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tina10915

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Posted: 28 Dec 2012, 18:06
I am now, again, doing what everyone does at this time of the year and starting a weight loss program. I have tried and tried to lose and I am a binge eater so I am having one hell of a time doing this. I am also not one to reach out but I will be dead by the time I am 50 if I don't get my life under control. My knees, feet and legs are giving out on me because of my weight. I am glad that there is a group forum and I hope more people start using this as a way to cope. We are all going through the same things so support is important.
Tina

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RoundIsAShap...

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Posted: 29 Dec 2012, 08:25
I know what you mean. 50 is only 7 years away for me and I'm starting to worry I won't make it there or much further. Actually I'm more worried that I'll ruin my knees or end up with some other problem that makes it even harder to lose weight.

The wife and I have tried a few different things in the past. The hardest part has always been sticking to them. This time it feels a bit different. Maybe it is keeping my motivators in mind, or maybe it is just because it feels like we can really do it this time. (Losing instead of gaining through two holidays definitely built confidence.)
tina10915

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Posted: 29 Dec 2012, 17:55
I will be 42 in March. We are not that different. What are you and your wife doing that makes this different? I am on this site, and I have started weight watchers. I have done weight watchers before but never in front of people like this. No one ever knew I was doing it because I was always afraid of failure. Once you fail you have to explain yourself. This time I will make it because my heart and sole is in it where it wasn't before. I also now have bursitis in my left knee. I am doing a lot of limping. I am hoping with weight loss will come pain relief. Thanks for the reply. Nice to see someone else going through the same things.
Tina

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RoundIsAShap...

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Posted: 29 Dec 2012, 18:26
This time I think we both feel like this may be our last chance to get the weight off. We're not getting younger. Both of us have had some pain in our knees and are worried about ending up crippled if we don't "shape up." So it kind of feels like "now or never."

Also the built in "cheat day" has really helped avoid feeling deprived (I can go into the diet details if you are interested.) Fatsecret has helped since we can add our foods every day and see the fat/protein/carb breakdown (there is virtually nothing I eat that doesn't end up getting entered.)

We tried weight watcher but we weren't able to keep it up for more more than a few weeks. I don't remember all the reasons, but figuring out the points for meals we cooked ourselves was part of it.

And although you *could* save points up all week and splurge one day, there were always things that one of us would crave and be thinking "I wonder if I can ever have that again?" I know it works for millions.. it just didn't work for us.

There's no doubt that it is time consuming to prepare a balanced diet, enter stuff in fatsecret, pack everything to take with to work, etc. We're improving on preparing extra portions in advance. (Instead of two servings of spaghetti, make four and pack two one-serving bowls ready to grab... that extra bowl was dinner tonight, btw.) But it is still a lot of work. Just this time I guess we're willing to do the work in order to get the results.

Oh yeah... we also moved the elliptical out of the basement where it hardly was used and put it in the living room. Being accountable (the fact it shows up on fatsecret) has helped me make sure I use the thing at least a few times a week. (Except last week when I was sick on Monday/Tue.)
Kildayan

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Posted: 29 Dec 2012, 18:42
HI Tina! Good to see someone else here Very Happy I have been having the same problems you are with the knees/feet/leg pains and that is one of the reasons I decided to start here with the hubby. We are working hard together and that really helps too. I would not want to do it alone at all. I've lost .4 lbs shy of 30 lbs so far (started at 311) and already my knees/feet feel better. They still hurt, but not near as bad now. In fact I worked 8 hrs today and come home to put in almost 2 hours of outdoor chores after working. I would NOT have been able to do that just 30 lbs ago. I have been blogging everything too. Keeps me in line because I know my friends are reading. Your welcome to come check it out here: http://10singapartofme.blogspot.com/ Glad your here and I wish you the best on your journey! Hope to see you around a lot Very Happy We are here every day adding our foods and I journal a few times a week. Will make it a point to come to the group more now that there will be someone here for encouragement.
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Posted: 29 Dec 2012, 19:05
BTW, I'm "the hubby" that Kildayan mentioned. Smile
tina10915

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Posted: 29 Dec 2012, 20:34
Well Congrats on your weight loss Kildayan!! That is a great accomplishment!! I am glad that I chose this sight. I can't do it alone and that is what I would be doing if your husband and you had not stepped up. I will be on here everyday. I work 7 days a week but am home by 6:30 every night. I live in Ohio so right now all activities are done indoors because there is 8 inches of snow on the ground right now. lol I hate Ohio!! My first goal is to loose 30 pounds by my birthday. That is 10 pounds a month. I think that is a doable goal. Well I am off to bed. Congrats again!! With much support,
Tina
Tina

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Posted: 30 Dec 2012, 11:38
We're in Wisconsin so don't even complain about your wimpy 8 inches of snow. Very Happy Which reminds me. I have to go out and plow the driveway after lunch today.

My theory is that perhaps people needing to lose 100+ tend to fall mainly into two categories. The first who join fully intending to lose their weight and get healthy... but who soon go back to old habits. There's a reason we are this much overweight after all. Plus our weight loss goals can seem so far off that it can be discouraging.

The second group buckle down and do what it takes and transition either into a healthy maintenance weight and lifestyle, or rebound back up once they are "done" with their diet.

I think both of those would tend to stop visiting the site and updating their journals, groups, etc. At least that's the best reason I have come up with for so little traffic in this group considering how many members there are.

BTW, I think 30 pounds in three months is more than reasonable and safe at our weight. I know "they" recommend 1-2 pounds per week but I've read and agree that at our size 3-4 is probably quite safe especially if exercise plays a role (don't want to lose fat-burning muscle!) Besides, if you even averaged two and a half lbs a week you'd meet your goal.

I'm confident I'll be one of the group who put in the year and lose the weight and then keep it off. (I have to much riding on it this time to not succeed.) It'd be great if a year from now, all three of us are able to say we've broken the 100 lbs lost milestone!
tina10915

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Posted: 30 Dec 2012, 18:57
I will be that person. My knee is really throbbing today which makes me a believer. I am moving to Florida in 2 years and would like to be able to go to the gym with my mom and race walk 1/2 marathons with her as well. She is 65 and doing all of those things now in Florida. I really appreciate the feedback from you and your husband. I like the fact that I can get on here and have someone to talk to that is going through the same things. I gained 30 pounds over Thanksgiving and Christmas. I want to start by losing that. Small goals. I would like to post a before picture but I have yet to figure out how to do that. I have one on my phone. I also started another group for binge eaters. Have not gotten any response but I am sure I am not the only one. I am hoping with all of this activity, Something positive is bound to happen.
Tina

We can do this if we take it day by day and step by step~
SherylInIowa

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Posted: 31 Dec 2012, 09:48
I just turned 42 so we are all in about the same boat. I wouldn't really say I'm a binge eater as much as I just like really good food and I like it all the time. What I'm trying to do is convince myself that eating ice cream is fine, but not eating it every day (or even every week...) and not eating a pint at a time. We also love to smother everything in cheese.

Earlier this month I was diagnosed with Celiac disease, so starting tomorrow, we are becoming a gluten free home. We've spent the last several weeks researching and trying to figure out what is safe and what is not. I'm hoping we will start to lose weight naturally being gluten free. I've read that I might be less hungry because right now, despite being 150s over-weight, I actually have malnutrition. Once my body can absorb nutrients it might not want as much food. I'm hopeful!

DH and I are doing this together as well. We have the same BMI, so about the same percentage to lose. We are bad in that when one fall off the wagon, instead of encouraging them to get back on, the other falls off too. But we are working on it!

Tina, I have tried and failed many times as well. But I remind myself that I am 65 pounds under my highest weight and I just need to keep moving in the right direction. I don't have to start over again if I don't quit! Remember, there are lots of us here for support Smile
Ever shrinking!
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tina10915

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Posted: 31 Dec 2012, 18:11
Sheryl, thank you for your response. I work in a doctors office so I am always telling my patients how to lose weight but, funny, I can't do it myself. January 1, 2013 will be the first day of the rest of my life and my first day living my new life. I have done this many times before and the wagon keeps pushing me off, but this time I will succeed because it is my life. I will be on here every day reporting what I have eaten and what I have done so that I can stay accountable. I am tired of carrying this weight around and I will also move in the right direction. Happy New Year to all my new friends and I hope this year brings plenty of happiness!!
Tina

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Kildayan

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Posted: 01 Jan 2013, 01:05
Nice to see the group a little more active now Very Happy Happy New Year! This is a year for change for us Wink I have been one of those people who have been on a forum and then just disappeared for a month/year and tried again...and again. Thanks to hubby he's keeping me in line and he IS determined so I'm feeling really determined as well. And if either of us fall the other will be there to pick each other up. I love how I am feeling lately and don't want to go back. Food just isn't worth it. PLUS just finding out (on Dec 26th) that were going to be grandparents is really exciting news to me and I want to be able to do things with that grandchild as he/she grows up Very Happy I don't want him/her to think of me as "the grandma that doesn't do anything". Good luck to both Cheryl and Tina! Can't wait to see us in a few months Very Happy
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Posted: 01 Jan 2013, 08:59
Yep, it sounds like we are all going through pretty close to the same thing. I have four main weight problems. My job is completely sedentary and most of my non-work time has been too.

Another problem is that I love food, especially really good food. I'll take the time to cook farm-fresh eggs with peppers, onions and garlic for a breakfast sandwich vs eating a quick bowl of cereal.

I had learned to steer clear of the worst meals (figure out the calories of a triple-whopper with cheese, large fries and large soda once!) But I still got a lot of my breakfasts or lunches via drive-through window.

And then there is portion control... or really lack of. A portion was "as much as I feel like" for the most part. I never took the time to figure out how much a portion was supposed to be.

Finally fast food. I'll take a good home cooked meal over McD any day but when it comes to convenience a drive-through is hard to beat. (I wish we had a Subway drive-through here!)

I can't do a lot about my work other than get up and walk around more often. Unfortunately, getting a counter top and standing 1/2 of my day isn't an option.

I am working on being more active. Moving our elliptical cross-trainer from the basement to the living room was a good choice. I'm trying to catch myself when I make a choice based on essentially being lazy and then make the other choice.

If I want to make sure I take something to work, is the only reason I don't put it in the car right away because I don't want to go down and back up the stairs? Then I'll make the little effort to go do it. I intentionally decided to NOT get a snow blower. Shoveling paths to the chicken and duck coops doesn't take *that* long and is serious exercise.

Now I'm being very exact on portion sizes (thank you awesome Eat-Smart kitchen scale.) Oh, I knew that an entire can of pringles shouldn't be a serving, but I sure didn't stop at 15 chips either.

Now, if I get fast food at all, it is only on Sunday and it is as part of the diet plan. Everything is added here on FS and has to fit within my calorie goals for the day.

I'm starting to find that my tastes are changing as I spend six days eating only healthier foods. The fast food meals are quickly losing their appeal. I used to love the McD breakfast burritos. Last time I had one is probably the last time I ever will have one. The shell is doughy and bland. Overall it was a very unsatisfying way to spend my calories.
tina10915

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Posted: 01 Jan 2013, 11:58
I think that you are right in many ways. I don't like to cook because of the dishes and mess after. I now know that even though it is just a little, it is exercise and I can do it. This feeling lazy has got to go. I need to clean house, do my laundry and make my house a home again that I like to come home to. Today is the first day of the rest of my life. I know it sounds a little cliche but it is true. Being in this forum has really given me something to look forward to. I now have people to talk to who are going through the same things. I look forward to new responses and new ideas. I want you all to share your new ideas and techniques so that each of us can benefit. I am making a statement today that I will not binge, I will document what I eat and activities as well as write every day in my journal. If someone needs support, I will be there to help any way I can. Happy New Year and a New lifestyle to you all!!
Tina

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RoundIsAShap...

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Posted: 01 Jan 2013, 22:13
Tina, it has been hard for me to change from doing things "tomorrow" to doing them when they should be done. I've also struggled with doing things to the point that they are "good enough" instead of doing them right.

I'm *trying* to learn to tell myself "This has to get done. I'll be happier if it gets done. It won't be easier if I wait. It won't save time if I wait. It will actually make my life less pleasant and maybe cause more work if I wait or take shortcuts."

The "am I just being lazy?" question has really helped me. I never thought of myself as lazy. But sometimes being "efficient" is really just being lazy.

Shoveling the other day was typical. The internal dialog was something along the lines of: "It's cold out. I'm tired. But it is such a PITA to get snow in your shoes when walking to the coop. Well, I could just shovel a little path to the coop. But isn't it a waste of time to shovel just a little path to the chicken coop? We'll still get snow down our shoes walking around the coop.

"So maybe it would be better to wait until I have time to shovel out around it and clear out in front of the doors on both sides? Do I really not have enough time right NOW to do it right? (No) Is there actually any real benefit to waiting? (No) Will I be glad it is done if I do it? (Yes) Will the wife? (YES) Could it be even more work if I wait (Yes, it might snow more.) Is there actually anything keeping me from doing it now... other than the fact that I don't really want to? (No) Crap! I guess I better do it now. At least I can count it as exercise on FS."
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Posted: 02 Jan 2013, 09:54
LOL at the capital "YES" I got on "Will the wife?" question Wink Gee you would think my husband KNOWS me or something lol I guess after being married for 25 years he may.
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Posted: 03 Jan 2013, 10:29
You two are funny!! It is nice to see a couple who have been married 25 years to be able to laugh at each other. I was married for 15. I couldn't do it any longer. I will marry my best friend next time.
I feel like I am making excuses but with my knee in the shape that it is in, I am having a hard time telling myself I should do it now. I guess I am not lazy, I think it is just the depression I have, (I am on 3 antidepressants.) and the fact that I can't stand for very long makes it worse. I am going to, however, work on my dishes slowly. The son said he would put them away. I don't have to do them all at once, just a few at a time.
Tina

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Kildayan

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Posted: 03 Jan 2013, 19:07
Tina, I pull a chair up to the sink to do dishes. My older kids think it's funny (my father-in-law thinks it's lazy) but the sink is too low for me. My back doesn't like me to be bent over the thing for an hour or two.
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Posted: 03 Jan 2013, 19:09
Hey hun...your post showed up under me for some reason Wink LOL
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Posted: 03 Jan 2013, 19:26
Yeah.. I was in under your login. Doh!