Get a pedometer that will track your steps. At 34 you are an adult, take control of your own health. Try talking as NB girl suggested. If that doesn't work just do it without your moms support and get healthy for your sake. At the gym I go to there are 2 women I've talked to. Both began their journey at +400. One recently broke 300 the other is close. They come most day's and walk the treadmill. They started out just a short time and are building up to more. One is starting in adding other exercise. They have both changed their WOE by making small changes to eat healthier. As one said I love fried chicken, instead of having it a couple times a week I now have it once a month, I'm going to change that soon to once every 2 months. They are excited about their success and their journey. They come together, they say it's easier with a workout buddy.
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Posted: 12 Sep 2014, 13:11
You could try these 3 tips to start off with.

1) At meal times fill half your plate with salad or veg (but don't add any butter or sauce on them). They will deliver you important vitamins and minerals and fill you up.

2) Increase your protein intake. Meat, fish & eggs are probably the better choice.

3) Don't drink your calories. Avoid sugary sodas & milkshakes. And look for diet drinks that are Only made with Stevia or Sugar Alcohols / Polyols.

Oh!! I just checked your food diary, your carbs are too high my dear. Try and eat No more than 140g of net carbs a day.

If possible keep your protein above 100g, your fibre above 25g and your net carbs Below 140g.

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Posted: 12 Sep 2014, 16:43
The question for you should be what is your plan? You have indicated your own diet. Basically you are asking us for suggestions to modify it but we have no clue what your plan is.
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Posted: 12 Sep 2014, 17:45
Find a plan that works for you and stick yo it no matter what your mum says!!! You need to be healthier for yourself!!!

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Posted: 13 Sep 2014, 12:48
I would also take a long look at the foods in your choices that are high in sodium, some days you're eating 4 x what you should consume in a day and that is a huge factor in water retention.

There is also a few choices you are making that should be scaled back in the amount that you eat, such as 4 cups of pasta cesar salad. Just because it has the word salad in it does not make it a good choice, the dressing alone is heavy and full of sodium. Each little change you make will make a difference, try 1 cup of pasta salad, 4 oz of protein and 1 cup of healthy vegetables, the more good nutritional foods you put in your body the less hungry you'll be.
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