Group Forum: Support for others........

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tina10915

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Posted: 31 Jan 2013, 16:43
I am on fatsecret almost everyday. I read your journal entries, your new topics and your responses to others. I write when and what I can and try really hard to be supportive. I care how each of you are doing in your weight loss journey and know what it is like to lose weight and have someone congratulate you on your successes. My problem is, I can't be supportive to me. Anyone have any suggestions?
Tina

We can do this if we take it day by day and step by step~
RoundIsAShap...

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Posted: 02 Feb 2013, 09:42
It can be hard to convince yourself that you really do deserve to be happy and healthy. Especially if you are a selfless and good person. And even more so if your life is great in a lot of ways. You can end up almost feeling guilty about wanting even more for yourself.

I don't want to monopolize this post with a really long reply here. But I did want to share something with you and the others in the group. So I posted it as a personal journal entry.

Warning... it's a long post. You can read it here.
tina10915

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Posted: 02 Feb 2013, 16:06
Round, Thank you so much for your story. It could not have been easy to write or share. I am taking things one day at a time but I know I will beat the food demon. I do deserve to be healthy and happy so when I get up each morning I will chose to eat healthy that day and will tell myself I deserve to put myself first and I can do this. I don't know if you and your wife are on facebook but I found a health and wellness website and she is really good at posting 3 or 4 times a day positive thoughts and ideas. Really inspiring. She posted this today

"If you spend all your time taking care of others and no time taking care of yourself, eventually you will not be able to take care of anyone. Taking care of you first will help you be a better friend, partner, parent and worker. It is not selfish to put your needs at the top if your priority list. If you take the time to help yourself, you are better able to help others."

Her page is called "this is not a diet, it is your life"
Tina~
Tina

We can do this if we take it day by day and step by step~
RoundIsAShap...

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Posted: 03 Feb 2013, 00:52
Thanks for the info on the FB page. Putting yourself first in ways that don't detract from others is not a selfish thing. Her post was right on the mark.
libragirl4fd

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Posted: 13 Feb 2013, 21:11
Tina, you can do this. And, I think logging onto Fatsecret almost daily is a great start. It's hard for any of us to get and stay motivated. But, I think seeing that we are not alone in those struggles so very valuable. And, I tell myself that when I pick up an issue of showing someone losing half their body weight or something similar, that I'm sure it wasn't their first attempt.