gardengranny's Journal, 15 November 2015

Let me start by apologizing to dump on folks, whether anyone really cares or not. (don't know me so don't expect anyone to care) and not trying to be sarcastic either in that statement. Just need to vent.

I'm from the old school folks, turning 58 next month. Dated almost zilch as a young kid, met a man I loved and didn't have sex until marriage and never have had sex with anyone else.

Two days ago my husband of ALMOST 37 years walked out on me while I was out having lunch with my sister. He took everything as far as ALL our money, vehicle and such. I have the house and land which is paid for but not a dime and haven't worked in 2 years. He messed up then and lost our house. I cashed in my 401k and paid cash for our house. I haven't worked since due to my health has started to deteriorate. No medical insurance for me so only went to once when I had sinus infection and needed antibiotics. Have found out now that while I worked 12 hour shifts at night (he wasn't working due to breaking his back and got on ssd) he was spending that time on the computer deep in games, ADULT games. Oh and not to mention he spent 24 hours a day laying on the bed saying he couldn't do anything because of his back.

Long story short, (of course there is a lot more) he decided to leave me, his 3 children, grandchildren, one which he raised from birth, AND his OWN father who is 84, very bad heart condition and lives with us.

Also found out he is behind on the electric and water bill. He was in charge of paying them and that he let our house insurance drop. So now I'm not able to work, not on disability, no transportation, and lets face it, destitute. I CANNOT give up my home, its all I own and ever will. Oh and lest you wonder the INTERNET BILL is caught totally up. Of course since he was living his life there. Oh and was OVERDRAWING his checking account (closed mine when I lost my job) every single month because he was spending it online for his games and women I guess.

My conclusion is that he has become severely addicted to the game, one called "bloodline" or something like that and probably porn too. He took so little of what he owned, just made sure heu had birth certificate and his computer. And last but not least wouldn't take a shower for MONTHS and absolutely quit brushing his teeth...they turned green. Guess it would take him away from the game too long?

I will say that I am now leaning on the Lord to get me by moment by moment and DO intend to stay on the LCHF until my weight is good and hopefully won't need to take metformin or anything. Hoping the high blood pressure will be under control also.

Weigh in for my challenge will be Tuesday and as long as I can keep the net going I will continue to hang in there.

Thanks for reading this, just needed to vent so badly. I can't really talk to the kids about their dad, even though they are grown. Oh and he told our oldest daughter she was in charge of everything now. She is devastated and furious at her dad at the same time. God bless all. Psalm 18:2 The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer, My God, my rock, in whom I take refuge; My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.


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Wow, sorry life is throwing so much at you. Call around and find out what kind of help you can get. You might be able to get disability and other help. Does your father in law get social security? I will keep you in my thoughts. 
16 Nov 15 by member: Suzi161
so sorry. I will pray for you ,there are programs out there don't be afraid to ask for help .  
16 Nov 15 by member: Tamarah Jo
So sorry to hear all of that. You just remember "EVERYTHING happens for a reason", and it sounds like you are much better off without him. There is a greater prize waiting behind another door! Sending comforting hugs your way! 
16 Nov 15 by member: BulletProof3
I feel your pain through your writing. I am from the old school as well. Reach out to your church and check into whatever government programs you qualify for. You should be able to find someone to help establish assistance for your father-in-law. You should also look into the city or county you live in for work that fits your disabilities. Lots of hugs and prayers for you during this difficult time. 
16 Nov 15 by member: mammasix
OMG! I am so sorry. I know there is nothing I can do except pray fpr ypu and your family. 
16 Nov 15 by member: RickB58
Sorry to hear all of this . . . but I gotta ask two questions: 1) Why didn't you kick him out a long time ago?! 2) Who the heck would take his unshowered butt and green teeth?! 
16 Nov 15 by member: LessFatFor50
hope things get better for you.....kep your head up : )  
16 Nov 15 by member: notforlong
Blessings 
16 Nov 15 by member: HCB
I have seen this happen too often with older couples (and some younger). My husband and I are in the business of working at times with people with problems. If you don't already have a lawyer, you need a good, pit bull one. SHE will make sure his name is off of everything. Find a social worker who can help you apply for what you can. You might consider working from home, something like medical coding. The other ideas by those above are also good. Make sure if you have life insurance, his name as beneficiary is not on it but your daughters are. And you might consider downsizing your house or refinancing if you could get the loan. Does your father-in-law have a a retirement? He might could sign for you. There are options just out of the box ones. God bless you.  
17 Nov 15 by member: M. Mitchell

     
 

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