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A word of caution: Take the high road, no matter what.
Recently, I had an experience with a co-worker that made me stop and take stock. She is a very insecure person who was maybe 40-50 lbs. overweight. She started a diet 6 weeks ago and has lost about 25 lbs. She is clearly feeling better and looking great! Before, she was sweet and thoughtful, understanding and a great resource for the department. With the weight loss, she seems to be gaining confidence, feeling more in control and powerful. However, I think she has a vengeful side that is starting to come out. Now, I see her taking her frustrations out on other women (skinnier women that I think she felt inferior to prior to losing the weight...) causing drama, pointing fingers, getting revenge, etc. I think she viewed the skinny women as a threat, and now that she has lost some weight, see's this as her chance to go toe-to-toe and stake out her territory. It's sad, really.
Moral of the story: take the high road, EVERY time. Enjoy your new body, feel good in your skin, but not at the expense of others. Even if you were ridiculed, made fun of, and made to feel very small, don't give in. The inner beauty of a gracious and kind heart looks good on anyone, no matter their size or shape. But a vindictive, hateful heart can make even the "hottest" woman totally undesirable and UGLY!!
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