FitOKay's Journal, 17 September 2014

How has everyone's week been so far?

I've been scarce. Worked Saturday and Sunday then have been/will be working overnights Mon-Thurs, then will work Saturday and Sunday again. So technically have Friday off but since I will be getting off work between 4 and 6am or so on Friday morning it probably won't feel like I have any days off on this 9 day stretch =p Then still homeschooling and just very tired this week. My husband was off Tuesday and will be off Thursday. He tried to do Homeschool while I slept Tuesday but it just wasn't working out that well and I ended up finishing the homeschool for the day. I did manage to sleep from a little after 6am to 11am, so 5hrs isn't bad.

Warning, Mini Vent from an Autistic Child's Mom about her Husband (I love my husband, but he knows better)- I took Tris to Tae Kwon Do yesterday evening for the first time this school year (3rd class this year). Found out that Dad hadn't been making him do the stretching that they are suppose to do during class. He kept arguing with me about why he didn't want to do it. Then when I took him out and told him if he couldn't do the stretching and kept arguing we would have to go- because I wouldn't be able to trust he wouldn't argue with his teacher and not do what he was suppose to be if he was going to argue with his mother about it. He said he would but when we went back in class he told me his knees hurt too bad to stretch (the growth disorder causes some joint issues, but like with any child Tris is not above seeing what he can get away with using it as an excuse). So we got his shoes and left. This of course immediately changed his tune to "I want to stretch, I want to stay" etc... But at this point we'd been struggling over this for 15 minutes and I not going to give in (plus giving in would have cemented the fact that he can get what he wants by arguing and protesting). I found out that the reason Tris was so set on arguing me around was that my husband had been letting him argue him around both classes last week. If hubby had just been firm that he had to do it that very first class it never would have been an issue.

Tris will argue about things but as long as you are firm from the get go he'll do it the way it's being presented as is. In the same form, if you buckle at the get go when he doesn't want to do something that becomes the new way of dealing with it for him. Like any autistic child Tris does not like doing new things or any change in routine. In the Jr Tae Kwon Do class the instructor led stretching, so doing it himself was just outside his comfort zone and too different from the routine of the last two years. If you firmly establish the new routine at the get go it's ok. Sometime that requires a breakdown the first day and then moving past it. With a non autistic child (like our youngest) I understand that maybe allowing them to not do the new thing the first day and ease into the new routine would be a kindness. It's not a kindness with Tristian though- it's establishing the norm for that class and then makes it that much harder to get him comfortable doing it the right way.

So instead of a normal breakdown last week at the change we had a major breakdown this week because we were effectively changing two routine norms now. Of course that was fantastic when we were suppose to be at a going away party during his class for a co-worker. So instead we had to deal with the breakdown, call my parents and pray they could watch him (they could) get him there and then get to the get together half an hour late. Then leave there, go pick up the boys, go home, get ready for work and then go work overnight. After waking up too early in the morning and finishing homeschool. Then Trevor is out of town today at a business meeting so I'm doing homeschool from the get go today and am just totally exhausted. I did leave at 3am last night so I got about another 5hrs of sleep today. Could be worse. Luckily the hours aren't written in stone.

I use to be a GM manager at another store in the same chain and the store we are at now recently had a lot of management change-over. The result is a lot of things having not been done (or done correctly) for way too long. So I am helping the GM here to cycle count overnight and try to get that under control befor the official inventory. The inventory is way out of control, I do not envy the GM manager here at all. The last manager seems to have had a serious issue with not knowing when to pass up a 'good deal' and the result is way too many items with no place to put them and no way to market them all effectively. It's going to take a lot of work to get that under control and probably another person, at least. I would be lying if I didn't say I was glad that person is not going to be me and those days are behind me ;-)

Anyways, so this week is really really exhausting and I've got 5 days to go. I think I may work our hours around so that we have Monday as a day off school... even homeschool mom's need a teachers work day... right? Lol, except it would just be a sleep in and go play at the park day ;-)

Hope everyone is having a great day!

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