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This weekend it has been hard to keep on the straight and narrow. I've used every trick in the book to keep my mind off family problems but its not working. My widowed Mum married my 1st husbands father (complicated I know)and I own their house. My Mum has been gone 5 years and my FIL/stepfather is now 90, in ill health, in hospital at present and now can't live alone. We live 300 miles away. He has a daughter who doesn't want to and won't look after him in any way, a son who can't and another son whom he hasn't spoken to for at least 30 years over how he treated me and our children. They are his next of kin. I am very fond of him and have known him since I was 14. Although he is fairly well off he can't afford to buy sheltered accommodation, won't spend his money on a care package and because I own the house he can't sell it to release the equity so he can buy sheltered accommodation. He wouldn't accept part of the equity from the house to put to his own either. My circumstances are not that good but not desperate. I have no say in what happens to him since my mother died, except that I own his house and have done for the past 30 years. I feel so helpless being so far away, unable to do anything to help him. I couldn't have him to live with us because we only have a shepherds cottage with lots of steps and an awkward layout. It's all going round and round in my head and I can't come up with any answers and if I could, it wouldn't be anything to do with me. I just have to watch helplessly from a distance and I'm not very good at that as I'm a 'doer' and want to 'do something' to work it out when I have a problem.
As I have no say in what happens perhaps I should put it out of my mind, but I can't help feeling that my Mum would be horrified with the situation and expect me to do something - perhaps divine intervention will solve my problems.
Diet Calendar Entries for 22 February 2009:
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944 kcal
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Fat: 47.34g | Prot: 69.03g | Carb: 63.39g.
Breakfast: lemon, Total 0% Nonfat Greek Strained Yogurt. Lunch: olive oil, onion, cathedral, egg. Dinner: evap, berries, apples, gravy, broccoli, cabbage, cauliflower, lamb chop. Snacks/Other: butter, ryvita pumpkin. more...
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2889 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Walking (moderate) - 3/mph - 30 minutes, Resting - 15 hours and 30 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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