evelyn64's Journal, 09 August 2009

Daisy was a family member and it will take a lot of time to get past this for you. I still to this day find tears in my eyes when I talk about my dogs that have passed even though it is over 30 years for some. I so understand your pain at losing her and I also understand you having problems with your eating right now. Try to remember what you did that was successful in helping you lose weight in the past and then do that now. You will return to your eating and exercise plans. You have had a lot of company, maybe soon you can get some free time for you, have fun in NY. And no need to apologize, we all get busy and we do journals when we can. ((hugs)) 

Take as much time for yourself to grieve. It's different for everyone. Thanks for the update. All this company is a good and bad thing rolled into one! It won't last forever and you'll get back to your routine very soon.  

It is going to take time to get through the grieving process. You must take all the time you need and eventually it will be okay. Good idea trying to just maintain while going through all the company and trips. It's just too hard to lose during these times, and NYC has fabulous food!!! If you can manage to maintain and not gain any weight after going through all that you'll be in GOOD shape! Good luck, and keep hanging in there. :) 

You're doing great considering. I know it will continue to take time to get used to... my poor Syd still cries about our Lacey, a few times a week. Time is all that will help and for her, it'll take even longer, as she doesn't want to let it go. Tough cookie to crack, I tell ya. I bought a special dog bone shaped frame to paint and put a pic of our Lacey in. Maybe making some special memory frame or memoriblia will help for you too. (hugs) 

My heart aches for you...I hope you start feeling better soon while still keeping your memories close to your heart. Good job on still eating better and not giving into emotional eating and good job on getting back to running too. Maybe the company will distract you a little from your pain? Take care.... 

((((hugs)))) I'm sorry you're still hurting, but I sure do understand. Those little reminders of Daisy will still happen even years down the road, but eventually they will bring a smile or even a feeling of joy for the time you had with her - instead of pain and sadness. When I was having a particularly hard time with losing a cat, I wrote an "I remember...." list and wrote out all the memories I could think of about him - our cutesy names for him, funny things he did, how we got him, etc. It helped me and I had something to look at down the road. I hope you feel better soon.  

Oh Evelyn...I'm so so sorry you're having a hard time. I think sometimes part of the grieving process is talking to someone about it, or in your case on here, writing about it. So you're doing the right thing by coming on here and telling us about how you're doing. I like Amy's suggestion. I suppose the only thing to do is remember all the good times with Daisy. You are doing great if you're maintaining during this time. Like I said before, I save the bulk of MY points for dinner, too, so that seems to work out for me. Glad you're doing that also. ((((hugs)))) 

aww dear friend, I so feel your pain and loss!! This must be one of the hardest time I imagine..Wish I could do something to relieve your pain and help you feel better...I'm sending you my love, strength, and hope for a peaceful goodbye.  

missing you 

I've been not checking in lately either, but wanted to see how you are doing. It will be a long time that your heart will ache with losing Daisy. She was part of the family so it should be that way. It sure hurts though and I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you are enjoying the rest of your company and then can get back on track in the fall. The summer really can throw a wrench in any progress!! 

miss you. thinking of you and hoping you're doing ok..sending you my strength and peace. hope you feel better soon. Make sure you don't let your sorrow undo all your good work on the diet and exercise!!!! hugs!!!! 

Just wanted to pop in and let you know I'm thinking about you. I hope you're doing well. It's awful losing an animal, they are a part of your family!  

I miss you, Evelyn. Come back to us, Ev! Snap out of it, my friend! ((HUGS)) 

Evelyn reading the first paragraph of your journal reminded me so much of when I lost my Diva girl. I had the opposite reaction with food-I would go to toss her a treat as I was cooking and then realized no one was there to catch it. It is good that you give yourself time. It has been some 5 years since I lost my girl and there are still times when I tear up. My little Riley has helped heal my heart but it was almost 2 years before I got him. The dog I got before him is one I tried to have fill my Diva's "paws" and it just did not work because I realized too late I wanted her to be Diva and she just is not-she is her opposite! How unfair I was to her even though I thought I was doing us both a favor because I rescued her from the cage she was living in and brought her home. My son loves her dearly so she gets all the attention in the world but I often think of how selfish I was in getting her too soon. You are so smart to take the time you need! I hope your heart heals and you take time for yourself for as long as you need to do so. {{{{hugs}}}} 

Where are you Evelyn, it's not like you to just disappear like that? 

I hope you bounce back soon Evenlyn. Losing a pet is sooo hard and she was beautiful, but please don't let that sabotage all your hard work. I miss reading your inspirational journals!! 

Hope you're okay and at least enjoyed your trip to NY. Check in????