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My leg is feeling better today, still swollen, but no pain. I won't get a workout in today, so it will be another day of rest. Hopefully I can keep my eating in check to keep myself feeling good.
I've been stressing about the holidays, I'm sure there are many people in the same boat. I'm going to have a long rant now, just to get my thoughts out. My husband's family is all coming to our house the 22nd and through the 24th. There are six siblings and then spouses, families, and a couple of others that aren't blood related, but they're family, so we're going to have a house full and it will be noisy and busy. I stress because they never have a plan for anything until they get here, then I become the babysitter or have to tell the kids "no" because their parents get to our house and just let them run wild. We usually do his family Christmas over New Year's weekend because that's usually what works best, this year it's different. So, my family wants to get together on Christmas day, which is fine, but my brother refuses to be around my dad, so then we have to find time to spend with him. It's driving me crazy to try to do 2 Christmases with most of the same people. We're going to be so busy that weekend, and I work the day after Christmas, so I really don't want to run around all day. I'd like to spend some quiet time at home with my husband and kids. My dad had a stroke a few years ago, and I just don't think it's fair for him to sit home alone, with no one around for the holiday. I wish my brother would just take an hour and suck it up, so it's not such a pain. I keep telling myself though that if I suck it up for an hour and just go with my family to see my dad, then I'd be fine. Family drama! It all comes out at the holidays and I'm always in the middle, so it stresses me out. I'm really going to have to try hard to keep eating under control, and do workouts. I think the workouts will help with the stress. I also feel like at some point I'm going to explode at everyone, my brother probably taking the brunt, then because he holds a grudge, I'd never see him or his family again. So, I have to learn to hold my tongue and de-stress before that happens.
Anyway, de-stressing that's the plan. I know food won't help me, so I need to keep from eating the Christmas goodies that show up at the office, or at home, and do a workout. Kick stresses butt!
I hope everyone is having a great Thursday!!
Diet Calendar Entries for 14 December 2017:
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733 kcal
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Fat: 31.23g | Prot: 41.06g | Carb: 71.87g.
Breakfast: Great Value Strawberry Cream Cheese Spread, Egg, Sara Lee Blueberry Mini Bagels, Coffee (Brewed From Grounds, Decaffeinated), Nestle Peppermint Mocha Creamer. Lunch: Crystal Farms Reduced Fat Shredded Cheddar Cheese, Chili. Snacks/Other: Bear Naked Fit Granola - V'nilla Almond Crunch, Dole Crushed Pineapple in 100% Pineapple Juice, Celery, Taste of Inspirations All Natural Roasted Garlic Hummus, Cauliflower, Green Giant Fresh Baby Cut Carrots, Dannon Light & Fit Greek Yogurt - Vanilla (Cup). more...
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1889 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Desk Work - 8 hours, Resting - 8 hours, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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I hear you but! You are blessed, I am the only one left my parents are gone my sisters gone brothers gone. I don't want to say this wrong but be thankful you have them. Put the burden on your husband he can help organize and entertain, this will lessen your stress. I remember back in the day when my parents house was full of love life and noise! It brings a strong lump in my throut and tears in my eyes. Don't fret over it, some day they will be gone! Hang in there, your doing great!
14 Dec 17 by member: 8Patty
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You're right Patty. I need to just enjoy, I have a hard time with it. I think the frustration of my brother not wanting to be around my dad or have his kids around him, and my dad doesn't even know, is what really makes me upset, sad, frustrated... I need to just go over with my family and not think about what anyone else is doing, then show up at Christmas and enjoy that too. As for my husband helping, I've tried to get him to help, but his family pretty much drinks all day and night, and he thinks I'm just being mean if I try to get him to help me clean up, or if I tell him my frustrations. Then after it's all over, he can't believe the mess. I should just enjoy the time with the kids, but I'm always afraid I'll be the mean aunt because I didn't let them get away with murder while they were over. I am blessed, and I need to just keep reminding myself of that. Someday, when my dad is gone, I won't feel frustration of the 2 Christmases, I'll be wishing for them. Thanks for the reminder to be thankful Patty!!
14 Dec 17 by member: mars2kids
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Being older (I am certain of that), I have come to the realization that you can only go so far. The parents are also consenting adults and therefore, need to take responsibility for their offspring. That being said, you need to take care of YOU. You cannot be everything to everyone. Set up garbage cans outside (weather permitting), and say that if the house is not taken care of, they will not be taken care of. It is a hard thing to do and some members may not come back (oh, well, what a bummer), but my sweetheart you are neither the maid nor the entertainment committee. And actually, when you look back, you may actually have had a great time. If your husband has issues with this, you can step outside and remind him also that you are not the paid housekeeper and you can always hire a butler/maid service to take care of his relatives. As far as your family is concerned, your brother is also a consenting adult, and you need to do what make you feel good. I have gone through this all with 3 other siblings-one that just passed. And you know what, at the end of the day, you are the one that has to live with yourself!!! Have a great holiday and enjoy the times that others are willing to share with you. The rest, that will be their issue..
14 Dec 17 by member: clay pot baker
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