mars2kids's Journal, 13 October 2015

I'm stressed out today and it's like a Monday because I didn't work yesterday, which is good to have a long weekend, but bad because now I just have to do that much more at work today. Oh well, hopefully the day will fly by.

I've put this in a challenge post too (sorry buddies if you look at this twice) and it's not really diet or exercise related. My hubby and I have been trying to decide what to do for birth control and our options at this point are for one or the other of us to get "fixed". My depo shot is due again in November so we've been trying to decide which to do and now we are seriously considering the other option of having another child. We're struggling with completely ruling out having another child. I think we've always thought we'd have a "surprise" baby and for a while it was scary, and now the financial aspect is scary but the raising a child aspect isn't so scary. The biggest thing holding us up right now is the financial part of it. Day care, diapers, formula, clothes, furniture, car seat, toys, etc., nothing is cheap. Luckily my insurance would pay for any prenatal visits, but ultrasounds and a hospital stay we'd have to pay for.

There are other things holding us back right now like we can just grab the kids and go somewhere if we wanted, but you can't do that with a baby. We'd be older when our kids were all graduated. There's a big gap between our older children and if we have a baby. Starting all over would be hard, no sleep, raising a 2 and 3 year old again, potty training.

We just don't know what to do. How do you weigh the pros and cons? I guess the financial aspect right now is what we need to focus on, everything else just falls into place. Our kids have already said they want another sibling because we have a lot of young nieces right now on my hubby's side and 1 on my side. I don't know, one minute I'm for it and the next I'm saying why would we do that? There will have to be a lot more discussion on the topic with my hubby soon, or this will weigh on me and I know it's weighing on him.

Sorry to those who stuck through this whole thing, it's long and drawn out. I just feel better to get it off my chest than let it fester. If anyone has any personal experience, advice, comments, etc., please feel free to tell me.

I hope everyone has a great day!!

Diet Calendar Entries for 13 October 2015:
1812 kcal Fat: 66.30g | Prot: 91.16g | Carb: 229.84g.   Breakfast: Post Great Grains Crunchy Pecans Cereal, Silk Pure Almond Milk - Unsweetened Vanilla, Coffee (Brewed From Grounds, Decaffeinated), Nestle Peppermint Mocha Creamer. Lunch: Onions, Great Value Romaine Lettuce, Cherry Tomatoes, Sargento Reduced Fat Colby-Jack Shredded Cheese, Earth's Pride Organics Baby-Cut Carrots, Mahatma Natural Whole Grain Brown Rice, Salsa Chicken. Dinner: Hidden Valley Light Ranch Salad Dressing, Tostitos Medium Salsa, Kirkwood Southwestern Grilled Chicken Breast Strips, Sargento Reduced Fat 4 Cheese Mexican Cheese, Mission Foods Mission Burrito 10" Flour Tortilla. Snacks/Other: Hershey's Milk Chocolate Bar with Almonds, Great Value Mountain Trail Mix, Peach. more...
1835 kcal Activities & Exercise: Desk Work - 10 hours, Resting - 6 hours, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...

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I told my sister when she was thinking of having a fourth child, and putting up similar arguments to you, if you really want another child you will find a way of coping. And she did! There is a gap of 5 yrs between the youngest 2. 
13 Oct 15 by member: eclipsesolaire
So I had a big thing typed, but deleted it because I don't want to sound negative. I'll just say this. I am past the baby phase and it's a good thing, because the factory is closed. However, I had to be certain I felt that way before I had surgery. If you have any thoughts about wanting more children, do not make any permanent decisions, or you might regret it. Sometimes, you don't realize how much you want something until the option is gone. I think the best way to decide if you want more children is to imagine how you would feel if you couldn't have any more. Would you be relieved? Or would you feel cheated? That will give you your answer. :) 
14 Oct 15 by member: hollipop
No need to stress about it, there is no time limit on this. You are still young, your biological clock is not ticking away. If you do decide on surgery let/make your husband do it. It's much more easier, not very painful and can be reversable. With women it's much more complicated and permanent. 
14 Oct 15 by member: snezica

     
 

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