Christina Maria Thompson's Journal, 20 April 2014

You should not need other people approval of confirmation of your success. You know what you have done and that should be all. Yes we are human and kind words are always appreciated but the lackof them should not be your justification for binging and sabotoging your success. Stand strong, do it for YOU and only you. Happy Easter to you too!  

I just went and read your profile and I can completely understand why this has happened to you. Is there not any support groups in your area you can join, in doing this you will learn to stop being the 'victim' , been there, left it and will never go back. d 

Chistina your situation I can really relate to as I often get this 'feeling' - my other half teases my excess weight whenever I am on a diet and strict exercise routine. Even if I do every effort to loose weight (and I do it with success) but such 'support' really depresses me and I am more inclined to binge and purge in those moments. But I think if nobody cares and notices, maybe one needs to 'ask for' a compliment and somehow encourage this support? Anyway we do it for our own sake, and no one else matters more than yourself and your optimistic set up. When you're happy everything around seems to brighten a bit :) Good luck Christina Maria!  

It takes confidence to give a compliment! I have had similar experiences and I have come to realize that when you make a positive change it can make people feel insecure about themselves. Keep up your healthy eating and losing weight and soon those people will start asking you what you are doing and why you look so good! 

who do you lose the weight for? don't answer straight away, really think about it!!! Because if you are waiting for external motivation you are probably not doing it for the right reasons, and you are bound to fail. Be your own BIG motivation, reward yourself, i often support my own weigh-in way before lots of people started reading my journals... You should be doing this FOR YOU, and nobody else has a rat's ass to do with it! 

Sometimes acknowledgement of a journal is random and is all about the timing of your post. Look at how many people saw your journal today and replied. Some journals will slip through the cracks but don’t be discouraged. We all need support from time to time. But when we don’t get it we can’t fall off the rails. We need to rejoice in our own accomplishments. You did amazing and now you need to get back on track so that you can have more moments to celebrate. We all are in support your progress and health.  

I understand your need for validation, but ultimately you have to do this for yourself. YOU are the only person that matters when it comes to your weight loss. How YOU feel about YOURSELF! People are very funny about weight loss. If they say something, some people take it the wrong way. If they don't, people take it the wrong way, lol! Some people need to lose 10lbs to see a difference, others need to lose 30 pounds or more before you see a difference. Ever person is difference. Take pride in your loss and remember you are doing this to be healthier, feel good about yourself and to live a long high quality life so you be around for you children and grand children. Get back on plan and take control again. You can do it! 

We do care - I filter journals for buddies so feel free to add me. Ultimately though, six pounds IRL is hard to recognize but sometimes just a different outfit will get you noticed. I'm sure your body noticed and thanked you and that's what it's all about, right? 

Six pounds when it comes off throughout the body can be hard to see. Don't be discouraged. They'll notice soon enough. The most important thing is that you know you have done it.  

As ChicaLean said, it is all about the timing of your posts. I have felt similar when no one responded to mine, only to have 4-5 people comment a couple days later. I click "like" on every single loss or maintain and I click "see more posts" at least 3-4 times every time I'm on. I do it because I want to put forth that much effort to feel like Karmically-speaking (as in "Karma", lol) people will do the same and my losses and feelings will be heard as well. I know that I put too much emphasis on whether people comment and I "own" that flaw in myself. Still, we are all on this site because we know that feeling supported will help get us through this journey. Thank you and everyone else for being there for me and you alike, and I for one understand that sometimes I get lots of love and sometimes it gets missed. 

Great job with the loss! But... don't let other people dictate how you feel about yourself! Nobody IRL said anything to me for the longest time. I seriously lost 30 pounds before it was acknowledged at work, I am at around 40 pounds lost (depending on the day) and I still hardly get any compliments. My husband has finally started commenting, but he does it in such a way it gets on my nerves. He thinks he is encouraging me, but it has the opposite affect. As for the FS board, definitely remember the posts on our homepage is "highlighted" posts for the day... some days your posts will be there, some days they won't. Friends should see your posts in their notification section, IF they know to check there (I didn't for the longest time). And as always, everyone posting pattern will depend on their mood and how busy they are. I try to read all posts from friends, but I certainly don't get to it every day even if I am really trying hard to keep up. As others have said, build a support group, here, AND IRL. My IRL support sucks right now, but my husband is TRYING and I have one co-worker who is great at cheering me on. Sometimes all it takes is finding that one person who knows how hard you are working and can find words of encouragement on a regular basis. Now... get back on track!!! 

Hi, Christina! If it's friends and family, remember they will see it soon enough and even if they never acknowledge it...this is for YOU! Also, there is definitely some lag in FatSecret posts and what gets rotated to the top of the Current Activity. I would suggest you also find a core group of Buddies that support you and that you can support. Go actively check out their journals, posts and comments or even drop them an Inbox line. It really does make a difference in being connected! :D 

I liken weight loss to learning guitar. (I teach guitar and have written several books on chord structure.) Students often don't see their progress. People around them often don't either, but I do because I know what to watch for. People don't see us losing weight either until we hit about 20 pounds lost. Just smile to yourself and say, "I'll show them. They'll see soon enough." As to responses here, I don't worry about it too much. I find I get better responses from what I write than from weight lost or gained.  

Agree with NorthernMusician completely. I find journaling quite cathartic (and much less expensive than a shrink)! :D Some folks never post in FS but are quick to respond to journals and posts. Plus, it's a good way to find like-minded Buddies who are following similar food plans. Whether that's Fasting, Atkins or whole foods - clean eating (like myself). There are people here who want to friend you and even more who are willing to help and support! 

i too agree with northern musician . One person who is seeing the change is yourself . So love yourself . If you dont , others wont . Most importantly I would like to ask is, do you want to just look good by loosing weight . there are several other health benefits associated with every pound of weight loss. OUR JOURNEY HERE IS HEALTHY LIVING AND WEIGHT LOSS IS SIMPLY A BYPRODUCT. focus on the bigger picture however difficult it is . all of us are there with you 

I did the same thing on Sunday as Saturday. I did have friends come and try to get me to drink with them as they were celebrating Easter. I just said a quick "no thank you" and went back to bed. The kids are out for Spring Break this week which means way too much company for me but I plan to get back on track today and not care if my hubby still calls me "fat" names because I'm doing this for ME not HIM anyways!!! :) Thank you so much for all your kind words and encouragement!!!!