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A moment to vent (mom issues) :
This weekend is my birthday, and I'm going to be turning 32 (ugh, that number just keeps going up) and my mom wants to have a little birthday party while we do Easter..
- She asks what kind of cake do I want?
I don't want cake, cake is bad for me..
-How about cookies?
Can you make them with almond or coconut nut flour?
-well how about cupcakes then you can just have one?
Uhhhh, Chocolet cake is fine..
Why is it so against the "rules of a birthday" to not have something sugary.. I know I can cheat and just have it, but I don't want to.. I don't even want my kids eating cake.. It's just not good for anyone..
I know I should just be happy that someone is getting me a cake, I have a family that loves me, but my whole childhood and young life was junk food, processed food, unhealthy food.. I wish she'd stand next to me and help me on my journey not lead me down the alleys to junk food again..
Diet Calendar Entry for 29 March 2018:
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2356 kcal
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Fat: 124.40g | Prot: 130.04g | Carb: 189.13g.
Breakfast: Coffee-Mate Hazelnut Coffee Creamer, Folgers Breakfast Blend Coffee, Butter, Hormel Spam Classic, Sara Lee 45 Calories & Delightful 100% Whole Wheat Bread, Kraft Deli Deluxe American Cheese Slices, Egg. Lunch: Good Sense Raw Sunflower Seeds, Cottage Cheese, Skippy Creamy Peanut Butter, Welch's Grape Jelly, Pickles, Sara Lee 45 Calories & Delightful 100% Whole Wheat Bread. Dinner: TGI Friday's Queso Dip, Tortilla Corn Chips, Cooked Broccoli with Cheese Sauce, Chicken Breast. Snacks/Other: Chocolate Carry-Out Milk Shake. more...
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Sounds like my family 😐 good luck and hang in there 👊🏽
29 Mar 18 by member: RosieMullane
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why dont u bake a keto friendly cake together. let mom know , that will b ur birthday wish come true.. even a cheese cake , keto of course. if u enjoy cheesecake. think about it. hbd 🍰
29 Mar 18 by member: poison1vy
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Thats a tough one. Could you suggest that you have the party at your house or that you take charge of the catering? That way you will have some control and can make sure that you have something there you are happy to eat.
You will come across many occasions when people knowingly or otherwise try to sabotage your diet. Sometimes you will be able to sidestep, othertimes, not.
29 Mar 18 by member: Anne_145
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Just say no cake for me thanks
29 Mar 18 by member: icemyth
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Okay, I am the Mom of a 38 year old who lives with us and I confess I have been guilty of doing what your Mom is doing...she probably can't even believe people are using coconut flour. It sounds nutty to us old folks! (pun intended). Easter for years has just meant candy for the "kids" but this year I did not buy any candy, even resisted the coupon I have for Lindt Gold chocolate bunny. I told my daughter what I was not doing and she thanked me for supporting her weight loss effort. Moms can learn but it is not easy. May I suggest that you ask your Mom for a big, sugary hug from her while others eat the cake after you blow out the candles and they sing to you? Tell her that is all the sweets you need. She will adjust to the new way you are eating and trust me, all she wants is a way to tell you she loves you.
29 Mar 18 by member: Gingerk65
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Thank you so much everyone and @gingerk you are very right. I know she doesn't mean to be mean.. I'm going to try and just talk to her, unfortunately this year is already done (cake is bought) but for the future it will help. You guys are just wonderful to help me see things in a new light, thank you again
29 Mar 18 by member: Sakiewicz
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Yep, this year is done and now you have a year to show your Mom the new you! This time next year the results of your hard work will be obvious to everyone. Happy Birthday!
29 Mar 18 by member: Gingerk65
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I have the opposite problem to you. I know this sounds awful but my mum is mean and always has been. When I phone to organise a visit (rarely) she always says 'and there won't be any food' I think she presumes I will bring in loads of goodies for her benefit!
29 Mar 18 by member: Anne_145
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I agree with Icemyth, "No cake for me." I don't allow others to hold my emotions captive. I had a woman bring a box of cupcakes to work for my birthday. Everyone sang happy birthday and insisted that I should have one, and "one won't hurt." After politely yet firmly no thanks a few were applaud at my refusal of this kind gesture. Really? How kind is it to insist someone to violate their conscience? I'd hug her, tell her I love you, and say no cake please.
29 Mar 18 by member: adamevegod1
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It's really hard for society to separate food from celebration. Maybe if you can plan the meal, she can plan a small dessert that you can avoid or only have a bite. People will eventually realize this new you is here to stay and adjust!
29 Mar 18 by member: HBarney
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I did a delicious blackberry cobbler for my birthday. Was so yummy and not that bad for me. I decreased sugar in it. Good luck and happy Day to you!
29 Mar 18 by member: Congetta T
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A few things.
1. Tell her you would like Strawberry Shortcake...then just eat some berries with a tad of whipped cream
2. at least she remembered. Today is my Birthday and for friends and family who do not use Facebook to remind them won't remember. History has proven this. I'm fine (kind of) just forgetting about it.
29 Mar 18 by member: CleoDen
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@cleoden. HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I'm sorry you feel that way, everyone should be able to enjoy their birthday. But something small and special for yourself, you deserve it :) and thank you for your advice
29 Mar 18 by member: Sakiewicz
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Sugar is EVIL, just say no, you must break this sugar addiction. A little sugar is like a little boz for an alcoholic once you beat the addiction your whole life will be better
29 Mar 18 by member: gigs1968
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Whip cream, dark chocolate, almonds and or almond butter, blueberries, - Make that for her and show her you can be great without the sugar - I eat an ice cream here or there - gotta have 1 here or there - I got my mother in law educated and she actually is losing weight - Wants surgery on leg and had to get sugar down -
Almost there - Great post
29 Mar 18 by member: johnwentzville
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Happy Birthday! Hope your day is wonderful! Change your words from "I can't eat sweets" to "I don't eat sweets". It's mind changing-you are in control and not as if you are restricted.
29 Mar 18 by member: marshakanady
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