jaime30024's Journal, 15 November 2012

Excellent loss! I have an 18 yr-old daughter in her first year of college in Oregon. She was procrastinating last night, asking me how to get past it and write the research paper due soon. I told her, "think about coming back home and working in Wal-Mart." (She hates Wal-Mart). I think that did it, a little negative, but it worked. I wonder if you need to let your daughter fail so she will push herself next time? 

That's a great loss, Jamie! Good job, you! :D I think you'll actually enjoy this day of fast. I did get hungry, but it kinda felt good to be hungry lol. I got a lot of things done around the house, that's for sure, and it was kinda nice not to wonder about what I was gonna eat. I think you'll not have any problem getting to your goal weight by Christmas. Ya know, every day that we do this, we learn a little something. Whether it's that we have more willpower than we thought, or how certain foods react in our bodies, we're always learning. And the more we learn, the more we change and grow, and the more successful we become in accomplishing what we've set out to do. I don't even wanna think about how long I'm gonna have to push my kids. They're 14 and barely know up from down half the time, much less what direction they want their future to go in. They had a book report due last Thursday. The Monday night before, neither of them had even read their book. Guess who read the books. I can only imagine how frustrating it is for you. Hang in there, girl! It's surely gotta get better at some point! :) 

Jaime... YAY! on the loss! Enjoy your dinner out and stick to the plan you're going in there with. Also, remember that PF Changs foods are super high in sodium so even if you stay on track, you may show gains tomorrow, if you go in remembering that, you will be less likely to stress in the morning. My kids are DS4 and DD6. My daughter is very independent, she starts her homework as soon as she gets in from school. My son is not the biggest fan of school and this is his first year where they disguise learning as play time. He's probably the one I am going to have to be pushing all the time. lol. My parents got lucky with me and my brothers, we were all super motivated and responsible and maybe a little fearful of getting in trouble with my stepdad. There was never any procrastination in our house growing up. lol.  

Thank you both for the comments I really appreciate them and it means a lot. My daugther actually went and ran again today which is good. That is one of the things she has been procrastinating about. She has a perfect runners body and her goal has been that she wants to join the Army Reserves and get her LPN. She went and talked to them and got all the information and everything. Been studying on her ASVAB and then just stopped. Other things more fun than studying and then I talked to her last week and she said that she was concerned at running 2 miles in 10 minutes. She used to run the 800 meter in school and cross country. I told her just get out there and do it and see where she is and then work from there. So today she actually did it. I had a talk with her told her that she was 19-1/2 and has a full-time job but cannot afford to live on her on. She has her own car that is in her name and she makes her payments and pays her bills, but with a car note and insurance for a 19 year old well doesn't leave a lot of money. I asked her where does she want to be when she is 20...wouldn't it be nice to have your own little studio apartment and come and go as you want. Right now it is our house...our rules. She said yes that is what she wants...so we will see. Yes I will be drinking the bullet proof coffee and get my work out in today and then get ready for dinner out. I feel in control since I already know what I can have; it makes it easier when you can plan on that in advance. 

Thanks Christie! Oh my word...I know! I saw my sodium once I entered my food and nearly stroked! So I will be drinking water water today and tonight. You are right if I have a gain I will not freak out about it Friday and will take it more seriously on Saturday when I hit the scale again! Thanks for the comment and the encouragement; I appreciate it! 

Great job Jamie!! Have a wonderful evening out tonight :) I have two boys - one is 20 and the other is 19 (both in college). My 20 yr old decided to make is own choice of moving out when he was 18 and it was over me wanting his room cleaned. I gave him 3 options - clean it, pay me rent to have to look at it, or move out. He chose to move out, I stuck to my guns of not backing down and it worked. He has matured quite a bit, I still have to give him a nudge especially when it comes to his schooling. He hates college, but will graduate next December and he had talked about quitting. If he does, there's nothing I can do, but I just encouraging him to stick it out and be positive for him. It's hard to watch them fail, but at the same time, I can remember making bad choices when I was that age - as long as they learn from it, that's what counts. At this point I do believe he is going to stick it out - I can only keep my fingers crossed. My 19 yr old, different story - very responsible, knows what he wants out of life and won't back down until he gets it (stubborn like his mom)lol. Right now he calls us his "roommates" since he drives back and forth to college. He knows what expenses he will have when he goes to grad school so he's enjoying the $$$ that he's making right now and getting things that he wants. 

Thank Mrs. H! My daughter pays rent and for her cell and her DVR box and her car and insurance and so forth. She has an idea of what it is like to live on her but living here it is still our house our rules. So she cannot just let her room turn into a pig sty...haha...or stay out until the wee hours of the morning. However, since she works the night shift that isn't much of an issue. She is very good at her job and I think she is making a good career choice but you know I think they have a hard time realizing that life is more than 'hanging out' and after work there are still responsibilities. It is kind of funny...they want so bad to be 18 and then they realize that we were telling them the TRUTH when we told them not to rush it....hahaha 

lol - you are absolutely right!! My oldest is now regretting to wanting to grow up so soon, he's even brought that point up to me lol. It sounds like she's a good kid and I bet she will make the right decisions (just not as soon as we moms like it to be) lol. 

Congrats on the loss Jamie!! Good luck on the fast day and enjoy dinner out tonight! Hope things get better with your daughter soon. 

Good job setting smaller goals....helps to keep the motivation going if the goal is right there in front of you where you know you can reach it within a reasonable amount of time. 

Thanks Rachel and Sandy!