M.H.'s Journal, 23 July 2014

Well venting again I did some binging last night over stress. I think things are going to get a bit more interesting in the next couple days as my longest daughter(12yrs) who has been living with her father for two years now is in town visiting her grand parents. No one reall told us it was a sure thing. I was called by them now to say so, but I haven't heard anything from my girl. I can only imagine what kind of nonsense she has been fed while living with her father. We do talk as often as I can reach her but she never has much to say. In the end it isn't really any kind of shock though. I will not stoop to the level her father has, I never have and never will. Though there could be plenty to say and she has tried to get in fights with me to get me to say something but I won't do it. I'm going to be dining on my tong a lot I fear but nothing new there. The whole scenario has always made it hard for us as there is always meddling happening. Her grand father told her back when she was 3 that if my husband and I got married that she would never she her dad again. She was worried and acting out for weeks thinking we were getting a divorce as she always called my husband (who raised her from 4 months old) dad. Come on she was 3! So in general it has been a constant battle to keep peace.
As it wasn't me that brought her into town to visit; I asked if she could come over and visit this weekend as I don't want to take the time away from her grand parents. So I hope that her fathers parents won't have a problem. I just have to stay focused and not let my emotions get the better of me now. All of this and financial stress, and trying to finish my school course! I need a slice of cake... and a rock to crawl under.

Diet Calendar Entries for 23 July 2014:
934 kcal Fat: 34.83g | Prot: 31.16g | Carb: 107.62g.   Breakfast: in house/tea large coffee/tea. Lunch: Kraft Asian Sesame Signature Salad Dressing, Mann's Sugar Snap Peas, in house/tea large coffee/tea. Dinner: Raisins (Seedless), Mixed Salad Greens, Kraft Raspberry Vinaigrette, in house/tea large coffee/tea, Ice Cream Sandwich, Lilydale Chicken Breast Boneless Skinless. more...
2853 kcal Activities & Exercise: Sitting - 4 hours, Resting - 7 hours and 55 minutes, Sleeping - 7 hours and 30 minutes, Walking (slow) - 2/mph - 35 minutes, Driving - 20 minutes, Exercise machine (slow) - 40 minutes, Housework - 3 hours. more...

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You sure are going through some stress. I do hope that you get to visit with your daughter, and I am proud of you for taking the high road, because a lot of people wouldn't and that only causes more pain for the children. Kudos !!!  
23 Jul 14 by member: SherrieC
Thanks it really isn't easy. I was fed crap as a kid so I know that it won't make a difference anyway. I found out for myself in the end that might have been true to some extent but kids just don't need to have an opinion fed to them from a bias party. 
23 Jul 14 by member: M.H.
Be strong M.H. It sounds like a tough and unfair struggle for both you and your daughter. I hope you get to spend quality time with her and that it goes well. Just let her know as best as you can that you love her. And put that cake down! Believe me it’s not going to help like you think.  
23 Jul 14 by member: ChicaLean
LOL! thanks chinalean:) I have put the cake down at least for today and most of yesterday. I'm trying to be positive and I will pull myself through with out having to regret something I hope. 
24 Jul 14 by member: M.H.
Shame on the father and grandparents telling your daughter negative stuff about you or your husband. That is just selfish and unfair to her. Usually as kids get older they learn to see the truth for themselves. Keep to the high road, I'm sure that your daughter will recognize and appreciate that as time goes on. 
24 Jul 14 by member: jmb3450
I hope you get to see your daughter and have a chance to make her time with you special, so she will know that your love is always there and she will be eager to speak to you more on the phone.  
25 Jul 14 by member: Deb_N
Thanks every one of you for your support. 
28 Jul 14 by member: M.H.

     
 

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