kbrammer's Journal, 26 September 2016

Have been doing well, was at Game yesterday, had a good breakfast, Kind bar instead of stadium food, kept hydrated (warm and sunny) and we WON!

For everyone struggling with weight (most of us here on Fat Secret) have done so most of our lives I am always amazed at how much someone who doesn't have to think about their weight views someone like me.

My neighbor went to the game with me, we hang out sometimes. She is super small, never has weighed more than 120 pounds her entire life. She says "let's have someone take a picture of us". Then she wants to see them (done on my phone) she says "wow I look really tiny compared to you". REALLY?

We go for happy hour "do you really want to eat that?" This is before my current commitment to AGAIN loose weight. "I never eat bread" ok, so I love warm sourdough bread-shoot me.

People like that used to really get to me, after she "uninvited" me to go with her for a weekend to their summer cabin because I don't get around well with a bum knee and said she was taking someone else "more athletic" I decided that calling her a "friend" really made no sense. Now I use her as an amusement-what will she say next?

Funny though we used to be drinking buddies, now that I don't drink wine she is constantly making excuses for how much she drinks.

I don't judge, I take everyone as they are, don't care if you are purple, gay, straight, male, female, we are all in this together.

I feel stronger and more empowered as a person knowing someone like my neighbor-long story short-love who you are and everyone around you!
218.6 lb Lost so far: 24.4 lb.    Still to go: 23.6 lb.    Diet followed 100%.

Diet Calendar Entries for 26 September 2016:
1362 kcal Fat: 45.62g | Prot: 91.00g | Carb: 139.85g.   Breakfast: Starbucks Reduced-Fat Turkey Bacon with Egg Whites on English Muffin, Starbucks Freshly Brewed Coffee (Grande), Land O'Lakes Mini Moos Half & Half Creamers. Lunch: Kashi Chicken Enchilada. Dinner: Birds Eye Steamfresh Mixed Vegetables, Birds Eye Voila! Chicken Alfredo. Snacks/Other: Metamucil Orange Smooth Multihealth Fiber, EAS AdvantEDGE Carb Control Shake - Chocolate Fudge, Kroger Carbmaster Peach Yogurt, Kroger Lowfat Cottage Cheese, Hill Country Fare Pecan Pieces. more...
2450 kcal Activities & Exercise: Sleeping - 8 hours, Resting - 15 hours and 40 minutes, Walking (slow) - 2/mph - 20 minutes. more...
steady weight

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Amen! nice post! 
26 Sep 16 by member: SjF60
I love to play with people like that. I'm like a cat with a ball of yarn. 
26 Sep 16 by member: PGM012197
I wouldn't even use her as "amusement" because she isn't worth one second of your time. Don't waste your life or any more time on this person. She is nothing but negative energy and serves no real positive purpose to be in your life. Kudos to you for giving up the alcohol. 
26 Sep 16 by member: Arabella66
Agree with Arabella! 
26 Sep 16 by member: Normadale
Actually, I think that someone who eats correctly/healthy is the perfect friend as you're less likely to eat irresponsibly when in their company. Getting thin is all about the good habits we establish, and you're more likely to get practice with a thin friend than an obese one. It's part of revamping your lifestyle. A smoker is going to have a much harder time quitting if they hang out with smoker friends than non-smokers. 
26 Sep 16 by member: soonsoonsoon
@soonsoonsoon....Who says she is eating "healthy" or "correctly?" Plus, she's into drinking alcohol and I don't see that as any kind of good example for anyone who is trying to improve his/her health. She definitely is NO good example of a friend. I don't know about you, but when did "happy hour" become healthy? Is "happy hour" promoting health? I don't think so. A friend should be supportive, not passive aggressive and cutting her friend with nasty remarks. Belittling people is couterproductive. If she was a REAL friend and really cared she surely wouldn't be promoting "happy hour." Instead she should of suggested an activity that they both can do AFTER she took her to her summer cabin. Then she could of suggested they make some nice, healthy dishes together. @Kbrammer......don't get used to her behavior; get rid of her.     
26 Sep 16 by member: Arabella66
Arabella has a monopoly on good replies in this thread.  
26 Sep 16 by member: @philrmcknight
So right Arabella!! And who says that healthy = thin. I really hate being around negative people. Especially when you should be having fun during happy hour!  
26 Sep 16 by member: wdbarker86
Hi, Kbrammer! I admire your relaxed and observational manner. It sounds like you are fully equipped to make your own decisions and that you have made meaningful life changes that you are able to maintain successfully in different situations and around varying influences. Kudos! It seems like so many of us are striving to get to that place. If it amuses you to go to the game with this person instead of going alone and that works for you, then I hope you have fun anytime you do that. She sounds rather insecure. Perhaps you are the one who will actually be a good influence on her, especially in the judgmental department. Thanks for sharing your experience and observations! 
26 Sep 16 by member: kpwcalories
@Kpwcalories........LOL. I think she is too....able to make her own decisions. Nothing wrong with looking at a situation and giving one's point of view. 
26 Sep 16 by member: Arabella66
Thank you everyone for your kind and thoughtful comments, the older I get the more philosophical I become when it comes to people and their behavior. I also get something from this relationship, amusement, it does make me think twice about some food choices and she brought the Kind bars to the game so I did't eat stadium food. Although I was tempted with the Garlic Fries, she wanted them and I said NO THANKS! 
27 Sep 16 by member: kbrammer
I honestly believe that some people like to have that one fat friend to make themselves look better when out in public. Sounds like she was one of those people. Sounds like relegating her to someone you do things with occasionally rather than a close friend is probably a healthy way to distance yourself from the behaviors without completely cutting someone out. And the way she makes excuses for her own drinking sounds like she feels some guilt that she may be drinking too much. Sounds like your modeling of a healthier lifestyle is making her think about her own.  
27 Sep 16 by member: kristyhalseth
^^Kristyhalseth. Maybe you both are using each other for amusement?  
27 Sep 16 by member: CCbabcock
Ccbabcock, I don't get your point. I'm not using anyone for amusement. I'm not the op.  
28 Sep 16 by member: kristyhalseth

     
 

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