peppymint's Journal, 10 May 2012

Alright people. I'm back on track! I had my CrossFit class on Tuesday night, and I did my FIRST (assisted) pull up!!! I was so proud of myself! We were using these resistance bands to help us learn the proper kip pullup technique. I was SO excited when I did it. But I will say, my lats are seriously feeling it.. They're unbelievably sore!! I'm really loving CrossFit a lot. It is such a challenge and I always feel accomplished at the end of every workout. You surprise yourself with your capabilities.

I went to bikram yoga last night to try and stretch out a lot, but now I'm even more sore. It was a good class though. I went with a friend of mine who I haven't seen in a while, so it was nice to catch up!

Busy day today too... Full 9.5 hour work day, immediately followed by a volleyball game, probably go out and get food with the team, and then my last CrossFit intro class right after that! I have a feeling I'm going to sleep like a baby tonight!

On another note, I'm starting to get really upset with my boyfriend. He got turned down by every job he's interviewed with. I'm trying to be as understanding as possible and sympathize with him because he's taking it really personally, but he needs to snap out of it. He's circling into this depression and it's scaring me that he's just going to give up altogether. He's so smart and talented, and I know he just needs to keep looking for the right job, but he refuses to make concessions in what he's willing to look for. He refuses to take a pay cut, he refuses to change fields, but none of this is working. He needs to broaden his spectrum in order to find something, but he won't. And now he's giving up all together in actually job searching because 'if none of these people wanted to hire me, why would anyone else?' It's really upsetting to see him like this, and I want to be there for him, but where do I draw the line and start kicking his butt back into gear?

Diet Calendar Entry for 10 May 2012:
1362 kcal Fat: 39.26g | Prot: 86.24g | Carb: 163.53g.   Breakfast: Rice Krispies, Milk (2% Lowfat with Added Vitamin A). Lunch: Near East Rice, Chicken Breast, Broccoli. Dinner: alessi lentil soup, Strawberries, perdue chicken nuggets, honey wheat bread, peanut butter super chunk, concord grape jelly. Snacks/Other: Oikos Traditional Greek Yogurt - Raspberry, pretzel m&m. more...
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Cross fit sounds awesome. What a busy day today though!! That really stinks about the bf. Those situations are so hard, because it's almost like they need to realize things on their own and they just get frustrated hearing the truth from others. I hope you can find some middle ground to try and get through to him! 
10 May 12 by member: Bkeller1023
Unfortunately, it sounds like he will only snap out of it by kicking his own butt into gear. If he's stubburn (like my husband)-I've realized we can encourage but they have the bottom line. I hope he finds his way through it-I'm sure tons of people are struggling with job searching. It stinks that he's taking it personally but the truth is there aren't enough jobs out there. Give it time, hopefully he'll figure something out. I miss bikram yoga! I loved the good sweat/stretch. P.S. I like your multi-color combo. Have I influenced a trend? :) 
10 May 12 by member: Lindsay6384
Lindsay's a trend setter! And yes, I think he does need to realize it on his own. I just hate seeing him so down in the dumps. It's just my nature to try and pull him out of it, but we're both so stubborn. He wants nothing to do with my help because he wants to do things on my own, but I get annoyed when he rejects my help because I just want to make things easier on him. Vicious cycle :( But I'm hoping it's gets better. We're almost completing month 3 of unemployment :( 
10 May 12 by member: peppymint
Hmm. I want to word this right but I don't know if I can...Does he know he's smart and talented? If he is confident in his ablities, and has high self-esteem normally, and high expectations of himself this being unemployed has got to be a real blow to his ego. He won't want to settle for something beneath him; it compromises how he views himself. Does he LOVE his field so much that he can't imagine doing anything else? Or is it just that is what he got a degree in so that's where he thinks he has to stay? Is his educational background easily transferrable to a different field? 
10 May 12 by member: JessWhatINeeded
I think you worded it just right. And it's true, this has been a gigantic blow to his ego. He feels like he worked really hard to get up to this point in his career, and doesn't want to settle for anything less than he's worked for. That being said, the company he was working for (which he started at right out of school) is a very small company that puts a lot of work right on their new employees. He's done things in that job in 2 years that he would have had to work towards for 5 years at the bigger companies. I think this is the reason he's having trouble convincing employers that his experience is as good as it sounds. He really does love his field and doesn't want to change unless it's absolutely necessary. (we're both engineers so it's tough to switch to a different field). 
10 May 12 by member: peppymint
And to make it worse, the company he got laid off from was like a huge family. They all cared about each other and what they did. His boss even cried when he laid him off, so I think he doesn't feel good enough now. 
10 May 12 by member: peppymint
Part of being marketable in today's economy is being flexible. Engineering degrees get your foot in the door at most big companies, but once you've built up experience, you're expected to move into leadership positions anyway - and most leadership positions that have upward mobility opportunities - are outside your specialization. Employers are looking for versatile employees that can adapt to changing demands. I'm an engineer and haven't worked in the same environment for more than three years in a row. Every promotion has been a completely new learning experience. There is all kinds of opportunites for engineers: Design Engineers, Manufacturing Engineers, Civil Engineers, Mech & Electrical, 6 sigma Black Belts, etc. etc. He may have to take a pay cut to start, but if he's good, it's just an opportunity, not a dead end. IMHO.  
10 May 12 by member: DairyKing
DK, I agree with you 100%. I'm just trying to sway his opinion that way too.. 
10 May 12 by member: peppymint
I just went through this. I lost my job in Jan and immediately got out there and getting interviews actually went well but time and time again I was passed on. I think it was worse that not getting interviews. I was just past the 3 month mark when I registered with my 3rd temp agency and told them temp to perm only. (In the meantime I was going to do free training that NYS offers through the Dept of Labor for different computer programs I didn't know etc...) and then said that or long term (6 months at least) and I'd look while I worked. Thank god the first job she set me up with clicked and I go perm next week. Had to open up to get something. Yes I left a high paying HR job and took something that isn't as great but it's a wonderful group of people, less stress and I'm thinking it may have been for the best. 3 months is hard but I just left a job in HR and there are people that have been out a year or more and that's become the norm. It's scarey! I hope he see's an opportunity soon!  
10 May 12 by member: thynes
ugh guys are so stubborn and sensative!! Most people are having trouble finding a job in this economy so he shouldn't take it personal. He's just going through a phase right now, guys like to feel sorry for themselves. He will get over it and start searching again. As for you schedule, WOW you are a busy woman!! Good luck at your v-ball game =) 
10 May 12 by member: sjojos89
Thanks Staci! We've been kicking some serious butt lately, so I'm hoping it continues :) Only a half day of work tomorrow, and then I'm going shopping for some new summer work clothes! So excited! Time to get rid of the old crappy cheap stuff from college and invest in some good stuff! The BF is coming since he likes to help pick things out :) 
10 May 12 by member: peppymint


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