Missychick21's Journal, 11 November 2011

I've never had a brother, but I am under the impression it was their main goal to irritate their sisters. Seems likes he's doing what most brothers do. 

I agree with Icy - he is just being a Brother.  

Doesn't make it ok for him to be like that or to treat me that way. He is a lot of the reason for my low self esteem, he used to literally beat on me when we were younger. Brother or not I don't feel I deserve it.  

Hey MissyChick, You are right... You do not deserve to be treated like that. If he were my brother, I would shelve him (Keep him out of my bubble space until he can play nice.) and continue to surround yourself with others that are supportive and caring. When others (like your brother) act out like that, they are just plain angry with themselves and deflect it onto the ones closest to them. Just say, "I ain't gonna take it anymore, I deserve only the best"! Oh yeah... I support you and your new fitness game! Cheryl from CA 

Thanks Cherl, I hung up on him because he was being such a jerk. I don't live close to any family or friends besides my bf so it's hard to get support :( 

Cheryl* sorry missed the "y" 

Totally agree with Cheryl. Brothers can be irritating (I have a big brother who still swears I am adopted), but at this age should still show their love and support for you. If he hasn't matured to that point yet then let him simmer on the back burner. When you do go visit with your MEDIUM pants, let him eat his big ugly unsupportive words!!! :) Michelle 

He doesn't care how well I am doing, but oh well. I am becoming a better person. 

i think its great that you got a fitness game. It's a lot cheaper than buying a gym membership, and you can do it at home so its much easier to make time and work it into your schedule! 

His point is apparently that I should be able to exercise without a game or gym or anything, needing them makes me an idiot.  

I have been thinking about getting a fitness game, because the scoring/points/goals will motivate me. Whatever works for you! 

i dont think it makes you an idiot at all. if you have nothing to do, no gym or game or anything, how are you going to stay motivated? at least when you have the game you have it there at home and can do it multiple times a day if you want. don't let him bring you down, i think what you're doing is great! 

What's idiotic is playing the same shooting games over and over for hours on end. It's pointless and repetitive. It doesn't achieve anything.  

I asked him if I am supposed to just sit on my butt twidling my thumbs and he said that was what I should do. These are the reasons I have had such a hard time...no support and he's always talking me down caling me fat and lazy.  

He's calling you fat and lazy and expects you to sit around and do nothing? That's not logical. If he thinks your lazy, he should be encouraged that you're not. Oh, I can see it now, you thin and active will be the best way to prove him wrong. Don't give him the satisfaction of being right Missy, EVER.  

You'll probably never be good enough for him..I am sure after you are svelt and happy he will criticize you for being to sexy or some nonsense. Don't worry about him...he can only bring you down. 

I try to ignore him, I am the youngest of 6 kids and he's the one right before me so my whole life was with him. Now he's basically the only one that talks to me and family is everything to me. I have been trying to ignore all of his abuse since day one and it has been hard but I am holding strong (or at least mediocre with all the other crap going on) I have lost almost 25 pounds and my doctor had wanted 30 gone by the 1st of the year so I am making that a personal goal, I want to be down to 180. Less than 10 pounds to go...I can do it (I have to keep telling myself that) 

Missy, Just rounding back to your journal. We have to learn to deflect the negative (negative is our trigger and not our friend). And...In with the positive. That we are each unique and beautiful! Look...You have all of us with the similar goals who support each other through thick and thin, even when were down and off the wagon, there is someone who is reaching out giving a helping hand. I know for me, I have to get better in my head to go along with the getting better on the outside. Keep shining your light girlfriend! :) Cheryl from CA 

Thank you Cheryl, I practically live on this site. Without all my friends here I know there is no way I could make it... 

Missy, just so you know, Family are the people you choose to surround yourself with. They don't have to be blood relatives. I have more family in my friends than in my actual family. Family that is nothing but negative is not something you need.