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I'm a little sad today. Sometimes there just seems to be so much pressure from all sides with spouse, children and so many hats to wear. Plus, I watched some 'food' movies last night and all the substantiating data for this diet or that is so conflicted it's ridiculous! So, I'm just sticking to my whole food guns. I believe that real food in appropriate portions will do the trick. I want to learn how to eat and live more than doing something quick that just drops pounds now. I know this is my personal journey and that I can't live for anyone else, but leaving other people in your life behind is more than a notion and causes tremendous guilt for me. (I don't know why, but it does). Worse yet, I think my husband likes it that way...me guilty and thinking for everybody in the house. He is a diabetic and swings from being very supportive and wanting to exercise to really not giving a flip and doing things that seem like personal attacks against my mental and physical progress. Most days are good days for me and I'm a pretty upbeat person. But this is our third day of wintry rain, no sun, feeling annoyed and all I want to do is cry. And that, of course, makes me jump wildly from not having the energy to eat a thing and wanting to make mashed potatoes and bake a chocolate cake. My husband skipped breakfast again this morning with a curt, "oh well" attitude. Why the heck am I upset?!?!? This is some real, mental bs going on right now. He'll come around...probably by the end of the evening. Unfortunately, by then, my day is shot and it takes me even more than a day to recover. What gives?!?!? This is usually where I just give up and decide it's not the right time in my life to lose weight or work on me. But this time, at 43, I have no more not-this-times left. :(
Diet Calendar Entry for 12 March 2015:
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1506 kcal
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Fat: 71.58g | Prot: 87.47g | Carb: 143.15g.
Breakfast: Baby Spinach, La Ranchera Wheat Tortilla - Original, Egg, Simply Natural Organic Medium Salsa, Sam's Choice Purified Drinking Water (20 oz), Sea Salt, Fage Total Greek Strained Yogurt. Lunch: Whole Foods Market Wild Alaskan Sockeye Salmon Fillets, Sweet Balsamic Vinaigrette, Sam's Choice Purified Drinking Water (20 oz), Happy Farms Preferred Crumbled Feta Cheese, Private Selection Organic Baby Spinach, Baby Beets (Peeled and Steamed), Quinoa (Cooked). Dinner: Ground Turkey & Black Bean Enchiladas. Snacks/Other: Balsamic Macerated Berries and Mint, Fruit Salad (without Citrus Fruits), Coconut Almond Lemon Zest Poundcake. more...
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I've been where you are. As hard as it is (and it IS...takes a lot of practice), the only one you have control over is you. You can only encourage others and put good parameters in place. His choices are his. It helps to think of it like putting on your own air mask first in a plane. You can't be there for those you love until you take care of you. You'll burn out or get sick. I know it feels selfish but you have to "do you." He will do it or he won't but you can't make him. It's just really, really hard...PM/buddy request me if you'd like.
12 Mar 15 by member: newnormal
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DO not give your husband power over YOUR feelings! You have goodness inside there - let it shine through!
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I totally support you. I am just going to be saying what you already know but maybe a little reinforcing you might help. This is your life!! Let him (DH)do what he do what he wants but don't let him bring you down. You can't change him except maybe by example. Most people don't like to be pushed and will push back with attitude, etc. BUT...you can change yourself! Please don't wait until you are older to get healthier. It will be harder and more frustrating!! There will always be stress factors in your life and pressure from other people. Whole foods in appropriate portions is the way to go. I would also mention that balancing those whole foods in a way that will help your body lose weight. Some people do better with more fat, others more protein, still others do better with more veggie carbs. It is a good idea to limit the grain carbs. It is your body, use the trial and error to see what works for you and your life style, budget, etc. If you have a day where you go off track, just get back on the next meal. Don't stress, food should be fun. Make it a game on how you are going to stay under your RDI and it won't seem like work!!
12 Mar 15 by member: kattay
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I know you guys are right (and yes, Kattay, I appreciate your words because faith comes by hearing). I haven't been pushing DH, just doing my thing and I sincerely think he finds 'my thing' annoying. I'll get over this hump but it's almost...dare I say it...shocking to know that you and your spouse can be on such drastically different pages. No one is more shocked than I that someone else dictates my feelings and my day...that's just not me. It's kinda twisted that the only positive opinion I probably give any true credence is the one that's not forthcoming. How messed up is that (lol)! I SO appreciate FS. Just typing it all out keeps me out of the kitchen. Seems that's the one place that helps me process my thoughts. Things just become clearer as I stir and whip and shake. I'll will be making my organic body lotion cause at least I can't eat it!
12 Mar 15 by member: LuC2
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People are funny they want to support you in your weight lose, but they don't know how to act when you start doing it. They are use to you always being one way and when you change they are not sure how to act or how you'll act, so they start sabotaging you don't let the, and they may not even realize they are doing it. I lost a lot of friends when I went from the biggest in the group to the smallest, so be true to you make you happy and the ones that matter will be happy for you. Good luck
12 Mar 15 by member: Diana91263
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Are you married to my ex?
12 Mar 15 by member: BuffyBear
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Nope (lol), maybe his doppelganger! Lordy help! There's two of 'em :)
12 Mar 15 by member: LuC2
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Sometimes it takes awhile for the SO to get used to even good changes. He will adjust if your relationship is strong. My last DH was totally threatened by my losing weight years back. He added that to his list of things to argue. He always said "a poor man chases a bag of bones". Guess he was thinking he was rich :) Of course, I'll never be a bag of bones!! He is now with a woman who is larger than I was at my top weight. I hope he appreciates her more than he did me. I learned from my past experiences, don't put your feelings or health on the back burner, you are just as important as your family.
12 Mar 15 by member: kattay
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I totally understand the pressure and wearing multiple hats. You need to do what is best for you and hopefully your hubby will too before it's too late for him. Chin up you got this!
12 Mar 15 by member: skwhite
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Thanks, y'all, I really appreciate having folks around that "get" it. As expected, all is well now and smiles abound; but, of course, I had a very trying day and felt a lot of stress. Instead of eating EVERYTHING I didn't eat to much of anything, but I think I'm okay kcal wise.
12 Mar 15 by member: LuC2
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Lots of us have a "significant other" who doesn't want to eat healthy. It's a struggle. Hang in there.
13 Mar 15 by member: Deb_N
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