wendyeriksen1's Journal, 20 September 2016

ITS ALL ABOUT INTEGRITY - and it's not about failure!

Last time I was here I shared that "Failure" as defined in the dictionary, is "A breakdown in the Area of Performance" - yet for some silly reason, when we get it "wrong" we all make it mean WE are the failure. Making ourselves the failure is a "disempowering context" or view.

Did you know it's possible to set yourself up for failure?

See if you can identify with this. You set your goals for the week, didn't get them done, made yourself wrong for it and made it mean you are a failure - especially if you put on weight. So you try even harder next week for the same result - another failure. Now you feel miserable and want to give up. After several weeks of this you now you have it that YOU are the failure, I am always the failure, I am no good at losing weight - and so it goes!! In fact, each week you "fail" you have more evidence to support your story that you are a failure! So might as well eat more chocolate - after all if we're going to be fat we might as well be fat and happy!

As a personal coach, I KNOW some of you will identify with this.

A couple of weeks ago, I took on coaching a number of people doing community projects, I also took on driving a friend of mine in to Melbourne in the morning and picking her up each night on Friday Saturday and Sunday, while working night shift and a few business appointments as well through the week etc. And I still planned to do the same amount of exercise that I normally do (which is starting to grow)and stick to my food plan. Well, how do you reckon' that all went?? About 2 days into my week when I missed my first of 4 gym sessions it occurred to me that my INTEGRITY (being my word)was about to take a hit. There was no way this was all going to happen and I even went over my calorie limit on 2 days because I was grabbing food at takeaways etc. The point is, I set myself up for this.

HIND SIGHT GIVES US 20/20 VISION

So I "failed" to get it all done. Am I a failure? NO. Am I responsible for the failure? YES! We can come up with all sorts of reasons why but the absolute straight of it is that if we don't do what we said we were going to do, we are 100% responsible.

So, I then took a look at what was missing that would have made a difference? Knowing I had a massive week coming up, I probably should have planned my week a bit better - maybe by cutting down the exercise I was going to do that week and I think planning my eating times a little better would have made a difference.

So last week, I really took on planning my exercise and meals in and around everything I have to do and what do you know - I got it all done.

I know you all have work and family stuff going on and we sometimes have absolutely no control how our week turns out. But take on having a look at what worked or didn't work in the past week as a way of empowering yourself, have a look at what was missing that might have made a difference, have a look at what you have to do this week and then plan around that. And it will either work or it wont, so do the same again the next week. This is a far more empowering context to live your life each week don't you think?

This week, I am taking on the following

Staying under 1900 calories per day (down from 2000)
Completing 3 gym sessions this week as follows;

Treadmill 25mins then 4k row then 100 stepups
Treadmill 20mins then 2k row then 100 stepups - would like to get this set to a 4k row as well
Back Ext 20 - up from 15 last week - try to increase to 25
Situps 25 - up from 20 last week
Bench press 20 x 20 - up from 1x30 last week - might try and increase the weight a bit as well
Leg Press 2 x 50 @ 46kgs - up from 1x100 at 40kgs last week
Pulldowns 20x20 @ 27kgs - 10 reps up on last week - was 1x25
Squats 20 - up from 15 last week
Plank 45secs - up from 35-40secs last week

Thank you for letting me share with you.

Listing my goals for the week brings them into existence and has me be accountable to you.

238.1 lb Lost so far: 32.2 lb.    Still to go: 39.7 lb.    Diet followed 100%.
losing 1.9 lb a week

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Great post... inspiring!  
20 Sep 16 by member: NeedANewBody
Thanks for those inspirational words!  
22 Sep 16 by member: Adalia Durron
Well done! This is good encouragement :) 
09 Oct 16 by member: spencerhastingss
Thanks for the encouragement. Positive self talk + planning recipe for success 
18 Oct 16 by member: mamma lee
Can never thank you enough for this post. When things aren't going the way I would like them to. I often read your post. It helps me step back and start planning for success. Thanks again  
01 Dec 16 by member: mamma lee

     
 

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