30 Aug 19 by member: Keilin_4
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The thing is, I am still thinking about that. I felt soo stupid, and I have felt that way too many times in my life. 😭💔
30 Aug 19 by member: Keilin_4
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You’re not alone. It would be good for you to join some kind of a talk group. Wish I could help you. I’ll say a prayer for you tonight.
30 Aug 19 by member: Organicgirl62
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K, you are not alone and those thoughts are far from rare...
and... you do talk to us and we be strangers... and by now you got some non-IRL friends here.
30 Aug 19 by member: yohoyoh
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30 Aug 19 by member: plantassain
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I can't talk in public 😐. I started to go church a few months ago and I am receiving a class with a small group and I am already participating. But my first time around strangers is a nightmare. I am only scared to unknown people. I am trying really hard to change my life not just from the outside but the inside. The inside part is the hardest.
30 Aug 19 by member: Keilin_4
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I am not scared with you guys, I feel like I already know you, somehow. It's my first time of everything I will have do that kills me. I even have been thinking about heaven. I am like: What if I go to heaven, what will I do there? What if I don't see my friends and family. I will be scared by myself, the heaven does not sounds like a place for me. me. Evfeel
30 Aug 19 by member: Keilin_4
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Ok. Ignore my last words lol. 😐😜
30 Aug 19 by member: Keilin_4
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I’m agoraphobic so yes, I understand your pain to an extent. I have found that just talking about it in a social media setting helps to relieve some of the pressure. I agree that counseling is a great way to help to deal with it and I personally get in a session as much as I can afford or need.
Just remember that you need to do you. Others do themselves.
The bottom line is, everyone has problems and they aren’t really sitting around thinking about you, what you are doing, saying, thinking. They aren’t judging you or conniving to hurt you. They are doing what they need to do for them because most of the time, that’s all any of us can do or focus on. I hope this helps you. You are among friends.
30 Aug 19 by member: DefactoMuncher
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Keilin, on that part I'm the same way. Since you know what kind of personality you got, you can learn to deal with it. I used to drink all the time in order to have the courage to speak to people. I would like to say that now Jesus is my courage, but it still isn't easy. I believe it is quite normal for introverts at least to have this kind of anxiety and half of the population is in that group.
30 Aug 19 by member: yohoyoh
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Keilin, you are very brave to be reaching out to people in spite of your fear. And though you may feel stupid in your attempts sometimes, I know you are aware that you are not a stupid person. We are not qualified to help you with this problem, you need professional help. Perhaps you could talk to your primary care physician about this and ask for a referral to a professional. Good luck to you. 💜💛💚
30 Aug 19 by member: shirfleur 1
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I 💗 you, Keilin! I hope you would never be uncomfortable to meet me (though I am sure we won't ever meet. LOL). I think that going to church to a small group is a great first step. I have never had social anxiety but I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and things were crazy for me for awhile. You will know me in heaven. :) And there are no tears or fear in heaven so you would not be able to feel that way. As far as the men- they didn't hear you or were busy. Nothing to feel stupid about! I think Chris and plantassain are right- If it is affecting your daily life- It is time to talk to someone about it!
30 Aug 19 by member: davidsprincess
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Kelin, much of what I've had shared about my life over the years has only been here is public but only on my journals. Huge anxiety due to spousal abuse. use and all the stuff dealing with that. It is often hard to share much information especially to co-workers. I have one who is "mining" on info that I shared. It does not make me feel good. I', OK with FS shared nfo.
30 Aug 19 by member: wholefoodnut
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I use to have severe social anxiety. If someone said Hi to me I was unable to answer. I worried about everything I said and did and how it was perceived. What forced me to get over it was being forced into situations where I had no choice but to interact with people. And to my surprise some people actually liked me and didn't think I was weird. Alcohol can help....or really backfire.
30 Aug 19 by member: fatoldlady
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I could’ve written this post! I take buspar and it helps. Not completely but it does help some. Now I realize I don’t know what to say or how to talk to people because I’ve avoided it mostly. I’m great at the ‘hey how are you’ but after that I’m lost. Before buspar I felt like I needed to hit something or run away. My one local friend moved two states away so I get that part too. Not sure if I can call the others friends or rather just acquaintances when we happen to be at the same game or event. Let me know if anyone is ‘norma’ with a SAD (social anxiety disorder). Mine is general rather than social but I still get it socially more often than not.
30 Aug 19 by member: peeperjj
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TriciaAlana thanks, I am trying to face my fear by exposing myself, I will evaluate myself, if I see that I can not overcome my fear of talking with strangers alone, I will see a professional.
30 Aug 19 by member: Keilin_4
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Yohoyoh, I am very brave with alcohol too, it makes me feel great at that moment. But I hate the taste of it, and I have not interest in becoming alcoholic, so. I am also very perfectionist, I have been hard with a few persons here before and I am really hard with myself too, I know that I am not perfect, probably that is cause of my anxiety too
30 Aug 19 by member: Keilin_4
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Shirfleur, thank you, yes, I am being brave, I know that I am not stupid, I feel very confident most of the time, it just happens when I am with strangers or with someone with more authority (my boss).
30 Aug 19 by member: Keilin_4
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Chris, you are right, I don't get anxiety here because for me you guys are my imaginary friends, I don't have this many friends in real life jaja
30 Aug 19 by member: Keilin_4
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D-princess💗, I am not too scared to meet a single person. 😁
Yes, I am really interested on improving myself, I will seek professional help. Thank you. As I believe I am not perfect I am not really sure if I am going to heaven . What I need to do is stop worrying about my future. 🤦♀️😂
30 Aug 19 by member: Keilin_4
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