flaxseed's Journal, 12 March 2010

This has been my best week for a long time. What has been different about it? I've been totally selfish and concentrated on what I wanted to do. It hasn't sat very easily with my conscience but it has lifted my spirits and given me a new outlook. I've acquired some of Info's discipline and my eating has been good. Its needed to be because for the past couple of weeks its been bad, bad, bad.

I've started volunteering in a Heart Foundation charity shop and I've been for 3 afternoons this week. Its amazing the things people give away - a 5 foot telescope still in its original box and wrapper, 2 olympus cameras, enough china to start a coffee shop and Eeew unwashed underwear. I've absolutely loved it - new people to see and I'm using my talents. OH is not too happy about it and when I asked him why he said 'because you're not here'. What did I say? - tough you have me 4 whole days and 3 mornings, get over it - and he has.

I've booked my train ticket to go down and look after Lucy for 4 days while her Mum and Dad go to Italy for the weekend to celebrate their 25th wedding anniversary. Can't believe I've got a daughter who's been married that long.

Hospital visit for OH's pre op assessment for his bladder op went well and I told them that he couldn't have it done until after 23rd as I would be away and they were fine and said it wouldn't cause a problem. He's been adamant he was going to tell them he wasn't having it done and continued in that vein all the way there. I didn't try to persuade him any differently, just smiled and said mmm. The female doctor smoothed his ruffled feathers and pointed out how silly he would be if he didn't go ahead and all was fine. Another good result - I didn't get frustrated and didn't let him push my buttons.

All I've got to do now is keep it up!

Hope everyone else has had as good a week as me and that the weekend is fantastic


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You are doing just the right things...you are taking care of you and also you are taking wonderful care of OH. What a good thing to help at the heart shop. It is amazing what people discard. I hope you didn't have to touch he unspeakable underwear. A clerk at our local Target store this week went into a dressing room after a customer left. He had tried on swimming trunks and took a dump in them...put on his clothes and walked out the door. For a better subject line, we have a gorgeous sunny day. The wind is quite blustery but with the sun taking a few moments outside is worth it. Keep up the balancing of your day to day requirements. You do have a need to take care of yourself while being the caregiver. If you ignore your own needs you will wear out. You will be the better caregiver for having met your own needs. It is not selfish, it is survival.  
12 Mar 10 by member: caroldiff
That's great volunteering and good for you too. Your hubby will get over it. Glad you are doing well with food this week. You sound like you are feeling better. Good for you. Keep it up. You are important! 
13 Mar 10 by member: chattycathy1955
Wow Flaxseed!!! A lovely turn in your journey!!! Sounds to me like you have decided to be 'matter-of-fact' about life, taking care of yourself AND OH, and making a conscious effort to "leave guilt to its own devices!!!" I love the volunteering and love your response to him. It does neither you or he any good to simply 'be there' every moment of every day. I was so pleased to see your entry today!! You are dear to my heart!!! 
13 Mar 10 by member: madaboutmoose
SOOOOOOOOO Proud of you!!!!!! You NEED that time for yourself !! And especially good to hear that food choices are coming easier for you. Keep up the excellent choices and enjoy these good days-you deserve them!! 
14 Mar 10 by member: sharonfriz
The anniversary trip sounds nice and you are so sweet to take care of your grand daughter. Continue to do kind things for yourself. You deserve the best. Great progress this week! 
14 Mar 10 by member: poet-in-motion
I am so glad you are finding something happy to fill your days. That is wonderful! I am thrilled for you that you stood your ground as you did as well! BRAVO! :) You deserve all the best that life has to offer and to do what makes you happy....just because! Wishing you much success on walking down this pathway of success and happiness.  
14 Mar 10 by member: dawn0001
You sound a lot better this time around flaxseed. The problems seem to still be around, but you are taking care of it all in perfect stride. I'm wondering how that thumb of yours is getting along and take it that your not mentioning it in your journal is a good sign. :-) 
14 Mar 10 by member: information
Thanks again for the gift tips for my friend! I will think about your suggestions when I buy the things for the gift basket this weekend! MUCH LOVE! 
16 Mar 10 by member: poet-in-motion

     
 

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