Group Forum: What mind games do you play with yourself?

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Glacier Girl

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Posted: 12 Aug 2013, 14:25
The more mindful I'm becoming the more I realize all the mind games I play with myself to justify my eating and my weight. What are some mind games you play with yourself?

Here are a few of mine:

1. I messed up so I might as well eat whatever I want for the rest of the day and start again tomorrow.

2. I messed up so I'm not going to record the food and calories I ate because I only like to record when I'm "good".

3. I know I've gained weight so I avoid the scale so I can stay in denial a bit longer.

Brooke...

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Posted: 17 Aug 2013, 06:42
I have been combating these same mind games myself. Do you have any tips?
Glacier Girl

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Posted: 17 Aug 2013, 12:21
Brooke...

I promised myself not to think in black and white. If I mess up in one meal during the day I try to count it in my calories and not eat as much the rest of the day. If I mess up at the end of the day I will record the calories even if I don't want too so I can take responsibility of what I ate and see it and learn from it instead of staying in denial.

I also weigh myself everyday now. I know it won't show big losses by doing that but it helps me stay accountable.

I also acknowledge I'm not perfect, so there will be days I'm not perfect in my eating or exercising...the important thing is I'm trying the best I can at that moment. And that I don't give up. It's about changing the way I think and my behavior. I'm just in the beginning stages, but I'm no stranger to losing weight. This time feels different. I'm approaching it differently. I still play mind games with myself, but journaling helps me learn what my mind games are.
MNFats52

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Posted: 30 Aug 2013, 12:52
You can use your mind to help yourself as well. I have been seeing a counselor who has helped me trace back my food attitudes to a very young age. My eating is impulsive and there is a very childlike part of me making the decisions. When I feel myself spinning out of control I have been very successful negotiating with the child in me. He has been causing us so much pain and getting so little comfort. I ask him if I can make the decision on this and believe it or not it works. Crazy? Maybe I am but this gets me through the day sometimes.
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Glacier Girl

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Posted: 10 Sep 2013, 21:11
I have thought about talking to a counselor about my eating habits as well MNFats52. There is such a long history when it comes to food with me. I truly believe anyone who has 100 or more lbs to lose, like myself has more to deal with than just will power and eating less. It's a total mind, body and soul adjustment. There needs to be balance in the "whole" being.

MNFats52

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Posted: 11 Sep 2013, 07:10
GG, there is a lot of truth in what you say. I look at pictures of myself as a baby and at 6 months I weighed 30 lbs. that isn't normal. There is more going on there than lack of willpower. If I may, I recommend that you see a therapist who practices EMDR. My therapist began my sessions by hypnotizing me and from the memories recovered has introduced the EMDR which involves eye movement. I have spent so many years being held captive by my eating habits that you don't know. For the first time I am beginning to sense a more comfortable relationship with myself and my food. My point is that if you are 100 lbs overweight you need more than willpower or that charlatan Jillian Michaels. You need to know what drives your craziness. Good luck to you.
Glacier Girl

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Posted: 11 Sep 2013, 21:10
MNFats52...thanks! I've never heard of EMDR, but as soon as I'm done recording my daily food and exercise I plan on Googling it!

Good luck to you as well! Looks like you are doing great and on the right path. Smile