anibat49's Journal, 28 August 2015

I feel so lost.

Part of it is that I am so worried. Where did all my selfconfidence go?
I just feel like a useless blob.
I have a beautiful 14 year younger partner and sometimes I do wonder what she is doing being with me, she could leave any day.


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I know exactly how you are feeling because I'm feeling the same. I feel like I've robbed my husband of the person he married.  
28 Aug 15 by member: Halloweencats
Good to know I am not on my own in my worries :) 
28 Aug 15 by member: anibat49
Your weight does not define who you are,, your partners love you for who you are both of you . Do this for yourselves . Choose Happy ! get to a better place and make healthy choices,, you are only on this earth for a short time . WE are here for you!! what do you need ? 
28 Aug 15 by member: Tamarah Jo
Thank you Tamarah. I hear what your saying and I know you are right. But sometimes its difficult to ignore the niggling voice of doubt. I try my best not to listen to it.  
28 Aug 15 by member: anibat49
I know what you're feeling. My husband is 5 years younger than me and I often wonder if my weight gets in the way. He tells me he loves me no matter what I look like and I believe him. I just wish I could believe it myself. Be strong and believe in yourself and you'll get to where you want to be. Your partner loves you for who you are, not what you look like. 
28 Aug 15 by member: mickfan1
She probably just loves you. Isn't that the craziest thing? Just love? :) <3 
28 Aug 15 by member: fitfatty
You are making an effort to find yourself and lose weight; that's step 1. The happiness and self confidence comes from sticking with it. You can do this! We've all had those what does he/she see in me moments but relationships are based on so much more than weight and you know that. Drink a glass of water and take a walk.  
28 Aug 15 by member: DebMora
Thank you :) all your kind words really motivate me :) 
28 Aug 15 by member: anibat49
The hardest step is always the first one. The hardest time is always the first two to three weeks. Once you go past these everything goes easier. And as soon as you start seeing results well, that will be a huge boost to both your confidence and your self esteem. As for your partner, she just loves you the way you are, and losing weight should not be just for her to like you, it should be so you are healthy to share many, many more years with her! 
28 Aug 15 by member: Zatskya
First step is to acknowledge how you feel about yourself and your body. Second step is to do something about it. It seems, you are already on your way to becoming a better you. If you feel lost, post something here and we will walk along home with you! 
28 Aug 15 by member: augustbutler
Wow. I am overwelmed. Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine so many people to read what I write. Thank you :) 
28 Aug 15 by member: anibat49
Up and down - but do not worry - there is a reason your partner is with you - and you will, no doubt, find the strength to power through these down moments. If it is weight loss that is making you feel less confident - well, we have only ourselves to motivate ourselves. :) You can do it - there are plenty of folks here that will help! 
28 Aug 15 by member: br_e_co

     
 

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