Read up on codependence ...there is a great book out there called Fat is a Family Affair by Dr. Judi Hollis. If we can begin to understand our own family dynamics in a more clinical manner..we can move past these dustups more quickly.. it aids us in achieving the "gift of the 2nd thought"....for years I was dominated by other people's judgment....especially family....it's our own judgments that matter..
And it helps me to remember too..when I can..that we have all been programmed wrong by people who were programmed wrong....
To thine own self be true...pray for them...and let it go..
26 Jul 16 by member: DianneGardner
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Thanks, and Hollis is my maiden name! 😉
BTW
My husband did tell his sisters neither of their husbands are here so they can't say anything. Also his parents were not home when I left so there were no extra hands to watch the kids. Once I found out his mom didn't sleep good that explained a lot. She was on the warpath with everything that day. So that helped me move on.
26 Jul 16 by member: AngGoc79
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Thanks for sharing...I have played both roles..the one making judgments and the one being judged..most of the time I just need to mind my own business and leave other people the hell alone...most adults do not need my micromanaging tendencies in their lives...need to keep the focus on Dianne.
26 Jul 16 by member: DianneGardner
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You did good honey. No weapons were pulled :) or entire cakes eaten. :)
XXOO Dianne
26 Jul 16 by member: DianneGardner
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Just remember that you can't control other people's behaviour...you can only control your reaction to it. You did good and should be proud.
26 Jul 16 by member: Gillian622
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26 Jul 16 by member: chesgreen
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People can be so silly. You went for a quick ride and they are blowing the situation totally out of proportion. Don't worry about what they think.
26 Jul 16 by member: Engeland
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