hoosier436's Journal, 09 June 2014

We understand, rant away brother. It stinks that she's your boss because that means you have to be measured and restrained in how you respond....not that you want to be nasty, but I'm sure you know what I mean. Anyway, as you continue to lose weight and get fitter, you'll also continue to show her that you know your body best and you know what you're doing. It's kind of a double reward, you get where you want to be and also show her you know best at the same time. Take that boss!! 

When she talks to you about dieting, just nod your head, smile and imagine her in clown make-up. Some people just arn't worth your time and are best ignored. 

Tell her you eat one chocolate cake with vanilla icecream every weekend and keep losing weight - she will choke and faint :D will no longer open the subject... 

lol..  

I have the same issue, they keep telling me that ur face is getting old and ur not looking good but actually I feel that am getting better and healthier everyday. Ignorance is my solution for them. 

Say "Thanks for your concern, but my doctor and I have it under control". And I have no idea what she is talking about with Weight Watchers. You don't have to cheat on WW, because you just include the food you want in to your plan. Just keep on keeping on, ignore her and remember "looking good is the best revenge", lol!! 

Rant away, people like that suck! 

You have got to read my latest couple of entries if you want to know you are not alone. This is exactly what is going on with me, maybe a little more severe because the blow up has actually happened. I don't worry about what other people are putting in their mouths, I don't know why people are worried about me. Obviously, I might be more sensitive right now because I am focused on trying to make much better choices. I don't ram it down anyone's throats, unless seeing me in the breakroom heating up my sweet potato is ramming it down throats. I have only told my boss and my one workmate about my loss. Hardly showboating. Really, some people just make this so much harder. :/ Keep your chin up, you are doing so good!  

I really relate to this entry. And the unsolicited advice applies to exercise too. In fact, I made a pen & paper reminder to "journal" about this topic tomorrow. I received some unwanted jeering from a neighbor lady this morning during my extremely challenging bike ride. "Faster! Faster! Faster!" she shouted as I trudged up the hill near her house. I have never seen this lady exercise. Not once. She does - however - have an antique bike adorned with fake sunflowers that leans against her maple tree. The "fat secret" is to keep a sense of humor and turn to all of us Fat Secret pals who genuinely "get it." Keep the faith, Kiddo!  

I'm sorry, teacher Try, I couln't keep a sense of humor with your neighbor. Even if I'd just seen it done and wasn't the person it was done to I'd given her an ear and maybe more full. That was rude beyound belief. 

I know, this sounds like I am repeating myself.. but thanks guys, I appreciate the fact that I am not alone- and someone is in the same boat as I am!! It is one thing that she tries to sabotage me-- and it is another thing that people (that I know who is not jealous that I am loosing the weight) can make a joke bout my weight LOSS (not bout me).. here is what I mean.. I was suppose to give a speech (a mini sermon) at church on Sunday- and my Pastor introduced me giving a little background (how long we have been attending etc etc).. then he said "Roger Come up here-- by the way folks if you ever wish that you can see a little bit less then Roger, your wish has come true.. He has lost 45 lbs... " Of course people laughed and clapped (no I did not put him up to it).. I can handle that kind of joke (if you even want to call it a joke).. it is supportive.. (and I know the kind of person he is.. pretty supportive guy).. But my boss on the other hand, is very jealous type of person.. that if something good is happening to a person she knows, she will try to do one better or drag that person down.. so that they are not doing as well as she is.. I really do not understand those kinds of people... I shake my head... Again folks, Thanks for the advice, and support.. Roger 

Roger - your boss is threatened by your success and composure. Yes she is trying to sabotage you... this may be only weight related or it may be perfomance / popularity related as well...... sabotage is a polite way of putting it. She is bullying you. In some work places they would call that harrassment. If she were professional she would be supportive of your efforts to better yourself and rise above but she quite clearly is not of that ilk and wants to make you feel threatened / lesser than her. The truth is you are better than that person she is trying to get at. You can choose how you handle her. You could be nasty and tell her to get herself back to WW as she obviously benefited from it once upon a time but she needs their help again. You could tell her that her her weight loss has aged her badly (if she is slim) and recommend that she get herself down to the local Clarins clinic for some anti-ageing treatment.... but you sound like too nice a guy to say such things. You could smile and laugh in her face and tell her she is funny (she doesn't want to be funny, she wants to hurt); you could giver her a level-headed response .... however you choose to respond, the only thing that matters is that you know yourself that her penny's-worth is only her mis-informed opinion and that YOUR opinion is the one that counts. GOOD LUCK combating people like this Roger and all FS'ers!!!! 

I just bet all the things that you could tell her are just swimming around in your head! Been there, done that lol. But I am betting you will do the right thing. Just rant to us! We love it! Rooting for you! Karma will bite her in the ##s if she is being nasty. 

Thanks Kelly, and kattay-- today I do not feel very nice-- though! I am glad I am working tonight instead of this morning. Right now I still feel like choking the living crap out of rude, Ignorant, stupid, people... yesterday and today I am having "anger" issues (no I will not act upon those feelings)...  

and today it did not help matters that I did not loose any weight... :-(