Asarver's Journal, 22 December 2014

I'm sorry to hear that you haven't been feeling the best. I know exactly how you feel about not being able to control what you eat. The only way I'm able to eat the right things is to build a meal plan. Mine is on an excel spreadsheet! It took me a while to build it and I'm always tweaking it for optimization. I'm not sure if other people can "wing it" in their heads, but I can't and I think it sets you up for failure. Once you get on a healthy meal plan (hate the word diet) you'll start to recognize what an appropriate serving and/or meal is. I know women like to vent by talking about things so I hope you feel better about getting out how you are feeling. I definitely empathize with you, but guys try to fix things and think logically. Ask your man if he will help you with your meal plan and fitness. I'm sure he would jump at the chance to help. It will stoke his ego and let him feel like he's helping. Maybe that will help build a mutual journey for you guys. Trust me, your husband finds you attractive... it's part of why he married you! Guys are easy, just be direct with us and don't beat around the bush. If you want something specific just say exactly what's on your mind. If you want a dog to sit you say "sit!" Haha, guys often respond better to "sit" then emotional riddles ;-). Stay optimistic and objective!  

If you feel depressed talk to your doctor or someone who can be objective and unbiased...you do say you don't remember feeling this depressed before. As someone who has had anxiety attacks I can say it helps and isn't a bad thing, but a brave thing to do. 

Building a meal plan sounds like a really good idea. I did it once before but didn't continue with it because school started back up and that was stressful enough. Definitely going to start doing it again though! I asked my husband to help with the meal plan, and he said he would. :D Thank you for the advice! I've considered going to talk to someone, but I just feel silly. I feel like sometimes it is just all in my head. 

I am so with you on this. I have lost control of my eating and I hope to get back in control and thus lose some weight. You need to not beat yourself up, only a lb and I would be on cloud nine. I need to find some discipline and how to say NO. Happy New Year. 

Food was one of my triggers initially somehow though back then I didn't need to lose weight. I must have had an attack at mealtime and thought the lightheadedness was needing to eat not anxiety and programmed myself to expect it and would have one every meal for a while. Now that I have partially undignosed GI issues food is becoming stressful rather than a trigger again so no it isn't silly. Hopefully my new dr will diagnose the rest of my GI issues. I've never counted calories, just fat/cholesterol, salt, and at one point sugar (gestational diabetes) before using FS and I try to focus on you need more of this healthy stuff and less of that and wow I eat that more often than I realized. 

As someone who gave up softdrinks for 8 months while pregnant and again 4 months ago...the cravings will subside. Plus just dropping soft drinks when I had one can a day I dropped 10 pounds.  

It sounds like you have a good doctor, and I'm happy that you're being taken care of! I like your mindset though, I need to eat more healthy stuff and stop focusing on how much I eat and calorie amount and stuff. Congrats on giving up soft drinks! Were you drinking diet, or non diet? And did you find a substitute, or just kind of quit it cold turkey? I tried putting strawberries and lemon juice in seltzer water and it didn't taste too bad. I really like soda for the carbonation, so if I can find something that isn't unhealthy to put in seltzer water, I'll be golden. 

I cold turkeyed them once I found out I was pregnant. I drink green tea or water anymore as one of my diagnoses is I can't digest fructose, which causes IBS symptoms. I was never drinking them for the caffeine so much as something I liked the taste of. It was hard at times, but I managed. I don't like the taste anymore. Another time I had a 10 pound loss before I was pregnant when I stopped drinking it was coupled with starting to eat breakfast again and getting more protein with breakfast so I didn't have a sugar crash like was possible before as well. I never considered this being on a diet, just eating better after I'd gone up 2 panta sizes in less than a year and I wasn't going to make it 3. 

Same here. I don't do it for the caffeine, I absolute LOVE carbonation. Good job quitting it though! It's not easy quitting anything you like. Thank you for the encouragement though! 

It might take skipping a day then eventually two then once a week, but it'll get there. I only drank one a day though.