Yearofhealth2023's Journal, 30 August 2023

prayers for you and your Tennant 

I'm so sorry, YOH. 😥 No, it's not morbid to talk about it. After seeing what people go through sorting out estates, it's really brought it home that you need to plan ahead. None of us want to think we're not going to be around, but tomorrow is never guaranteed for anyone. Hugs, gal ❤️ 

there are no words that do this justice... none I can think of... but the message that comes through for me is about responsibility.. this is an important story to share and I'm glad you have💙 

aww. That is sad. I don't want to sound mean, but that was so wrong how he left her with all that debt 

What a Great reminder to do a living will & a trust! 

All that and also it puts you in a tough spot as a landlord. I hope she has family who can take her in.  

How tragic....and for her to be left in such a financial state and deep grieving to do...My heart hurts for her and for you. Prayers for the time ahead. 

Living will, trust and DO NOT LIVE BEYOND YOUR MEANS. 

🙏💙🙏 

Also, don’t try to live beyond your means. No kids, no pets, expensive 5 BR house 🤷 

Brutal for the survivor. Folk I know thought I was nuts when I prepaid my final expenses and did my will in my mid thirties. Felt kind of ooky at the time, but here I am, devades later and still kicking. Having the funeral discussion, and paying in advance made a huge difference as to simplifying the process. The impetus was my dad dying suddenly and the vast cost associated with his funeral and necessities. Mom and I went in together a year later and did ours, and together our cost was less than half of his, similar caskets and urns etc. When mom passed in 2015, it was as easy as calling a number on a card in my wallet with the only decisions to be made were flowers for the service and food for the wake. Highly recommend. 

My children know my wishes, one has power of attorney, I have a will and all other legal papers and no debt. Don't burden your family when they are grieving. 

Tragic news for so many involved. So sorry 😞. Huge relief when your death affairs and wishes are in order. I would not want to leave that burden to the ones that love me.! 

Wow, that's sad. I do find it strange that he didn't have life insurance. And without life insurance, an autopsy might not be performed since they cost around $10k (depending on the state). Everyone should get life insurance when they are healthy. If you wait until you have a health disorder, like me, you will have a hard time getting insured.  

Add to that, she needs to find a new job and close down or sell his practice.  

People can be very good at hiding their disfunction, including to themselves. Blinders, wishful thinking, denial? 

TUD, he had i think it was prostate cancer 5 years ago and had to wait 5 years to apply. His financial issues just started in past 5 years but he was recovering. Payment plan in place etc. had a much fancier life prior to 2018 than myself so had to sell his assets to give to IRS. I thought he was recovering from a divorce years earlier and completely understand why he would not share. I didn’t know him nor his wife very well tho we were forging a friendship and i like both of them. To all of the rest of you thank you. It is beyond tragic. My heart is broken for his widow. She’s only 2 years younger than i am and i could not imagine the grief. Recompforhealth-they had extensive family out of area that would come and visit so not so excessive. Kids, parents etc. out of state. And while it is a little spendy they work hard and want a pretty home. I get it. We have a nearly 3600 sq foot house for just 2 of us with a formal living dining room we never use but it’s gorgeous. Hubs has said many times we could downsize to half the house and i refuse. I have spent decade upon decade upon decade working 12-18 and sometimes longer days. I deserve to have a house that is spacious and pretty even with rooms we dont need. The only way i would be willing to move any time soon is if my child moved out of the area. She’s only a couple of minutes away from me (in the 3rd rental) so i know she’s in a safe area where she grew up. We all decide what’s a priority to us right? I will be grateful i got to have these two as tenants for the last couple of years and pray docs widow can sustain and thrive in the coming years and be at peace. She loved him very much. 

I’m sorry. Prayers!!!!! You just never know when your last day is. I’m like you. I have a fire box w my will, insurance paperwork, social security paperwork, etc. kids know where it is and exactly what paperwork they need. 

Oh wow that is awful. You are so right that we all need to be prepared. My oldest daughter is our executor and we have a book for her with steps on how to handle everything. It is just called being organized basically!