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So I caught Mike cheating at the gym yesterday. Ok maybe cheating is a harsh word. We were working out on identical machines doing 3 sets of 15 of whatever it was and he only did one set them stopped and got up and I asked him if everything was ok and he was like ya, I'm done. I called him out and he actually lied about it. So a few things are disturbing me. 1. My kid just lied to my face. 2. But maybe its bc I'm expecting too much or pushing too hard? 3. But he still lied?? 4. I don't want to body shame or embarrass him and I never ever force him to go to gym or work out or diet. I would have been ok if he would have just said, your doing 3 sets of 15 but I'm doing xx..or I'm tired or whatever but he didn't , he said he did it and that I'm waiting longer between sets than he is but I sat there and watched him do only one set. I'm sure I'm making a big fuss over nothing but I feel like if my son cuts corners when he exercises, what else is he going to cut corners on? I'm trying to teach him healthy habits .He's come along way and lost a lot of weight but I feel like he is slipping back into old habits. I also feel like Im trying to micro manage him too much and its going to back fire. How do you parent a child with bad eating habits who was once obese but has lost a lot weight but is now slipping up into his old habits? Let me add, he usually only wants to go to the gym now when he eats carbage at school/college.I want to be a good mom and have a healthy family but this incident has thrown me off.. let me add also, Mike knows better then to lie...I raised him better then that... should i confront him about his gym and diet cheating? I don't want to embarrass him but i feel like I need to intervene. any advice would be great... thanks..
Diet Calendar Entries for 11 September 2015:
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985 kcal
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Fat: 81.35g | Prot: 43.93g | Carb: 19.51g.
Breakfast: Egg, Cooked Asparagus (from Fresh), Coffee, Banquet Brown 'N Serve Original Sausage Patties, Albertsons Heavy Whipping Cream, Sugar in the Raw Stevia in The Raw (Packet). Lunch: Black Olives, lemon dill vinaigrette, Mixed Salad Greens, Onions, Roast Beef. Snacks/Other: Roasted Salted Cashew Nuts, Cucumber (with Peel), Colby Jack Cheese. more...
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2602 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Walking (moderate) - 3/mph - 30 minutes, Resting - 6 hours and 30 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours, Desk Work - 8 hours, Housework - 1 hour. more...
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Tell him about it, you Hey Mike whats up with gym yesterday?
11 Sep 15 by member: Rockiesfan
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Hmmm...hard call. You do not want to shame him, but maybe ask if he is feeling well, how is school, is he feeling stressed. Then say exercise is a great stress relief - maybe be doesn't like weight work - maybe he would rather do something else for his exercise now...I dunno. Or, you could wait to see of a pattern develops.
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Does your son have a goal in mind, or perhaps a picture to tack onto the fridge to use as an incentive? Maybe he's lost sight of what he'd like to look like. I think you should approach him, maybe after dinner tonight, and ask him what he was going through at the gym (do not accuse him of lying; he'll probably admit to it on his own if you just open up about how you have cruddy days, too). I think this is a good opportunity to bond with your son about something you can relate to.
11 Sep 15 by member: soonsoonsoon
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Kids do lie when you push them to doing something they don't want to do. He sounds like good kid generally. Maybe you should tell him it's okay if he doesn't always feel like doing it? But that it's better that he just tells you that. By the way, I have done it as an adult. I wouldn't normally, but I was doing some work for a woman who was a really hard task-master. She made me promise I'd finish a certain job before I went home, and I one knew there was no point arguing with her, so I promised, she left, and I went home without finishing it (I had good reasons). Next day she asked if it was done, I said no. It was the first time if ever let her down in a long relationship, by the way. She just looked at me and said, 'you really wanted to go home didn't you?'
11 Sep 15 by member: heidij123
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It does sound like you might be micromanaging a bit. I know it would frustrate me if someone did it. Even though you are trying to help, he has to do this on his OWN. He has to want it or it will never work. Keep trying to support him and be a role model, but it has to come from him.
11 Sep 15 by member: Suzi161
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so I talked to Mike about it. I let him know it was ok if he doesn't want to work out with me but at his own pace and I let him know its ok to pick and chose what he does at the gym.I let him know I was sorry if Im being annoying about the whole gym thing. He still swears he did them all. We talked about it and I gave him the whole "your only lying to yourself when you cheat/lie" speech and then i left it at that. I realized he's still just a kid even if he is of age and I need to back off and let him figure things out on his own sometimes.
12 Sep 15 by member: redgirl1974
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Sounds like you are a good mom!
12 Sep 15 by member: kclab
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