redgirl1974's Journal, 14 March 2019

*HUGS* I understand where you are at. It's so easy to feel we are being judged by others, even though we'd NEVER do that to anyone else. It doesn't matter what our size is, many people struggle with self-esteem, but being overweight just exacerbates the struggle. 

Oh how i can relate to your post! Comments like those suck (especially from assclown co-workers)! All i can say is try to let it motivate you to work harder at your program. As you experience success, you will build confidence. ((Hug)) 

I woke up in such a good mood and with high expectations for today. it just sucks for me bc over the last 1.5 year Ive suffered thru some severe depression, a divorce, job loss, death of my brother.. I could go on and on. Im finally starting to give a sh!t about myself again and I hate it when I let other people make me feel insignificant.  

Use that as ur motivation 

Track every single food/lick/taste/sip/crunch that goes in your mouth, a lot of people don’t know but to truly lose fat u need a calorie deficit. 

Track before u eat, plan ur meals n adjust, track, track, track 

Sounds like you work with a bunch of assholes. 

lol, 74Jessce. :D I found your comment hilarious. So true. 

Keep feeling good about yourself. You are worth it. Weight has nothing to do with the person you are!!!! 

hey Red, stop and dig down deep inside you. When the going gets tough, the tough get going! Use it to motivate yourself to greater heights! Show them you're greater than their words.  

Ignore all comments. You are an individual and have a big potential in all aspects. Next time just make a pause and take your decision, is not bad hearing others but at the end make your judgment. What works for you and what is the impact on you. In the case of the shoes you can bring another pair in case you need them or just use the new ones - just stick to you decision and learn from there. Persons will always have an opinion and they try to be honest but never think on the impact to the other person. Find the simple things that make you self confident and practice!!!! and learn! Keep working on you ! 

Keep feeling good about yourself and keep your confidence high. Know your own self worth. Others can be very cruel at times. Hold your head up high and keep moving. You got this. 

Along the lines on what Rosio said, use these situations as "practice" time. These feelings may take some time to go away, but you can develop a healthy response to them if/when they come up. Don't get upset with yourself for reacting, that only reinforces the negative. Instead remind yourself of all the good things you are doing to better your life. I know easier said, than done, but that's where the practice comes in. Hope you're day got better and tomorrow is even better still. ❤ 

You can't control other's or what they do - you can only control how you choose to react. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Be kind to yourself and others will follow by your example. 

Hey. Give yourself a break and find 1 thing that you are proud of yourself about (it can be little). Now go in a room where no one is watching you and say OUT LOUD "Good for you! I'm proud of you!" It sounds stupid but it helps. Now go do something NICE for yourself. I know you know. I know it sucks. This day will either get better or it will be over eventually. You have successfully gotten through 100% of all the sucky days you've ever had. And I'm proud of you. Truly. PM me if you'd like to vent. :) 

Hi! IDK who DH is , but I can relate. I used to change clothes when somebody said it was weird or made me look chubby,or that I can't wear shorts cause I'm chubby. I ignore their comments because what I wear makes me feel good. Wear what you feel good in,that's all that matters. There will always be a person who doesn't like your designer purse and also people who love your baggy track pants (for example) so focuson you and the compliments you get. People are more likely to stare or glance if you look nice so please don't think stares are bad (as long as you don't feel harrassed). I love my crop top even tho im chubby and i love my poofy skirt even tho i look like a kid. i dont care if my expensive bags make me look prissy,i don't care if my pink eyeliner looks bizarre. you do you! also, compliments are good encourage ment and more powerful than insults but dont try too hard or let them validate you because those are not healthy. i bet the shoes were cute!!! i love outlandish fashion. i like to wear harajuku style ,please look it up! have a good day!!! 

DH = dear husband. I guess I shouldn't let it bother me and I hate that it does. It was so hard for me to restart again after being down and out for over a year and I won't lie, Im struggling. I struggle to stay on plan, to drink enough water, to go to the gym and to make it all work. When I fall off the wagon, I get back up. Today was going to be a good day.. I packed my breakfast and lunch and had my day all set and I guess what hurts the most is that the comment came from DH. Like he should know how hard Ive been trying to push thru this all and yet he was so insensitive. AND he knew he hurt my feelings bc he tried to back track but by then it as kinda too late in my book. Im going to get over it here real soon and sorry to whine here .. this is the only place I know other will understand what Im dealing with. Im going to stop being hurt and Im going to get mad.. and dig deeper to prevail. F*ck them.. This is my life. Ive done it before and I can do it again. Im going to go home and prance around in those shoes all damn evening!  

You need only to impress yourself....ever. You've got this and we are here to help.🙋 

Yes do that!!! I like it 

My husband is dead. Your husband is alive, notices you, talks to you, is concerned about your comfort, and thinks about how your day is going to go when he's not around. He doesn't care about cute shoes--he cares about YOU walking around in shoes comfortably so you can have a good day. Give that man a hug for me! You're a lucky woman!