downs82's Journal, 10 February 2016

I lost a lot of weight so I'm speaking from experience. Losing 5 or 10 lbs for a 100 lb person is 5-10% of their body weight. The math gets way harder at this point. They have to eat at least ~1200 calories but less than ~1300 (numbers fudged). This takes exponentially more discipline than a fat person losing 50 lbs or 100 lbs. When you get there you will know. I'm 145 and trying to get to 135 without losing all the muscle mass I've accumulated bulking. I might lose .1 lbs in a week and it's hard to tell if I'm even making progress. I have to work a lot harder with more precision measuring and tracking food and working out ALOT more and harder than an obese person to make gains. Sometimes looking at those people still getting their newb gains is tough. 

I weighted a whopping 150lbs ( at 40 weeks pregnant ) when I gave birth to my 3rd child (well it was whopping back then when I felt like a well but the weight didn't stay )I didnt start gaining weight till he was 2 years old but I didn't change my eating habits. I have been up and down for years now hit 170 again when my husband lost his job and all we ate were ramen noddles and I quit working out as much.... but for some reason still fit in a size 14 at 5'1" when the last time I was at 170 I wore a 18. I got down to 130 in 2013 I quit using the sight.I got there by eating less than 1000 cals a day. I also work out more now then I did then. ( I have never been 100 lbs nor do I want to be so I will never get "THERE" )....My friend trying to get down to 95lbs drinks heavy alcohols regular sodas, and eats what she wants BTW so it wont take that much discipline. If your 5ft tall the 97lbs is the safest BMI any less is underweight that is at 5ft I have seen people have goals that were less than a normal BMI. I think peoples goals need to be in normal range  

To be honest, I laughed at two different doctors, that said for me to lose weight. I am 6'7" tall and weigh 269 now, and am very close to 10 year lows. Now I weighed 220 for many years in my 20's, but I have lots of muscle from playing football, and I looked at my self today, and thought 255? Really? I am going to try and get there. I'm 65 years old now. 

If I understand you correctly, you are talking about the people that are at a healthy weight/bmi and still feel overweight and talk about how fat they are and how they need to lose weight? I have known people like this and it seems they have a distorted body image and are insecure. It's like they need reassurance all the time that they are NOT fat. Some have an eating disorder... 

Anorexic or bulimic behaviors/illnesses are, of course, worrisome, but I think there are online resources that actively encourage those behaviors. At least people don't seem to be doing that here. 

I have been steadily gaining 5 lbs a year since my kids left home. No more running around all day long. I have lost 14 lbs since 1/6 and have about 90 to go. This is a long term thing and I am not giving up. My husband of almost 30 years, has battled Cancer and high blood sugar issues, his courage has played a big role in my decision and so has my high blood pressure. For those who are serious and this isn't a fad, I support you and it doesn't matter what your reasons are. We are all in this. 

I have gal friends that do that, they're 120 and uber thin and have every guy that sees them going crazy over them, and there my 120 lbs. gal pals are hanging out with 208 me, grabbing at non-existent love handles complaining about how fat they are and it's like "Ummm....". On the other hand, I have a friend who is tipping the scale at 275 and I never comment on their weight, but if I happen to casually mention or imply that I'm dieting of working out trying to get in shape, they start in on me like I'm trying to imply there's something wrong with them and how much they weigh, and I'm like "Ummm.....".  

@HealthFreak100 I once had a friend complain about being fat at 105 lbs I mean she wouldn't stop it was when I was at my biggest, my husband actually had to say something to her and she replied "Oh it is ok for her to be fat it looks alright on her but I cant get fat" 

Downs82... I understand your feelings... But I guess skinny people can be insecure as us if they "feel" they don't look good in the mirror... most of the do, they just dont think they do I guess.... I would love to have THAT problem...lol 

@HealthFreak100, I laughed when I read your last post. About your friend's comments in front of you, and then your comments in front of your other (heavier) friend and how the whole situation was kinda so opposite...Anywho, I love that people are real on this site, real people with real weight loss goals. There aren't too many people coming on here with ANA/MIA intentions. Propbably if they openly did, they would be lectured off the site! LOL I am in recovery for EDNOS (met all the criteria for Anorexia Nervosa except being underweight or developing lanugo) and I think about food a lot all day. I am glad I found a site that I can log a socialize withOUT all the stigma 

I have been on and off here since 2010, but never socialized much, before that I was on slimfit and they closed down that websight that tracked your progress... I wish I would have that info back because I was on that sight for 2 years prior  

I have some very skinny runner friends. they complain that they are too fat... well I came to realize pain is realative... yes it's frustrating for old obese me... but that's my issue... that my insecurity and jealousy. they are in great shape and want to stay that way. I'm not even close. when they gain 5 pounds it can show and their clothes fit funny and they feel awful. when I gain 5 pounds I could have just eaten a peanut lol!! 5 pounds is nothing for me. so what I'm trying to say through all this rambling is that ya it sucks to hear as the overweight person... but they might actually feel very affected by the seemingly small amount of weight. just encourage her as you would anyone else to be the healthiest they can be and try not to take her struggles personally. you are you... you fight your own battles just as she does..... 

As one of those annoying skinny people who (hopefully infrequently) complain about their weight, I'll let you in on a secret... Skinny people are afraid of *the slow-creep*. Staying slim is never effortless, even for those who naturally tend towards being thin... Stress, not sleeping enough, not enough exercise, etc. can greatly influence health habits. In short, it's a control issue. It's not the weight gain itself that bothers me, so much as the lack of control it could signify.