It's hard to find someone who will appreciate you and be always there for you. That's why I ditch the so called friends that don't treat me nicely. Maybe your daughter thought you will be going with a friend and didn't want to bother you. I hope she appreciates you because you are a wonderful, caring person.
28 Oct 14 by member: snezica
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Sorry Bella, but I can relate. My family sometimes forgets to call this gramma, too. I've gotten so that I basically invite myself, call and ask if it's ok. They normally say yes or are honest about their other plans. I used to feel sorry for me, no more, they often have good intentions but get busy with the chaos of children, work, etc. Glad your bike ride eased the stress.
28 Oct 14 by member: wholefoodnut
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I was up today at 3am also- it's 8:30 now and I'm tired. I feel like I've put in a full day and I've barely started. SOunds like you ended a truly crappy evening on a high note. I vote for a nap- lets do it...we deserve a nap. At about 4;30 am it occurred to me that on a day with poor sleep its so easy to eat badly. You just aren't thinking the way you would if you had a full night's sleep. I have no idea how people function in an ongoing way on so little sleep.
28 Oct 14 by member: sharonfriz
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ah.... c'est la vie, huh? Sometimes are good, some not so good. Thanks for sharing. sending love.
28 Oct 14 by member: Sweet Ce
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Well I'm glad a little bike riding with Mushy was able to calm the rage for awhile - I hate those days when things just snowball one on top of the other... I agree that you need to take some time off for yourself today, have a little nap if you can... :)
28 Oct 14 by member: erika2633
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Sounds like quite the day and night Bella. A shame that people can't be as thoughtful as we are.. lol Glad you got out for a ride to blow off some steam and a wonderful bath with Lush bath bombs always does it for me. Have a great day Bella!!
28 Oct 14 by member: chattycathy1955
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I had that same angry day Saturday. Everything made me mad, including Daisy when her tiny self went chasing another dog and broke her leash. Larry asked me what was wrong and ALL my recent woes came out. I was crying hysterically and didn't know why. I have given up trying to get my daughter to take me to the dr, or even to just visit, and figured out how to do it on the bus. Accomplishment. I'm glad you found a way to relax.
28 Oct 14 by member: msbuggirl
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Wow! You survived another day! Thank God and Mushy and baths and bikes! You did manage to control the volcano pretty well; congrats for getting through it all.
Today's another day and hopefully, those games are over! Hang in there, Bella; you'll get through this too. Onward!!
28 Oct 14 by member: kclab
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You can move to upstate NY and we will adopt you. Only down side is you will suddenly be surrounded by cow pies and crazed tiny people yelling Bombine?!?!?! Upside is chicken bbqs are huge around here. They're healthier than speghetti dinners but the fancy onces come with a twinkie or moonpie for dessert. Don't worry though.. I can eat the twinkie for you. :) Now I want a twinkie.. Hope your day goes better today!
28 Oct 14 by member: Ms Elizabeth
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Angel, I'm trying to remember our baseball team metaphor, but my failing memory has gotten the best of me again! But with only 2 outs in the inning, you were still at bat and you put it to the perfect use hitting a home run with your biking & bathing. I've never been a bath taker, but the book I've been reading by Dr Hyman suggests a detox bath each evening. I'm thinking it might be time to at least give it a try, especially on those nights I find myself home alone. And, once again, you're inspiring me... thanks for taking me out to the ball game with you! xoxox
28 Oct 14 by member: Ruhu
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Thanks everyone. With all this extra 'awake' time I have been trying to sort thru the 'why do I even freaking CARE' vs 'why aren't I just doing like Jeri and saying 'uhm, what time are WE going' and then even 'what's w/all the ugly things you're forming in the head B.. do you think trying to hurt her back will yield anything positive?' Just now I recognized a weird emotional reaction when my UPS driver told me he may get a new route in Feb. I am feeling abandoned. Alone. I mean, it's the UPS driver for heaven's sake and you'd think he'd just asked for a divorce. There's something going on with me. Needs more work. I have been doing the detox baths nightly (epsom, baking soda, lavender) so I must be the most un-intoxicated person in North America. Well, I think I'll go find some lunch. Breakfast. Brunch? Had 2 cookies at the Senior expo and blood sugar was still only 89. Not bad.
28 Oct 14 by member: FullaBella
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I'm having a shitacular day myself, so thanks for sharing as always to help us not feel alone in our fleeting misery. Tomorrow is another day, and I hope it's much kinder to you.
28 Oct 14 by member: Josie Ann
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We all are a work in progress, whether we admit it or not. I try really hard not to take anything too personally. Not that it works all the time, or most of the time. My kids hurt me the worse because I expected more from them. Not that they do it on purpose, just because I am me, and they get so involved in their own immediate lives. I am on the outside, looking in at a diorama, not really a part of their ongoing saga. Such is the life of a Nana. But, when they do include me in something I am so ecstatic! I don't want to invite myself and put them through the agony of "do I hurt her feelings" or "have to put up with her". Yep, its me but I don't want to feel as if I am a "third wheel" or not wanted at that particular time. Thankfully, I never get bored with myself :) I am a procrastinator so I always have proects to do! We all need to find our detox.
28 Oct 14 by member: kattay
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The bike ride was a good idea! Nothing better than getting out on a nice day. I have the RLS problem too but mine is related to anemia. If you haven't been checked for that you might want to see if that is the problem. I know that isn't the fix for everyone but it was for me. Take care
28 Oct 14 by member: SJacqueline
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Kattay, I think it depends on your kids and their spouses. 2 of my daughters I just call and sort of invite myself. Their spouse are good friends. I know a lot of their friends, some are good friends of mine now, and they know they won't hurt my feeling if they say no, they have other plans. We've talked about this because their dad (my ex) doesn't bother. He waits to always be invited and then whines at them if he misses something. My third DD her spouse is still upset with me because I bought her a plane ticket to come here and stay with me when she left him a couple years ago, they worked things so far, but I'm still the bad guy. So no don't do that with them, I don't went to cause issue for her.
28 Oct 14 by member: wholefoodnut
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Kattay, agreed we are works in progress just like my house LOL
28 Oct 14 by member: wholefoodnut
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Thanks wholefoodnut! I will try to be more like you and invite myself instead of giving into my self doubt. By the way, I meant to type "projects". Hopefully, anyone who read my paragraph knew what I meant:)
28 Oct 14 by member: kattay
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Good advice from all. Today I continued with the quiet self reflection of my feeling toward it all as well as biting my tongue from going off on her. Again, I knew hurting her because she hurt me wouldn't make her love me so I just went about my life. And I guess Angels answered my question of 'what to do' when she arrived this evening with a gift basket that had little things like a daily inspirational calendar, etc. I asked 'is there something you need to tell me' and she said 'no, she just saw it and thought of me'. Whether that's the case or she heard me screeching last night or just cosmic intervention, I'll never know. But for today, tonight, I will go to bed with a lighter heart. Not that I can be bought off with a gift basket. Just, I feel better not being mean to someone just because I felt they were being mean excluding me. And we live to improve another day.
28 Oct 14 by member: FullaBella
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28 Oct 14 by member: Sweet Ce
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Awe, that was so nice of her to do give you the basket. Whether it more for her to feel better or not. Nice gesture. You are a good soul. Angels are with you.
28 Oct 14 by member: kattay
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